Don't want to eat after comments

[Feelingworthless1]

2 days ago my partner playfully slapped my bum and said "somebody's bum has got bigger"... I asked if he could please not comment on my weight because it upsets me and he said "well your bum is the size of Beyonces".
I'm a size 8 for context and he's about 3 stone over weight but thinks he's god.
I later said that I was going on a diet and he said "you don't need to diet, you just need to exercise and tone up"...he does no exercise and barely moves from the chair. He's on cholesterol and blood pressure tablets.
I didn't eat apart from dinner and had a chicken breast, brocoli and rice and he commented on my plate "wow that's a lot of food".

I'm feeling so insecure. He doesn't know but I was bulimic for a long time and so I don't like comments about my weight. I now feel that I can't eat.

He sounds like an absolute vain knobhead.

Jesus Christ op!!! Run a mile! He's a nasty gaslighting piece of shit!

What a catch! Women must be fighting over him! 🙄

Seriously, he is the way he is, you can’t change that but you can end the relationship.

You are fine as you are obviously. No one has a right to make such comments to you.

He is an arrogant unpleasant asshole. Ditch him, he will not improve and you deserve better.

@arethereanyleftatall I totally agree. Some people love to post all the horrible things someone has done to them without addressing the problem or doing anything to stop it! I also remember a very similar previous post.

Have my very first LTB, OP 💐
Do it before your self esteem is so low that you are unrecognisable. He is not a good partner.

Why on Earth are you with this man who demeans, belittles and bullies you OP?

I wonder what your boys are learning from all of this? I find it extremely depressing the amount of kids that have to put up with such shit 'step' dad's.

@Feelingworthless1
I am speechless.

The arrogance of the man!

Size 8 is tiny.

Eating disorders are very serious, and idiotic unfounded comments like his could be so triggering for someone feeling vulnerable about their body image.
How would he like it??

He's a flabby, untoned bloke?? How dare he comment on you!

Typical Hypocritical Judgemental Prick of Arsehole

Yawn 🥱 Yawn 🥱 Yawn
Boring Predictable Garden variety Shit Gammon Man

I bet he looks like a Lump of Lard or Tripe

Or

Is about as Acctractive as one ...

You can do a lot better than him, and he bloody knows it, too

No wonder he puts you down,

He needs to do this,
So you will be so confused and messed up and your cofindence at basement Gutter Level
You will believe all the Crap that Comes out of his hole in his face,

I wonder if sell toilet brushes in shops, especially for men like him to brush their teeth with ,

As soon much Crap comes out of Arseholes mens types Cake hole !

What you will allow will continue. Ask yourself if this is how you enjoy to be spoken to and if the answer is no, then it's time to dump him.

Remember one thing - he is NOT a good Dad, he is NOT a good partner and any good in him, is outweighed by his gaslighting, nasty and negative comments. Good people do not speak to others like that - end of.

Get out before he projects any more of his vitriol on to you and takes you down with him. Because it will happen if you allow it to.

I have had issues with food myself and there is not one person alive worth going back to that dark place for. Not one.

Oh yes, tell him from me that if he wants to insult someones appearance, then advise him to look in the mirror because there is plenty to insult - both inside and out. Nasty turd he is.

he sounds like my ex - he was very overweight but always kept telling me I should "tone up" (I was UK size 10), he would criticise everything about me and then complain that I am "always sad and depressed".

These types of comments are intended on controlling the person they are directed at and to decrease their self-esteem. If you fee worthless, you're less likely to stand up for yourself, make boundaries or leave.

Cut him loose and you'll immediately feel lighter, happier and more positive!

He's dragging you down, you know it, and you're allowing it. He doesn't sound likeable or attractive. It doesn't sound like you even like him.

More fool you for staying with him.

Wow. What a lovely guy he sounds!

I'd leave him.

Can you tell us why you are still with him? Why on earth don't you say something insulting to him when he criticises you?

OK so seen as people think you may have a tendency to make such posts and then vanish op, (they may be right or could be mistaking you for another poster) this time, we're going to call you out in your plan moving forward.

So, now you should have an idea of the fact that he is abusing you, that he is saying these things in order to harm you. Right? Do you need any more clarification about that, for starters?

Secondly, whats the plan for your next steps?
Whats your housing situation? (Can he be easily and safely removed?) Would you consider getting some individual therapy for yourself to help guard against your bulimia coming back? (And to help you recover from an abusive relationship?).

Wow. He sounds vile and abusive. You can have my first LTB.

A bum like Beyonce? What's wrong with that?

Please leave this pathetic man immediately. You and your son deserve so much better, I'm angry on your behalf. How dare he talk to you like that?

Just jettison the XS weight - your DP

This.

I'd play him at his own game and make comments about his body, ie look at those man boobs, you tummy's looking more flabby. Also, cut back on his food if he thinks you're feeding yourself too much (as you're obviously feed him too much, looking at his stomach!).

Seriously though, OP, you deserve better. It's not as if you're a larger size and he's worried about your health, he's just insulting and demeaning, probably due to insecurity on his own part.

This! Please don’t let his stupid ignorance dictate how you treat yourself. And as has been said on threads before - there’s a way you could lose a lot of weight - and he’s sitting right near you!

WHY ON EARTH ARE YOU WITH HIM?

It’s all very easy to say ‘ltb’ but combining the weight thing (you’re a size 8 FGS!!!) with the language thing and asking you what you bring to the table…….DEFINITELY LEAVE THE BASTARD!!!!!

HOW fucking DARE he?