I posted a few months ago about my DH asking we went to relate to discuss our non existent sex life, or to consider an open marriage. The lack of sex has been coming from me and I fully acknowledge this.
At my own admission, I felt a bit weird about therapy and after three months of discussions we decided to embark on an open marriage. DH now sleeps in the spare room and meets up with someone for sex a few times a week.
Weirdly, our relationship has improved massively since we started this arrangement. We are better co-parents, we have a lot more fun together and are strangely more loving and affectionate. We want to spend more time together too, and do a lot more as a family and on our own as a couple. I feel a weight has been lifted and he is now sexually satisfied and much happier.
Is it strange that it seems to be working so well for us? I am obviously under no illusions about what the future holds, but for now, we are the strongest we've ever been. I am surprised by how much things have improved between us and am worried this makes us abnormal. We made love for the first time in months the other day and it was apparent that that area of our relationship has fizzled out (lack of arousal from both sides, DH lost his erection, I didn't climax)
We are still very much a couple in every other way, and I know DH has no emotional ties to this other woman and she doesn't for him.
Am I being naive to think that this has been a positive for our marriage?
I almost feel guilty for being happy with the arrangement as the popular view was to not open our marriage. Opinions welcome x
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Open Marriage - seems to be working against odds, is there something wrong with us?
Pumpkinspicedmum · 08/02/2023 11:40
Pootles34 · 08/02/2023 11:45
Well, I guess it must work for some people. It sounds like it's working in particular for your husband. Do you get to see anyone else?
I wonder if you might be in the honeymoon phase - he hasn't gotten attached to this woman (yet), you aren't sick of it... I might be being old and grumpy about this, if you really are truly happy with it then that's great.
closingscore · 08/02/2023 12:09
It's clearly a joint agreement with them where they BOTH get to see other people.
Except she isn't. So basically it's just her husband having an affair that she knows about.
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