If you think your partner doesn’t have time for an affair, think again

[toooldforthisshite]

They will find a way. Even the most seemingly gentle, respectable guy, you know, the one who everyone says ‘he would never’. They do.
They will invite their side bit to their work during work hours if necessary to avoid having to make excuses as to why they are late home. They will wait for you to fall asleep then start chatting to her. They will delete every message they receive or send.

...or not, not everyone has an affair.

I am so sorry dear. Hope you have a good, supportive group of family and friends to get you through the hurt, trauma and betrayal. ❤

Sorry you’re having a shift time but not all men behave in this way, just as not all women do either. It’s a huge generalisation.

I found out on the day that my partner of 20 years died that he was having an affair when the hospital gave me his phone back. He was retired and saw her while I was at work. Texted her in the evening in bed telling me he was reading the news. They will manage if they want to. Anyone will.

Bloody hell @Scot75 😳 wow. Sorry you had to go through that at that point in life. You couldn’t even get any closure from having it out with him.
Hope you’ve managed to find a peace with it all 💐

Don’t kid yourself. If it’s on offer they will take it.

Clearly you’re having a tough time of it at the moment but you just can’t say that.

Your partner has had an affair. That does not mean that all men will.

@Scot75 exactly!
im sorry that’s awful. Did you find some closure so how?

I'm sorry you're having a hard time.

Whilst plenty of men, and women, do have affairs it's also important to remember many don't and wouldn't. Not all men cheat just like not all women cheat.

All men, and all women, will cheat given the right combination of circumstances.

@Spookysnake 100% of the time if right/circumstances in life etc and they think they can get away with it, even if it’s a quick one time thing. People shouldn’t be so naive to think it wouldn’t happen.

What’s the right combination of circumstances though ??

I’m married over 20 years, never had an affair, never even thought about it and can’t imagine I ever will. Probably because I’m happy with my circumstances.

It's a very painful truth to face up to; much more comfortable to take refuge in "not all men".

Right combination of circumstances - time, place, person, opportunity. No one is immune.

I do agree with OP that given the right conditions anyone (male or female) is capable of an affair. Even people here who think they could never do it . I don't just mean an opportunity, most people can resist that, but opportunity coming at a stressful time of life, during a rough patch with a partner, a shared trauma etc etc. Anyone.

And yes, there's nothing like an affair to make people capable of finding time.

Even if that was the case, would it make you feel better? That it’s all men and not specifically yours? If so, why?

If people don't cheat, it's because they've never encountered sufficient temptation. It's nothing to do with their moral worth or love for their spouses.

This is just not true. Some people do follow their own moral codes.

Nope.

Yep, people will find a way to what they want to do. Nobody is "too busy" for anything.

Ahh ... It's only men that we should all be wary of then ?

No, it just means they've never met the "right" combination of circumstances. Most people wouldn't cheat just because they can. Everyone one is capable of it when faced with enough driving factors.

@wildfirewonder not so, you can follow your moral compass for decades then slip - even if it’s an inappropriate kiss or a couple of quick sessions, doesn’t have to be a full blown affair.

@toooldforthisshite I'm sorry you've been cheated on, possibly by several people, and you're right that if someone wants to they will, but not everyone wants to. Not everyone is just waiting for a chance to fuck someone else. I don't think you can ever say 100 % someone wouldn't because you don't know how life will change, but that isn't the same as every wants to and everyone will.

I can guarantee, 100% a high proportion of those people who say their OH would never cheat/has never cheated, are wrong.