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Husbands porn searches are concerning

181 replies

Linger123345 · 03/04/2023 16:45

Would you be concerned if your partners porn searches were for "small teen porn" and "naked teen selfies"?
He's 60. Always with a porn habbit which never bothered me, although the lack of sex life did bother me.
But i recently saw his search history which hes usually very good at clearing. Small teens to me sounds like underage stuff. I don't know what to do, or if im simply overreacting.

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Crikeyalmighty · 03/04/2023 20:28

The thing is once you know what kind of stuff someone looks at it's very hard to feel quite the same about them again if it's something that disgusts you- even if it's technically legal. When I found some webcam viewing in my Hs history on a very rare occasion he clearly forgot to use incognito , I instantly kind of 'switched off' mentally from a romantic/sexual angle, even though he was mega embarrased and told me he didn't comment or pay , just watched public viewing. He just saw it as 'porn' . I'm still married but simply don't trust men anymore when it comes to this shit. He's 58 too OP. I think you are doing the right thing .

Museya15 · 03/04/2023 20:29

Unfortunately teen sex is what a very large percentage of men fantasize about. It's grim but it's true.

BlüeöysterCunt · 03/04/2023 20:30

BlackBarbies · 03/04/2023 18:06

Oh absolutely, that’s absolutely my true. I’m sure you can easily stumble across revenge porn and all sorts of things on porn sites.

My point was, is that someone who’s trying to access dodgy things won’t get far by typing in ‘small teen porn’ so I doubt that was his intentions. However it does seem that at the very least he’s trying to watch two consenting adults where the woman has a ‘childlike’ body so to say.

If you see my response after the one that you replied too, I did say that it doesn’t look good either way!

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How can you know his intentions? You cant. He quite literally is searching for 'small teen porn' why is it being explained away? The sooner we stop normalising this shit the better. Men who watch teen porn are dodgy as fuck. Zero excuses

Justalittlebitduckling · 03/04/2023 20:32

Sounds illegal.

Jacketspudtunamayo · 03/04/2023 20:36

Yes that would bother me, he wouldn’t be my husband for much longer. That’s disgusting. So sorry you’re going through that x

Kanaloa · 03/04/2023 20:36

BlüeöysterCunt · 03/04/2023 20:30

How can you know his intentions? You cant. He quite literally is searching for 'small teen porn' why is it being explained away? The sooner we stop normalising this shit the better. Men who watch teen porn are dodgy as fuck. Zero excuses

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To add to this, how is it ‘pretty clear’ he was looking for two consenting adults? That’s like saying ‘yes, he typed in apples but obviously it’s pretty clear he was looking for jelly.’ He didn’t type ‘women who look young’ or ‘man woman teen role play’ even. He typed in ‘small teen porn.’ To me the only thing that makes clear is that he was looking for a small teen, in a porn video.

littlefirecar · 03/04/2023 20:56

I was totally expecting this to be an overreaction to someone finding out the sad fact that yes most men watch porn

But no you are obviously not over reacting that's fucking gross and if thats what hes searching on a regular browser then id hate to think what he would be searching if he had dark web access 😒

Pinkbonbon · 03/04/2023 21:00

What comes up when you search it?

Chances are these are searches he has made several times. If you search them, does it bring up short teens...or 'short' teens (younger).

I mean it's gross either way tbf...
But I guess its common place for men to like women young... not so much to like them illegal.

EarthSight · 03/04/2023 21:05

Sounds to me like he's looking for underage girls. He just doesn't want to type those words in. I'm sorry OP :(

Rockgirl84 · 03/04/2023 21:26

He's a paedophile, simple as.
Get out asap

iamenough2023 · 03/04/2023 21:33

I do not have any experience with this kind of thing, but just wonder, should not thing like this be reported, like to the police? As for you OP, is it a deal breaker? I absolutely would not want to stay with a person with these kinds of interests. This is sick.

