Man ive been on 2 dates with has updated his OLD profile

[Hotvimto3]

Just that... two dates, daily phone calls and texting. Forming a nice friendship, attraction there ... we both said. Just saw online that hes updated his dating profile with all new pictures. Its a delete and block now isnt it?

Ah im glad you did... ☺️ xxx

This isn’t an age thing. When my mother was dating back in the 60s - you dated different people and only stopped when you went “steady”. This isn’t a new thing.

Thus idea if "connection" is quite nebulous...how can you connect with someone you barely know ?! Unless "chatting" online makes you connect with people? He clearly didn't feel the "connection" despite chatting every day to you. I wouldn't say he love -bombed you, you created a story in your mind about how it will go.

Maybe I did, i wont be doing it again though 🤔

all this fuss over two dates.

bunny boiler alert.

This is the downfall to OLD. I think its best not to chat too much over the txt and phone. Ask straight away before even meeting what people are looking for it's so important!

Don't feel bad. You meet all types of characters I've spoken to one guy who was happy to chat daily but not meet up...

This

That's the dating scene though these days.

If you've been intimate together then it's maybe different.

You 100% did the right thing, well done for spotting his bullshit and putting an end to it. If you hadn't I bet he'd still be trying to monopolise your time with constant texting, and using you to boost his ego and his fill up his clearly empty life - all while sniffing around anyone else who'll give him the time of day (or a shag). Strong boundaries are exactly what stops these users wasting your time. And definitely ignore the misogyny of being called a bunny boiler for not putting up with it. I dont like texting loads in dating, I find it fake and pointless unless it someone I know and love, its crumbs. Judging people on their actions and the quality of their behaviour will never let you done.

Aw thank you. Yeah im glad it wad caught early. Im going to not entertain constant texts again. As you say ... date, coffee ... real world.

Agree with you OP.

If he is spending time and energy updating his profile it is a clear sign he is looking to attract new/other people and chatting/seeing several women.

It is quite common with OLD to see multiple people but I would say it is also a sign that he is not that into you.

If he was really keen to focus on you, he would of course keep his profile in case things go wrong but not actively update it to make it more attractive.

I would put him in the category of OLD guys who will pursue for a couple of dates until you sleep with them and then fade away.

But that's what online dating is! He's not "looking for someone else". He's looking for someone. It's not the same as randomly meeting someone in a coffee shop then thinking, "Wow I like her. I want to pursue a relationship with this person." He's looking for a relationship, so he's obviously going to get to know a number of people to see which one is the most compatible with him. You don't just stop at the first one you like.

Hotvimto3

we’ve all been bruised by one of these
want a WhatsApp girlfriend experience
chat chat ping ping

this is on him , what a strange thing to do in many ways

ifs actually a lonely thing and I imagine he spends his day in a frenzied endorphin rush from his ladies texting him

strange and not very healthy

that said I’ve got a new ish one
never texts and chats which makes me think he wants me for sex only

you can’t win 🥇

Aren’t you a charmer! Weren’t you the guy moaning about not having much success with OLD? I wonder why!

Fififafa

yes 🙄🙄
prepared to take supporting dating advice
but not give it

Ha ha 😂 🤣 😆

Exactly!

You don't just stop at the first one you like

Wow that is an interesting thought. 🙄

KillerSandy

yeah , if I like someone I tend to freeze profile
see how it pans out

You think two dates/a few weeks is enough time to know if you like someone enough to give up looking? I'm sorry but no person is that special.

Yup. It was him@Joewessex Patronising and misogynistic. Asking women on the thread to DM him. and some idiots were swooning. I saw straight through him and his faux cry for help.

Ffs there are so many weird comments on here from people purposefully misconstruing this situation. OP doesn't think she's entitled to monogamy from the off... it's one thing for men on OLD to be discreetly continuing/having conversations with other women while in the early stages of dating you, and a red flag for them to lack the self awareness to see that blatantly continuing to scout for women might be disrespectful.

You made the right call OP, glad it had an amicable outcome for you. I met my husband OLD (but not before meeting loads of weirdos), we chatted about exactly what we were looking for out of dating before we even met which was helpful. Keep those boundaries strong.

I'm totally with you, OP. To leave his profile up is one thing, but to actually update it is another. It would feel like a vote of no confidence to me.

Really? Well I know I am 😂

Yes he is still looking. Maybe wants a shag before moving on ?
But I would have a conversation if you are getting on that well you should be able to .....talk!