How to not become bitter about being single / loneliness?

[DoomedForLoneliness]

So tired now.
I get so sad seeing couples, don’t want to hang out with friends, because they either talk about or drag their boyfriends with them.
I can’t watch tv/movies because most of them has at least some plotlines around dating and relationships and that just makes me so much more lonely.
I try to read threads about positive sides of being single - but at this point getting to eat what I want when I want and not having to share remote control isin’t cutting it anymore.
Genionly scared I hav to be all alone for the rest of my life until I finally get to die.

Except, like I said, I’ve been fine about it, I have been happy single, not so happy single, happy single again, currently not so fine with it single.
And not bitter, yet.

I’ve already kearned to love and accept myself, but like all emotions, it’s not constant.

Sounds like you're sorted, then, @DoomedForLoneliness

That's great!

Well, aren’t you lovely.

If there’s something to be happy about of not ever being in a relationship, ever, is that I didn’t end up with someone like this.

Why don’t you take your misery and cruelty somewhere else?
The fuck is wrong with you?
Why get this boiling angry of someone you don’t even know?
And for what, of never being in a relationship.
Pathetic.

Yes.
Now you can leave this thread.

Cheers guv!

Yes, I am lovely. Thanks for noticing.

Btw I’m not the one who’s boiling angry, you are. I’m not the one who’s miserable, that’s you too.

What you call cruelty is just someone daring to say that the emperor has no clothes. Sorry.

You have lots of rage and you are lashing it around and if that makes you feel better, great. If insulting and ignoring most of the thread makes you feel better, great.

What’s so depressing is that soon the life you want will be unattainable and you will look back and devastated that your fear and pride robbed you of the family you want. But, hey, at least you’ll have screamed at me so… yay?

I didn't read any anger into @MarieRoseMarie 's post, OP, just that you seem to have trouble taking advice that you've asked for, and that you wanted to vent. No need to insult her for that, really.

Whereabouts did you get the 'misery, 'cruelty' and 'boiling anger' from?

It seems like you've posted because you're struggling with being single, and then any time someone suggests you might want to find a way to be happy being single, you tell them they've got a problem, and that you're well experience with being happy being single. It doesn't make sense.

Did you want others input? What did you want us to say? What did you want to get from the thread? These are genuine questions, before you launch a barrage of insults at me.

I have to agree with this.

You're initially unhappy that you're forever single. Suggestions are made. You get uber defensive and turn on those people, then declare you are happily single... In which case why the "I'm single and unhappy about it" thread?

So you're only allowed to vent on this board, if you're in a shitty relationship ? Not if you're single and struggling with loneliness? Wow I've seen it all now.

something's very wrong here, and it's not the op.

Nobody has said anything that even vaguely resembles this.

OP posted about being upset about being single, and received advice on that subject. She has now started posting insults directed at those who have offered the advice, and thinks she's largely fine, so we're confused about why she's posted and why she's being rude to people.

Nobody has said she shouldn't have asked for advice, or who should be asking for advice.

I also agree. I wasn't intending to post but now OP is demanding that people leave the thread which I can't do with

Seems to me the OP really wanted to vent, rather than advice, but maybe didn't realise this at the time of posting, due to the way her OP was framed, specifically asking: "How to not become bitter about being single / loneliness?"

So when she got lots of advice, that she probably wasn't really looking for, because she just wanted to vent and commiserate about it, she got defensive and upset. When really all she should have put in the OP was that she wanted to vent about it. Because I can't see that much of the advice has really been well accepted.

I think I'm reading a totally different post here. Nowhere has the op stated she's actually very happy being single, hence her reason for this post!

what the op has said, is that she's fluctuated between being accepting of her status, to moments where she has felt happy enough, up to the current point in time where she's unhappy about it - these are entirely normal emotional responses! Emotions generally aren't fixed! haven't we all all had wavering emotions at some point?

I’m not defensive nor upset.
But personal attacks and being plain nasty and going on and on, just to be mean is not something anyone should have to just take.

Also I don’t like the lies that I haven’t takwn any advice aboard.
Most of them are pretty basic stuff I’ve already done, but some were something I’d follow, like I’ve already said.
Many don’t clearly bother reading thread, that’s on them.

Shit about ever, ever, ever been in a relationship and using that againts me (why, even?) is just plain nasty.
And inability to understand that emotions fluctuate is on these people, not me.
Hounding has been undeniable and I have no idea what these people get out of.
And all because some person is single.
Sick!

Where did anyone say you hadn't taken any advice on board?

I agree though piling on about you've not been in a relationship is not nice.

i would suggest being open to all new friendships. A lot of 60+ year old women are mothers of sons......

Somewhere along the comments, I’m not going to go and read all the garbage and nastiness again - once was enough, to find it.

Thanks, but this thread has no moved on to personal insults and gaslighting me.

Sorry the thread isn't going so well for you. I get that you can be OK/content with being single sometimes, and then it feel lonely, we all have peaks and troughs.

I know it's difficult, but do you have any insight into reasons dating hasn't led to relationships for you yet? Do you not get to the first date or do you meet & it not go anywhere?

DoomedForLoneliness

all I can say is focus on the nice replies and not the nasty ones

its clearly an emotive topic for people 😵‍💫

but please don’t let some bitchy self righteous keyboard warriers upset you as they clearly get a kick from it

easy to say I know 💔🧠

honestly The best way to meet normal people is friends parties etc. throw a party, go to a friends party and talk to people

if you’re into yoga, and try the more upbeat yoga places which will have you get more male demographics and the have a chat.

go to yoga workshops where you actually get to chat to people usually ones with atm balances and inversions will have men! There were about 10 at one I went to recently.

you have to go outside and be annoyingly social and it will work ❤️