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Husbands porn searches are concerning

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Linger123345 · 03/04/2023 16:45

Would you be concerned if your partners porn searches were for "small teen porn" and "naked teen selfies"?
He's 60. Always with a porn habbit which never bothered me, although the lack of sex life did bother me.
But i recently saw his search history which hes usually very good at clearing. Small teens to me sounds like underage stuff. I don't know what to do, or if im simply overreacting.

OP posts:
AprilFool23 · 04/04/2023 18:17

Crikeyalmighty · 04/04/2023 17:46

@AprilFool23 I don't wish to derail the conversation as I was initially responding to a post saying that anyone using it at all should a LTB situation- hence why I said a high percentage of mumsnet partners would be out the door. but I think you misunderstood me- I don't consider once or twice a week an addict- above that level I do. In my own situation I would indeed be entitled to half, but half of not a lot at all would be the reality. I hate the habit but in OPs position it's different as it's borderline illegal- my Hs viewing is all female to female stuff and 'mature' - each to their own I guess but it's not 'teen' - quite the opposite

I think it was my post and I didn't say anyone using it should be out the door; I said if he's a porn addict, he should already have been out the door.

Anyway, I'm sorry to hear you wouldn't get enough to be able to set up on your own. A not uncommon situation. It's sad because it seems like you e lost respect, trust and liking for him; as much due to his dishonesty as to his porn use. At least his searches are legal.

The poor op is in a very unenviable position.

JMSA · 04/04/2023 18:24

Yuuuuuuuck. I cannot even tell you how fast I'd be out of there.
Horrible perverted old bastard.

iamenough2023 · 04/04/2023 19:22

I really do hope that the OP will indeed report this and leave this man. What he is doing cannot be justified in any way and is not "just" a porn addiction, he is most likely a pedophile, so I do not understand what some of you are arguing about.

EnVogue · 04/04/2023 19:27

That bastards bags would be packed and out the door.
The fact that you even need to ask is also concerning.

EmilyGilmoresSass · 05/04/2023 00:18

EnVogue · 04/04/2023 19:27

That bastards bags would be packed and out the door.
The fact that you even need to ask is also concerning.

Is it any wonder the OP hasn't come back with posts like this, AFTER she has said she has packed a bag to leave and considering contacting police ffs.

OP, if you see this message. I hope you are okay.

Crikeyalmighty · 05/04/2023 10:43

@EmilyGilmoresSass Yep my thoughts are with the OP.

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