First date cf ?

[AnyaMarx]

Was meant to have a first date today with a guy -been texting back and forth and seemed nice but haven't t spoken

Woke up to a text this morning after id suggested a late lunch

He said hopes he isn't pushing his luck but if we hit it off he was thinking he would stay over , turn it into supper and have a few drinks then stay over

He's expecting sex on date 1 isn't he ?

I dont want to take a stranger to my house .

I've made an excuse and turned my phone on silent

I've got the ick .

I wonder if that approach has ever worked for him.
I wouldn’t make an excuse, I’d just say ‘let’s not bother meeting after all’ and block him.

Ugh no, that’s quite weird actually. Did he just need somewhere to stay for a night? If something like that develops then fine but he’s basically planning it out

That is very presumptuous of him.

Nope nope nope

Cancel, he's a creep

I wouldn't even bother replying just block him

Did he honestly just invite himself to yours for night?? Get him gone!

Haha, no.

Ffs . He was my first date in a year .

How the fuck do I manage to pick 'em .

I think if you had agreed, he would’ve definitely felt that you had hit it off. Your thread title should be, ’canceled date with CF.’

Speak to them on the phone first another time. You can get a better feel for whether you really get on. It’s easier to be clever and funny by typing.

But for now, you need to say you are a bit surprised at that and you don’t want to meet up.

F-U-C-K .... T-H-A-T!

The absolute brass neck . I'd be blocking him

Ew, supper? That word alone is ick inducing.

I've made an excuse and turned my phone on silent

Well done, but you didn't need to make an excuse.
You were well within your rights to ask him what the fuck he thought he was playing at, & why he thought you were stupid enough to allow a total stranger into your home.

It's not just the CF presumption that a woman he has not even met yet might give him sex - it's his total disregard to the most basic concepts of women's safety & comfort.

What do I say to him ?

Nothing. You owe him nothing.

Just block and delete.

I wouldn’t say anything, he already knew he was being presumptuous and so shouldn’t be too surprised if you block him.

You say nothing. Block him.

Say ‘no’.

"Haha, no." ? 😊

Or

"Yeah, actually that was really pushing your luck, and has put me right off, so [kthxbai / good luck in future endeavours.]"

"Yes, you are pushing your luck, several steps too far. Sorry, not interested, bye".

Just block him

EWW NOPE! Red flag! not only did he presume it would go so well that your legs would just open willingly for him but he also Invited himself TO YOUR HOUSE! to stay!!! That is definitely a CF

Done .

Unmatched, blocked.

I did just say
sorry but that was really pushy , I'd be stupid to take a stranger home , Ive changed my mind , good luck

Well bang goes my lunch !

The hills are thataway………

@AnyaMarx I see your random 'nice' guy who turned your lunch date into staying over at your house, and I raise you my 'nice' guy from real life who turned my coffee date into me having a 'sleepover' at a hotel.

I did not go.

I was hugely disappointed because he wasn't some guy from OLD; he was someone I thought I knew quite well. He said all the right things, we agreed to a cute first date and then just before, he tried to change it into me going to a hotel with him.

Do these men think they're god's gift to women or something?

It gave me the ick too.

I want to feel desired, but I want someone to want to spend time with me too. The whole rushing too quickly to suggest a sleepover makes me feel like my personality and my thoughts are worthless, and actually, that's worse than feeling ugly.