Pregnant & being called fat

[Bubblemachiene]

By partner in an argument, also infront of our dc. How would you handle this.

Pregnant or not, any partner who called me a fat bitch would be an ex. No way would I waste my precious life on some unintelligent low life who lacked the wit to handle conflict without flinging around misogynist playground insults. The fact your daughter has to be in the presence of this substandard specimen makes it worse. She'll think this is normal.

Oh my gosh. Infront of your your daughter too!

I'm sorry op but that needs to be game over. You need to get away from him for qns explain to your daughter very xlwqrly that you left him because we never allow partners to talk to us that way.

Otherwise she'll grow up and go into abusive relationships too.

Seriously op. Never stay with anyone e who calls you a bitch. He's a disgusting bully. Get rid and keep him gone.

• very clearly

Aren't you concerned about your partner calling you a bitch? About him telling you to shut up?

And he said all of that in front of your poor children. I wouldn't stay with someone who showed such disrespect, dislike and bitterness towards me. I would try to distance such a person from my children as much as possible as well.

I’d honestly leave. I couldn’t have my daughter hearing a man make awful comments about my body, it’ll affect her for life.

Im really sorry, you deserve better.

If you're not ready to call it a day op then i suggest you call him into a room and say calmly 'the way you spoke to me earlier was completely unacceptable. I'd like an apology. And you owe your daughter an apology too. She needs to know it is never OK for a man to talk to any woman like that. And let me be clear,if you ever EVER talk to me like that again or use derogatory language about me or my body, let alone infront if our child, we are through'.

Anything less than a grovelling apology and the same to your daughter and you call it a day. Same if he ever speaks to you in a nasty way again.

" I'll say goodbye my love.. "

Karen Carpenter was right.

"Fat" is the least of it. He called you a bitch and told you to shut up.

Is this typical behaviour? If so, I would end the relationship.

No it's not always hostile it's actually OK 99 percent of the time but he can have a sharp tongue but ge doesn't see it as abusive, his parents are the same. @AttilaTheMeerkat
I've literally just gave up my rental & gave away all my household items on a fb group sols a few larger items for dirt cheap an moved Into his since the last half a year has been ok.
No I don't want her thinking it's normal or acceptable or my son.
It's just hard now as I am newly expecting.

Plus the cost of rent & bills

Unless you want your child to grow up thinking this is an appropriate way to be spoken to/speak to others then you need to have the self respect to walk away. Anyone who called me that would only do it the once. What a disgusting way to speak to someone.

Resorting to personal insults in an argument is firstly abusive, he can google it or you can and send him the links to whichever one you want. Secondly this style of communication is not a great example for the children on how to settle arguments. Both of you are modelling this behaviour, he does it, you don't leave.

I would be packing him a bag and telling him to go until he apologies and agrees not to do anything like this again

he is an appalling example to his children and needs to be told that

Just bare in mind it'll be a lot harder to leave when the baby arrives. For a few years at least. If you're not far gone atm it'll be the best time to go now, for a long time.

So it may actually be a good thing you found out he was like this now. Rather than 6 months down the line.

Yes renting is expensive. But look into what payments you are entitled to. Also maybe consider cheaper areas, smaller flats and alternative living such as caravans.

He is a cunt, total fucking scum to talk to you like that.

Man! are you kidding? I would have jetted to the nearest abortion clinic and got rid of his demon spawn and him in one fell swoop. WHo does things like that but an amazingly huge butthole? And in front of the girl so now she thinks it's okay and normal to be called horrible names by the man who allegedly loves you? That is what your scum partner is teaching your baby.

Were it ME, he wouldn't have to worry about arguing, fatness, or anything to do with a pregnancy because I would not be pregnant tomorrow.

Absolutely same tbh but didn't like to say.
'Only just starting to show' ...so 3 months? I'd be off to the clinic ASAP. Fuck having another kid with him.

Your poor children.

He's utter scum.

I would be seriously looking at a termination of this pregnancy and leaving.

You and your children deserve better.

Call Womens aid for advice and support.

And it was shut up fat bitch

The best part of that phrase is 'fat'. What a dreadful thing to say to you, and in front of your DD. And no, being in an argument doesn't make it OK. Not even slightly.

I spoke to him about it and calling me especially in front of the children. He doesn't seem to think he should apologise as it was my fault the reason we had the argument in the first place. He says I was Insulting his masculinity. He sold my old household item to someone but was bargained down. I told him he Shouldn't have but he said it was my fault for not stating no offers on the ad.
I wouldn't have even minded too much but the way he came in having a go saying that's my fault I shouldn't have sent him, set the argument off. I only asked him to go as I had a flat tyre.
So anyway we ended up having another argument when I tried to tell him about calling me, in the end I just went asleep I didn't want to argue in bed. He doesn't see himself in the wrong it's me.
As for termination. I couldn't after 2 losses, I have tried medication to keep this pregnancy healthy. I've seen baby on early scan. It would break my heart to go for termination. On the other hand how would being pregnant, giving birth & contact work with separation & newborn?

Also thanks all for taking time to reply. I'd fe to embarrassed to talk in real life.

So you're just going to stay with him and let it happen again? He doesn't see the issue he will do it again
Don't you want better for yourself and your children and for your daughter to expect better?

He called you a fat bitch?

Why are you with someone like this? Do you really want your children to grow up thinking this is normal?

MN never ceases to amaze me with the low bar some women accept.

Of course it's hard @Bubblemachiene Agree that he doesn't sound like a good partner but also it's a massive and incredibly difficult thing to leave a partner in any circumstances. Do you have family you could go stay with? Maybe you could call a helpline at Women's Aid or something for some advice? https://www.womensaid.org.uk/ Really hope you're okay!

He is not a kind person OP