Pregnant & being called fat

[Bubblemachiene]

By partner in an argument, also infront of our dc. How would you handle this.

I've had this all throughout my last trimester - 39 weeks now.

I'm sure it's done in a jovial way, but it's really fucking annoying and rude. I'm not exactly really slim at the best of times and no one dare make jokes about me being fat then.

I've kind of just put up with it, it only seems to be the older people in my family that think it's acceptable/funny

Oh sorry, only just realised you said by partner...it's obviously a different kettle of fish.

It wasn't jovial we were arguing about something
And it was shut up fat bitch
Fat fat fat fat fat
My little girl looked at me shocked an rolled her eyes

U know ur pregnant u won't be 'fat' forever unlike your partner who is a dick and will be forever!

Does he often speak to you this way? The 'fat' bit isn't the worst part

This relationship is doomed.

I'm actually only just starting to show also so I'm not actually fat yet, well 12-14 so bit curvy.

Anyone who called me a fat bitch would only do it the once

Your partner sounds very rude and disrespectful. Personal insults and name-calling are well outside the parameters of healthy disagreement.

That’s so hateful. You can’t have your DD seeing and hearing stuff like that.

Did he speak to you like this before the pregnancy? Abusive men often show their true colours when their partner becomes pregnant.

Your little girl won’t be shocked at it for long; it’ll just be acceptable that her dad speaks to her mum like that - why are you even with him?

What a hateful man and toxic relationship.

Don’t often say this, but do you have somewhere that you and your little girl can go? This will only get worse.

Is this his baby in your tummy? He's a cunt.

So your "partner" didn't just use "fat" to insult you but also called you a bitch - and both in front of your child.

Partner isn't really the right word is it? Even when arguing there is respect in a partnership, or it's not one.

Once everyone is calm there needs to be a conversation about how you treat/ speak to one another (especially but not only in front of the children).

My husband called me a bitch once, 25 years ago and the conversation we had ensured that he never did it again - the second time would be the end of the relationship (I've never called him any equivalent insulting names).

They all his kids yes.
Yes he has In the past but things been good lately an nothing like this until this recent argument.
Not sure if it's being dramatic going due to this, as was said in heat of the moment. I was more annoyed it being infront of the kids.

Bubblemachiene

re your comment
"Yes he has In the past but things been good lately an nothing like this until this recent argument".

This all sounds like the nice /nasty cycle of abuse which is a continuous one. And now your kids are hearing it; their home is not the sanctuary for them either it should be.

Did you grow up seeing a similar dynamic with your own parents?.

You have a choice re this man and your children do not. Make better choices now for you and them. They cannot afford to grow up in such a hostile and abusive environment. Its not their fault nor yours their dad has chosen to embark on his own private based war against you.

What is the situation re finances and property?.

You're probably not wanting to hear this because not many people do.
But I'd be gone.
There's so much here to unpack, but that wording could give your daughter an eating disorder in the future.
Nah, he's a cunt.
Get rid.

If my partner ever spoke to me that way, heat of an argument or not I would be seriously considering turfing him out. It's not on!

You could take out the word "fat" and it would be just as bad. Nasty man who speaks like that to the mother of his child.

I always get baffled when I run into posts like this. Not sure if this is kind of a joke or what. Your own husband called you "fat bitch" while you are pregnant and you are asking us how we would handle it?! I would not handle it at all, I would just leave OP. Run, in fact, and never look back.

This

It's nasty. He has obviously done it to cause maximum upset. Horrible.

I wouldn’t tolerate being called fat nor a bitch. Huge 🚩