If you think your partner doesn’t have time for an affair, think again

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They will find a way. Even the most seemingly gentle, respectable guy, you know, the one who everyone says ‘he would never’. They do.
They will invite their side bit to their work during work hours if necessary to avoid having to make excuses as to why they are late home. They will wait for you to fall asleep then start chatting to her. They will delete every message they receive or send.

We all derive value from others maybe some are more susceptible to ulterior validation.

If you're not being treated well in your relationship, is it really ulterior to seek the validation elsewhere? You're not getting it where you should be. (Did you mean exterior? Same goes.)

@PyongyangKipperbang I agree with every word you said- you can have a fantastic relationship, 100% trust , a great life -and yet still your partner can go and do something completely twatty and totally out of character. Sometimes it's a particular time when things aren't going well for them in work or family situation or sometimes things are going amazingly and ego gets out of hand. My H was disgusted at himself (not as much as I was with him though) and put his EA all down to wanting a pleasant 'distraction' when his mum was terminally ill. It was very much of a 'time and situation' -still doesn't mean I will ever really forgive or forget if I'm honest- I'm not wanting it to happen to people, wouldn't wish it on anyone, I just think it's naive to think it couldn't possibly happen to you because your relationship is rock solid-

Exactly this!!

Both can fit neatly. Often the motivation is unknown. We're guessing.
It might be validation, it might well be irresistible looks and charm, or it might be the circumstance. Often work environments can be a breeding ground for planting the seeds if one's boundaries are poor. It also might well be deliberate a selfish act like my ex.

I still believe some heads can not and will not be turned whatever the temptation or circumstance.

I still believe some heads can not and will not be turned whatever the temptation or circumstance.

That is absolutely true. Only you'll never know which heads.

If an other woman took interest in OH he'd think there was something wrong. He's not a people person.

I agree.

Maybe society should agree to an insurance policy to mitigate losses from affairs.

How would that work, HarryPewter? How can losses be mitigated? They can be quantified at the solicitors in terms of couples splitting up but we enter into relationships at our own risk and there's no 'insurance' available for that either.

The very best insurance is for women to earn/have their own money, careers/jobs and property. Everything else is secondary. That's what I think anyway. I don't understand why women trust men as much as they do given that there is so much evidence to support the notion that they are not always trustworthy and added to that, are often completely unfair when caught.

I wouldn't ever put a man in charge of my life and wellbeing.