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Man ive been on 2 dates with has updated his OLD profile

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Hotvimto3 · 18/04/2023 22:05

Just that... two dates, daily phone calls and texting. Forming a nice friendship, attraction there ... we both said. Just saw online that hes updated his dating profile with all new pictures. Its a delete and block now isnt it?

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Greensleevevssnotnose · 18/04/2023 22:06

Why?

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Hotvimto3 · 18/04/2023 22:06

Because hes looking for someone else???

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Greensleevevssnotnose · 18/04/2023 22:06

I dated multiple people when old, profile updated as I go

TorviShieldMaiden · 18/04/2023 22:09

I dated several people at once until anything was made exclusive? Two dates isn’t enough to stop using the apps.

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Hotvimto3 · 18/04/2023 22:11

Wouldnt you think it was updated to attract other people? So whilst spinning a yarn to me about wanting to meet up/not play games he is playing games?

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Hotvimto3 · 18/04/2023 22:12

TorviShieldMaiden · 18/04/2023 22:09

I dated several people at once until anything was made exclusive? Two dates isn’t enough to stop using the apps.

I know. I have done in the past too. Think ive just fallen for the whole 'this one is different' and I really liked him. I know its only 2 dates, im annoyed with myself for caring tbh.

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SophiaElizabethGrace · 18/04/2023 22:12

I know may sound crazy but I would delete. In my (huge) experience of OLD , it only ever really means one thing, he's just not into you. I personally wouldn't waste anymore time.

DHsPoorBack · 18/04/2023 22:13

I'm on the fence with this one.

If I'd met someone and thought there was potential, then I wouldn't be thinking about rehashing my profile, I'd be seeing how things went, before I start trying to attract new people that I wouldn't need.

But then I categorically wouldn't date more than one person at a time, that gives me the ick. Just personal preference. If a guy told me he was dating other people, he wouldn't be dating me any more.

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Hotvimto3 · 18/04/2023 22:13

SophiaElizabethGrace · 18/04/2023 22:12

I know may sound crazy but I would delete. In my (huge) experience of OLD , it only ever really means one thing, he's just not into you. I personally wouldn't waste anymore time.

I feel this way

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snoopyscarp · 18/04/2023 22:14

SophiaElizabethGrace · 18/04/2023 22:12

I know may sound crazy but I would delete. In my (huge) experience of OLD , it only ever really means one thing, he's just not into you. I personally wouldn't waste anymore time.

I agree.

FiddleLeaf · 18/04/2023 22:14

SophiaElizabethGrace · 18/04/2023 22:12

I know may sound crazy but I would delete. In my (huge) experience of OLD , it only ever really means one thing, he's just not into you. I personally wouldn't waste anymore time.

I agree with this. If he could see things developing why actively be on the hunt?

GreenwichOrTwicks · 18/04/2023 22:17

Yes it is one thing to retain the profile but entirely different to update with new pics.

Dotcheck · 18/04/2023 22:19

But it’s only been 2 dates!!! 1) A bit premature to think ‘this one is different’ and 2) what if he just needs more time to work out if you’re a keeper or not?

And you had gone on the app…? Was that to check on him or to check out more options?

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Hotvimto3 · 18/04/2023 22:19

Ive deleted the app and his number. Hes literally rang me daily for weeks. They are all full of crap arent they.

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Shoemadlady · 18/04/2023 22:19

It's two dates and you're not exclusive. I think you need to chill a bit. If you want to drive him away with neediness and possessiveness you're going the right way about it.

TheOGCCL · 18/04/2023 22:19

Yeah that’s way off. Equivalent of talking to you at a party but looking past you to see if anyone better is about.

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Hotvimto3 · 18/04/2023 22:20

Dotcheck · 18/04/2023 22:19

But it’s only been 2 dates!!! 1) A bit premature to think ‘this one is different’ and 2) what if he just needs more time to work out if you’re a keeper or not?

And you had gone on the app…? Was that to check on him or to check out more options?

To check on him ha

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Hotvimto3 · 18/04/2023 22:21

Shoemadlady · 18/04/2023 22:19

It's two dates and you're not exclusive. I think you need to chill a bit. If you want to drive him away with neediness and possessiveness you're going the right way about it.

Oh well, too late ha.

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validnumber · 18/04/2023 22:21

I agree with you.
Id delete too.
It doesn't matter what anyone else says - you're the one in the relationship.
Next!

AHelpfulHand · 18/04/2023 22:22

He’s been forming a bond with you for weeks.

updating his online profile should be the last thing on his mind

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Hotvimto3 · 18/04/2023 22:23

AHelpfulHand · 18/04/2023 22:22

He’s been forming a bond with you for weeks.

updating his online profile should be the last thing on his mind

Thats what i thought

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Farmerama1 · 18/04/2023 22:24

I’ve no experience of OD but go with your gut.

tiredofallthecrap · 18/04/2023 22:26

Normally on Mumsnet, everyone talks about multiple dating for ages and not having any expectations until you're exclusive, so the responses here are quite unusual. I only date one person at a time and would have seen that behaviour as undesirable. Don't blame you for moving on, OP. I think it comes down to trusting your gut.

Offleyhoo · 18/04/2023 22:31

I know zero about OLD but he shouldn't be updating his profile if he has no more need for it. You've done the right thing. Onwards & upwards.

Minikievs · 18/04/2023 22:32

GreenwichOrTwicks · 18/04/2023 22:17

Yes it is one thing to retain the profile but entirely different to update with new pics.

I agree with this. I wouldn't be deleting the app after two dates, but if I was properly into someone, I wouldn't be updating my profile