Page 9 | First date cf ?

AlinaRawlings · 27/03/2023 23:16

AnyaMarx · 25/03/2023 10:48

Was meant to have a first date today with a guy -been texting back and forth and seemed nice but haven't t spoken

Woke up to a text this morning after id suggested a late lunch

He said hopes he isn't pushing his luck but if we hit it off he was thinking he would stay over , turn it into supper and have a few drinks then stay over

He's expecting sex on date 1 isn't he ?

I dont want to take a stranger to my house .

I've made an excuse and turned my phone on silent

I've got the ick .

The first date potential sex doesn’t give me the ick but the word supper certainly would 🤢

ChellyT · 28/03/2023 01:35

AnyaMarx · 26/03/2023 03:17

I feel I need to amend the bio because it appears men who are single in their 40s/50/"s think with only one part of their anatomy no matter how unattractive they are physically.

They must think middle aged women are just gagging for it .

I've done the whole one night stand thing and actually it's just shit .

And I'd rather stay single than look like some desperado.

I have a full life - a career , friends , night classes, friends of both sexes I can go out with . I'm extremely happy in my own skin . Yes I miss sex but - really not so much as to pimp myself out to the first middle aged, overweight, egotistical knob that deigns to decide he can invite himself to stay without so much as a bloody conversation first .

Yes! I feel this and get this. I have my shit together, I look bloody great for my age, I know it and I get told it often (purely genetics, you should see my mum).
I'm not desperate for a man, let alone a man 10 years younger looking older and not as fit as myself!

I also get the ones that have absolutely no social life what so ever, that are available anytime telling me that maybe I can show them a good time 😩 Because I have nothing better to do than organise a manchild's no existent social life

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AnyaMarx · 28/03/2023 01:51

My male friend is in dating apps so I asked him about this

He said even the women who in their bio say they're looking for a ltr seem to just be happy to get laid

I've come off them all tonight.

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T1Dmama · 28/03/2023 11:54

AnyaMarx · 25/03/2023 11:18

What do I say to him ?

Respond with ‘first date??…. Sorry no!

Kazz36 · 28/03/2023 12:31

AnyaMarx · 25/03/2023 11:01

Ffs . He was my first date in a year .

How the fuck do I manage to pick 'em .

I know the feeling 😩
I am single almost 10 years. I guess life got in the way.. Took the plunge a few mths ago. Chatting to a nice guy for a week or two. All going good, then I decided it would be lovely to meet up and go on a date that he had mentioned to me numerous times.The night before the date we were chatting on the phone and he was coming out with the weirdest stuff about my dog getting extra special favours whilst he was getting groomed 😳 I'm like WTF.. very strange. So needless to say I blocked him straight away. Strange world out there and even stranger people.

ProjectsGalore · 28/03/2023 12:57

These men are just unbelievable. I had a first message from a guy who said 'you look really kinky' I replied 'I'm really not' he then said 'that's a shame but can we meet anyway?' Er nope.

JoanThursday1972 · 28/03/2023 14:41

Kazz36 · 28/03/2023 12:31

I know the feeling 😩
I am single almost 10 years. I guess life got in the way.. Took the plunge a few mths ago. Chatting to a nice guy for a week or two. All going good, then I decided it would be lovely to meet up and go on a date that he had mentioned to me numerous times.The night before the date we were chatting on the phone and he was coming out with the weirdest stuff about my dog getting extra special favours whilst he was getting groomed 😳 I'm like WTF.. very strange. So needless to say I blocked him straight away. Strange world out there and even stranger people.

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Ugh, I had one man constantly talk about his cat by using the word pussy. Grim.

Kazz36 · 28/03/2023 18:45

JoanThursday1972 · 28/03/2023 14:41

Ugh, I had one man constantly talk about his cat by using the word pussy. Grim.

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🤢 Wierdo

ChilledBeez · 28/03/2023 21:49

Great post. Why do women automatically think they cannot be honest with creepy men. He was so out of order and she just needs to tell him that bluntly.

Crazykatie · 29/03/2023 10:31

ChilledBeez · 28/03/2023 21:49

Great post. Why do women automatically think they cannot be honest with creepy men. He was so out of order and she just needs to tell him that bluntly.

