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Husbands porn searches are concerning

181 replies

Linger123345 · 03/04/2023 16:45

Would you be concerned if your partners porn searches were for "small teen porn" and "naked teen selfies"?
He's 60. Always with a porn habbit which never bothered me, although the lack of sex life did bother me.
But i recently saw his search history which hes usually very good at clearing. Small teens to me sounds like underage stuff. I don't know what to do, or if im simply overreacting.

OP posts:
BlusteryLake · 03/04/2023 16:47

Ewww... that's vile.

Aquamarine1029 · 03/04/2023 16:49

That would be it for me. Out he goes.

teacakie · 03/04/2023 16:50

You have to ask?

onwardsup4 · 03/04/2023 16:51

Overreacting ? What has your reaction been what have you done so far ?

MistyFrequencies · 03/04/2023 16:53

Gross. I could not be around him knowing that.

RichardHeed · 03/04/2023 16:54

Fucking rank.

unclebuck · 03/04/2023 16:57

Yeah. My close friend divorced due to this. I discovered it sadly as they stayed over and he decided to search "school girl choke" on my laptop and I saw it the next day.

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 03/04/2023 16:59

That would be a deal breaker for me and if he’s actually viewed these images/ videos I’d be reporting him to the police.

pinkyredrose · 03/04/2023 17:00

How scummy.

specialklady · 03/04/2023 17:00

Okay, that's disturbing. I hope he means 18+ teens but even still, at 60 that's not good. Problem is he's done it now, so it's not like he can even take it back... I would talk to him about it maybe.

CherryBlossom321 · 03/04/2023 17:00

Of course that’s concerning. That sounds like paedophilia.

jackstini · 03/04/2023 17:01

Yes I would
Sorry he's doing this, you know it's over - that is not an ick I could ever come back from

Nap1983 · 03/04/2023 17:02

Game over for me…

readbooksdrinktea · 03/04/2023 17:03

The fact that you're worried that you're overreacting is so sad.

Klunt · 03/04/2023 17:03

That’s revolting. But then some people stick with their husbands who are actual pedophiles so nothing surprises me anymore.

Noicant · 03/04/2023 17:05

Sorry OP but thats pretty disgusting, I think you know what he’s looking for.

ShagratandGorbag4ever · 03/04/2023 17:09

You are definitely not overreacting, although I think you may have been underreacting to the long term use of pornography.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 03/04/2023 17:09

Well........I guess you might get a knock on the door very early one morning and get all your computer equipment searched (including yours) and then you'd know for sure.........nice relaxing retirement you've got in front of you.

Howdypip77 · 03/04/2023 17:09

I am going to go slightly against the grain here and say that lots of people have sexual taboo fantasies and kinks which between consenting adults is fine, but I think the fact that he seems to have a porn addiction while your sex life is flagging is the issue here.

LexMitior · 03/04/2023 17:13

Well you maybe have another twenty years together if you do stay. How does that feel to you?

Objectively, this sounds creepy

Greensleevevssnotnose · 03/04/2023 17:16

unclebuck · 03/04/2023 16:57

Yeah. My close friend divorced due to this. I discovered it sadly as they stayed over and he decided to search "school girl choke" on my laptop and I saw it the next day.

Why do they do that? My ex used my dad's laptop to search for porn and got him in all types of trouble 😵‍💫 with my mum.

Oversharingnamechanged · 03/04/2023 17:16

@Linger123345 , my father was a peadophile and he started his searches like this. He went on to rape a child, (she was a teenage sex worker, still child rape, I'll die on that hill).
He is lowering his porn boundaries and soon he'll be searching for younger people to gratify him.
I'd definitely leave, probably right now.
He is a danger to children.

Original poster
Linger123345 · 03/04/2023 17:16

I havent reacted yet because im still in shock as im still processing. Very much in shock. I dont even think its worth talking to him. Im going to look for my way out.

OP posts:
Sarah2891 · 03/04/2023 17:18

I'm sorry you have discovered this. I hope you leave him as that is vile.

YouJustDoYou · 03/04/2023 17:20

unclebuck · 03/04/2023 16:57

Yeah. My close friend divorced due to this. I discovered it sadly as they stayed over and he decided to search "school girl choke" on my laptop and I saw it the next day.

Oh god, vile! WHat is it with these guys who can't go five minutes without watching that shit?