Justmeandthedog1 · 03/04/2023 21:40

Is it on a laptop or tablet? If it’s something portable I’d hand it over to the police and not go home. I’m sorry OP, he’s vile. Every person who searches for child porn ( which this is) is guilty of child abuse in my eyes —- all those children have had their lives ruined and suffered unimaginable pain.

Godlovesall26 · 03/04/2023 21:42

G58 · 03/04/2023 20:07

@Godlovesall26 Thanks. I realised in hindsight how stupid I was using those search terms to help the OP. Thankfully nothing came back, but lesson learned. I was thinking of others and not myself. Can't say I'm an expert in this subject.

And yes, I meant wiping the pictures (if any) from the laptop.

It came from a good intention, ! Just screenshot the thread in case it gets deleted if I were you, or ask MNHQ for a copy, and you’ll be fine (just thinking worse ever ever case scenario here, but you can never be too precautionary ime with these things)

Suzi888 · 03/04/2023 21:44

CurlyhairedAssassin · 03/04/2023 17:09

Well........I guess you might get a knock on the door very early one morning and get all your computer equipment searched (including yours) and then you'd know for sure.........nice relaxing retirement you've got in front of you.

Happened to an acquaintance… lost his job, but got a better job afterwards. Wife stayed for the money 🤢he’s dead now.

TwoMonthsOff · 03/04/2023 21:45

🤮🤢🤮🤢🤮🤢
absolutely and completely disgusting and unforgivable

good luck op

CurlyhairedAssassin · 03/04/2023 22:40

LexMitior · 03/04/2023 19:58

You can never wipe your Google search. It is all recorded and the police can ask for it from Google. Clearing a few bookmarks doesn't cut it.

They don’t need to ask Google for it. EVERYTHING you do on a computer leaves a trace. Everything.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 03/04/2023 22:43

G58 · 03/04/2023 20:07

@Godlovesall26 Thanks. I realised in hindsight how stupid I was using those search terms to help the OP. Thankfully nothing came back, but lesson learned. I was thinking of others and not myself. Can't say I'm an expert in this subject.

And yes, I meant wiping the pictures (if any) from the laptop.

They would still leave a trace even if you think you’ve wiped them. It’s just a case of just deleting the files.

toddlermumx · 03/04/2023 22:44

Absolutely disgusting

CurlyhairedAssassin · 03/04/2023 22:52

CurlyhairedAssassin · 03/04/2023 22:43

They would still leave a trace even if you think you’ve wiped them. It’s just a case of just deleting the files.

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NOT just a case of deleting the file.

Wellitjustgetsworse · 03/04/2023 22:58

Best case scenario he typed in small as likes petite women and with teen apparently being one the most typed in categories he just clicked on the top suggestions.. but even so it's very grim, especially given his age.

I don't know how you come back from that really.

Crazyshihtzulady · 03/04/2023 23:20

He has peadophile tendancies...so sorry, what an awful discovery.

PinkSyCo · 03/04/2023 23:21

What’s with all these naive permissive little wimmin and their perverted husband threads lately? It really is getting worrying how these pedos are managing to bag themselves wives and live amongst us as seemingly respectable family men. 🤮

Crazyshihtzulady · 03/04/2023 23:27

Asummersday · 03/04/2023 18:02

Grim! Reminds me of my married 70 year old FIL who likes big boob instagram model photos….it makes me ill dirty old men…..wish I could tell his wife!

I worked in a social club a couple of years ago and some of the things I heard these filthy old men say was repulsing...sitting there talking about how they like a "shaved snatch"....this was men in their 70's.

Vile

pinkpotatoez · 03/04/2023 23:30

Well he's searching as close as he can for children isn't he. Would be it for me even if the porn videos he had been watching are petite adult actors

CherryBlossom321 · 03/04/2023 23:39

WorldCuppa · 03/04/2023 19:09

@CherryBlossom321 but of course it’s not.

He has a sexual preference for children.

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