If you're not wanting any or any more children as a couple, has your man's had the snip?

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Interested as it seems that the onus of prevention still seems to be on women, even in this day and age, and with all of the options available to men.

I've just had THE lightbulb moment that it's all been on me, when it would actually have been so much easier if my male partner had taken some responsibility

Yep
I had a mirena coil after DC 3, got pregnant and early miscarriage so we decided to muck around with his bits instead.
he did experience painful torsion which was problematic for a couple of years but amazingly didn’t moan about it!

Ermm just because some of us think differently to you doesn't mean we're doormats! I've had cancer and it's always in the back of my mind that it could come back, leaving DH a widower. I don't need to "get a fucking grip" thank you.

Yep. Done after two kids so he had the snip. I’ve taken care of contraception for 12 years plus carried two babies and birthed them! Tbf we didn’t even argue, he willingly did it as he said the procedure for sterilizing a woman is a lot more invasive.

Yes after number 3 he did. I was surprised he agreed to cause he’s abit of a sook with anything medical and previously had always refused to even talk about it. He did have it done under a general though so cost a lot more.

Yes, we had 2 dc and I had a mirena. It failed, and he had a vasectomy when I was 6 months pregnant, mainly as I was really ill in pregnancy and had already been recommended not to get pg again.

Dc3 has been the light of our lives and we're so glad we had her, she's 19 now!

He’s booked in to have it in a few months. His idea completely. We’ve recently had our second, his fourth, and we’re done. I’ve had 7 pregnancies, 5 mcs, surgeries for two of those, a load of drugs to keep the two pregnancies that stuck, two complicated sections. I never wanted to go back on the pill after first DC and we happily used condoms till ttc the recent one and I’d have gone back to them but we won’t have to soon 🙌

He was told it’s non surgical and the risk is under 1% of issues afterwards, this is on the NHS. I’ve managed to fall foul of the risks with most of what’s happened me since we started trying to have babies, he appreciates that.

I'm impressed that with a 14 month old and a 4 month old, you and your husband managed to find the time and energy to have sex

We used condoms.

Yes. I’ve had 4 caesareans, it’s the least he could do lol.

My d.h volunteered to get one done, but I said I may as well get sterilized when they do my c-section. So that's worked for us.

XH refused to get the snip, as we knew of 3 babies born post snip.

We used condoms instead.

@AnotherEmma so am I 😁 they're all grown up now, 14, 15 and 16.. .. thank God.

And some do.

Nope wouldn't want him to and not on contraceptives as I was ill on them.

Yep after 3rd DC was born, he volunteered to have it done. DD3 was an accidental pregnancy - love her to bits, but we both knew we definitely didn’t want any more. We were in our 40s. No regrets, it’s great.

I'm far from a doormat. He offered, I decided otherwise. We are all allowed to do things our own way to suit our own circumstances without being called a doormat!

Yes he did after number 3. Life off the pill is so much more enjoyable!

He’s having the snip next month. I’ve tried lots of contraception over the years and nothing works that doesn’t give me bad side affects in one way or another. So now we’re done having babies it seems the most logical thing to do. I’ve had natural births, c sections, miscarriages, then from being on birth control, irregular bleeding, bad moods, weight gain, spots.. I’ve been through quite enough, in my opinion it’s the least he could do.