Many men really don’t have a clue what creepy is, in many cases it’s because they are not confident with women, maybe their behavior has been tolerate by a wife or casual partners. Young men often treat their women appallingly and they think they can carry on in middle age.

Well they cant

ChilledBeez · 29/03/2023 12:08

You are so right. The fact he suggested this so casually indicates just this. So many women have actually been sexually or attacked because they did not want to hurt a man's feelings. I, myself, have let men off the hook when they were being totally creepy for fear of offending them. It's only now I am older that I realise what a mistake that was. They need to be told.

CitizenofMoronia · 29/03/2023 12:19

AnyaMarx · 25/03/2023 12:56

Yeah he definitely was t joking.

He lives less than an hour away .

I'd suggested a day meet up for
Coffee or late lunch

He was keen to come here - I was happy to wait as he had suggested an exhibition where he lives and I'd agreed to that as a first date
He then said he didn't want to wait and he would visit me

The conversation by text hadn't been sexualised or anything so I thought things were maybe goi g in the right direction and then - out the blue he says if we hit it off I'm thinking of staying over at yours (if your dog wouldn't eat me ) and turning late lunch into early supper

Was he fuck joking .
I've gone back to bed !

He was keen to come here - I was happy to wait as he had suggested an exhibition where he lives and I'd agreed to that as a first date
He then said he didn't want to wait and he would visit me

MARRIED!
doesn't want to be seen where he lives with you, and wants a hook-up first meet... hes married

Pupinski · 01/04/2023 19:10

AnyaMarx · 25/03/2023 11:32

Done .

Unmatched, blocked.

I did just say
sorry but that was really pushy , I'd be stupid to take a stranger home , Ive changed my mind , good luck

Well bang goes my lunch !

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lilkitten · 07/04/2023 17:09

You were right with your gut feeling, he's thirsty. He could have just seen how things went. I hate guys who make it clear they're only around for a shag. I'm poly so I have a few options and am still on the dating scene, and one of my favourite partners stuck around even when I said I wasn't down for sex for a while, because he actually liked me. First date with my husband was a coffee that became dinner, then drinks, then sex, but with no pushing from either side.

But don't give up with the apps, there are some lovely men out there. I'm 45, still find plenty of lovely men once you've eliminated the dicks (my radar is stron nowadays). Feeld is the best app in my opinion.

Stewball01 · 14/04/2023 14:25

Bloody cheek.

newtb · 14/04/2023 14:37

I met someone for lunch. His first words were not 'bonjour newtb' but that I didn't say I was fat. Lovely. After lunch, he asked me if I'd spend the afternoon in a hôtel with him. Said no. My car was parked in a différent direction to his and I déclined his kind invitation to go there with him. Grabbed me for a snog - tongue like a cold slug. He was blocked.

ReneBumsWombats · 14/04/2023 15:49

newtb · 14/04/2023 14:37

I met someone for lunch. His first words were not 'bonjour newtb' but that I didn't say I was fat. Lovely. After lunch, he asked me if I'd spend the afternoon in a hôtel with him. Said no. My car was parked in a différent direction to his and I déclined his kind invitation to go there with him. Grabbed me for a snog - tongue like a cold slug. He was blocked.

Jeez, when will the neggers finally die off? They're an affront to Darwinism.

Rosula · 14/04/2023 18:06

newtb · 14/04/2023 14:37

I met someone for lunch. His first words were not 'bonjour newtb' but that I didn't say I was fat. Lovely. After lunch, he asked me if I'd spend the afternoon in a hôtel with him. Said no. My car was parked in a différent direction to his and I déclined his kind invitation to go there with him. Grabbed me for a snog - tongue like a cold slug. He was blocked.

Why did you stay? I think I'd have cut my losses and buggered off after that first comment.

Crazykatie · 15/04/2023 09:12

newtb · 14/04/2023 14:37

I met someone for lunch. His first words were not 'bonjour newtb' but that I didn't say I was fat. Lovely. After lunch, he asked me if I'd spend the afternoon in a hôtel with him. Said no. My car was parked in a différent direction to his and I déclined his kind invitation to go there with him. Grabbed me for a snog - tongue like a cold slug. He was blocked.

If he’d said that to me I would have turned round and walked out. Someone that can be so rude is never going to be a prospect for anything.