Don't want to eat after comments

[Feelingworthless1]

2 days ago my partner playfully slapped my bum and said "somebody's bum has got bigger"... I asked if he could please not comment on my weight because it upsets me and he said "well your bum is the size of Beyonces".
I'm a size 8 for context and he's about 3 stone over weight but thinks he's god.
I later said that I was going on a diet and he said "you don't need to diet, you just need to exercise and tone up"...he does no exercise and barely moves from the chair. He's on cholesterol and blood pressure tablets.
I didn't eat apart from dinner and had a chicken breast, brocoli and rice and he commented on my plate "wow that's a lot of food".

I'm feeling so insecure. He doesn't know but I was bulimic for a long time and so I don't like comments about my weight. I now feel that I can't eat.

Why give him the power to impact you like this. Remember you have agency and don’t have to still make the choices you did in the past.

Leave him, he hasn't listened or respected your very reasonable request and is from what you say unhealthy and overweight himself, so a hypocrite as well.

He’s an absolute tosser. I bet if you ‘playfully’ did “Five Bellies” at him there would be a different reaction

Throw his comments back at him and say wow you can talk....just look at the size of you!

Lose 15 stone of waste material. Ditch the DP.

Leave him, you deserve someone who respects your boundaries and doesn’t make you feel this way. You are not the problem here.

Jesus Christ op.

I just. Don't. Get. It.

Why do you stay with him?!? It isn't compulsory.

Just tell him to fuck off

I’d certainly turn the tables around and tell him what I thought about his extra kg.
Exercise is good for all - regardless of weight - but you should only do it if you want to yourself.

Beyonce is beautiful!!! And at size 8 - you are far far from her beautiful bottom - unless you are tiny in height. And if you do have that bottom - many women would be at awe!

Unhealthy relationship. Get rid.

Tell him to fuck off whilst eating a big Mac. Nobody has the right to make you feel this way.

This relationship needs to be over as of now.

And you are with this man at all because....

Do not remain with such a man out of pity, habit, a fear of being alone, kids etc.
The only acceptable level of abuse in a relationship is none.

Ditch this millstone of a man who targeted you to abuse you. He knows exactly what he is doing here and he does not love nor care one iota about you. He will continue to make you feel insecure about yourself and beat you down.

So he is very against people being overweight. He mocks overweight family members or says "she won't find anyone, she's obese"...I ALWAYS call him out on this and think it's awful.

He knows he's overweight but says it's my fault for having carbs in the house...even though he eats twice as many as me. He barely leaves he house some days, he's over 16 stone.

Lose weight immediately by dumping him
He doesn't respect you

Just noticed your username
You are not worthless. He is making you feel it
You are worth so much more

Oh and on the same day, I was chatting Welsh to our son...
Partner says "I'm not good at languages and not are you, it's lucky that *Roberts (my eldest.son from previous relationship) dad is good at languages as Robert can learn a lot from him. It's not as if you bring anything to the table, is it.
So I said "charming"
Partner says "well it's true isn't it. What do you bring to the table? Go on. Tell me"
Asked him to leave me alone and he keeps saying, see, what do you bring to the table.
So I said obviously nothing and I'm useless and he replied "here you go again with all your negative thinking and anxiety. Never positive"
I said he had started by being negative and he said he was joking.

What are you getting out of this relationship now with him?.

You calling him out on his behaviour gives him in his head an additional challenge to bring you down.

You and he should not be together; would you agree on this point?. How can you be helped here into leaving your abuser?. How long have you two been together now?.

I am certain also that your son despises this man you have introduced into your lives. He also likely wonders what on earth you are doing with such a man.

Your boundaries here, perhaps already eroded somewhat by past abuse and or otherwise poor relationship experience, are being further eroded by this man now.

Honestly OP why tf are you putting up with someone speaking to you like that?! Whatever this man feels for you it certainly isn't love and you deserve so much better than being treated like that.

Seriously what do you get from this relationship?

Why do you accept being spoken to like this?

Err WTF are you doing with this waste of space???

I never really advise this but....

LTB

So, an out of shape, controlling, rude, no doubt very average looking bloke has the brass neck to imagine he gets to modify a woman's body to his tastes? He's having a laugh, surely? As for using 'bum as big as Beyonce' as a CRITICISM?? How old is he?
Seriously, this man is an insecure inadequate specimen, who at some level knows this. He's trying to bring you down in the hopes you don't realise how much better you could do. Don't fall for it.

Look up "negging". He is doing this on purpose to control you.

Tell him what you really need is a man who appreciates what he's got, and you might have to go and find one. You don't need a fat, useless lump.

This would be inappropriate if you were overweight and pure cruel given that you’re not. Get rid of this bastard now.