Work colleague

[Sussex4321]

If you suspect your DH has ‘something’ going on with a colleague, and he’s off sick, snd thru my own stupid snooping, you find she’s offered to drive 50 miles to see how he is, what would you think??? The message said ‘oh and Sussex can join us too if she’s not working’?????

@Sussex4321 what if it's your DH who doesn't want you and her to be friends? She has mentioned you at least twice in her messages. Once when she had a spare flower and asked him if he wanted it for you. Then again she mentioned you when she was offering to visit.
Could she be looking for friends? Could there be any reason why he wouldn't want you and her to be friends? Is he possessive over you? Does he want his own set of friends as opposed to having joint friends?

@itsmylife7 i would agree up till a point but HE messages HER too asking her to work with him so if he’s trying to distance himself?

@mimi82 from what I can tell she is out all the time with friends, DH will often show me pics from his with group and there’s a group of them always out so don’t think she’s lonely? He’s certainly not possessive! She’s lives around 55 miles away so we wouldn’t be friends?

Could you find out what happened to the rose?

@mimi82 not unless I admit I snooped? I think he gave it to her!

Yes, I know but if she's the only person available and it makes his job easier, what other choice does he have ?

Honestly OP its like you're obsessed with proving him guilty.

It's really coming across as taking over your life. Your ex cheated on you so if you can't trust again, don't be in a relationship.

@itsmylife7 i totally understand what you are saying. It IS taking over me, and I have thought a lot recently I would be better on my own! I almost feel like I’ve kinda ‘checked out’ mentally.