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Could he be having an affair???

972 replies

heartbroken26 · 04/02/2023 11:41

Name changed for this!! I don't even know why im posting!! I don't know anything yet?! Im hoping it's all innocent!!

Today my husband told me he was going off to golf! No problem, it's a hobby he's taken up in the last 6 months and goes off most weekends! He always said it's a good de stresser as we have 2 children under 5, one of which is an baby. So of course I've had no reason to suspect anything untoward!!

My friend text me saying she's seen him with a woman shopping in the next town over!!! She doesn't think he saw her.

I don't know what to do, say, do I ring him? Do I confront him when he's home? I'm hoping my friend is wrong 😩

OP posts:
WhiteNoiseMoreToys · 07/02/2023 11:20

Fellow Forester here!

Your husband is a dick, get a divorce and focus on yourself and your baby.

im sorry this is happening to you.

Bananatushy · 07/02/2023 23:39

Really sorry your hubby is having an affair, sounds like a dick. Such a shame cause for so much of this thread I was really rooting for you both, and it sounded like an huge misunderstanding.
Also, what a douche, your mates sister? She definately must have knows you were married! And also your friend was a bit peculiar also? What an odd way to bring it up. Probably covering for her sis, difficult one for her, I suppose. Anyway hope you are ok and manage to either work it out or split amicably. X

MrsMikeDrop · 08/02/2023 01:52

Zanatdy · 04/02/2023 20:02

re doubting your friend, is she local? Wouldn’t you dash round to one of your best friends if they were in a similar situation? I certainly would drop whatever I was doing to offer support. Isn’t that what good friends do? I guess she just saw someone who looked like your DH and because of the golf it fitted that he could be having an affair. Glad he’s not, but doesn’t hurt to keep your guard up, I mean he could have some other clothes at her house, unlikely though. I think your friend did good, she didn’t umm and ahh and ask mumsnet if she should tell her friend she potentially saw her husband with another woman. She let you know straight away and came round to offer to support you. I hope she’s not done this to cause drama, I guess you know what kind of person she is and whether she’s capable of doing that more than we do.

Yeah the friend sounds like a good one to me. I'm guessing there was some vibe or something that's what made her suspect

Bagsundermyeyestoday · 08/02/2023 01:54

Noodlehen · 04/02/2023 23:11

I was convinced that it was all a misunderstanding and now reading again I’m not sure. The only thing we have to go on is the “panicked” look. I really hope you get to the bottom of this, OP.

Also the shower ... or is this normal after playing golf?

MrsMikeDrop · 08/02/2023 01:56

mattyd · 05/02/2023 15:06

I can understand why some posters don't want to read the full thread, but just reading the OP's posts is so simple. I don't get why you wouldn't.

Sorry for the random q ... is there a way to do this on the Samsung app? I could only do that on my old iphone

Novatherova · 08/02/2023 04:42

The Op has confirmed that he is having an affair

user40643 · 08/02/2023 15:08

Benjispruce4 · 06/02/2023 19:46

Sorry to hear your update. What a tosser! 💐

After you troll hunted her in several posts. How kind of you. Flowers

Benjispruce4 · 08/02/2023 17:14

Troll hunter? What are you talking about? The OP’s posts were a bit lighthearted given the possible situation and I questioned it. Hardly a troll hunter. You, on the other hand have made it your business to step in as the righteous mnetter. Get over yourself!

user40643 · 08/02/2023 17:52

Benjispruce4 · 08/02/2023 17:14

Troll hunter? What are you talking about? The OP’s posts were a bit lighthearted given the possible situation and I questioned it. Hardly a troll hunter. You, on the other hand have made it your business to step in as the righteous mnetter. Get over yourself!

Yes, troll hunting hence HQ deleted your posts.
I will always call out those who are wrong especially when it's affecting someone in a vulnerable situation.

Benjispruce4 · 08/02/2023 18:37

Did they? Hadn’t even noticed. I think that’s a massive overreaction. Not that I care.

Benjispruce4 · 08/02/2023 18:37

Good job you’re so invested though isn’t it? 🤔

Benjispruce4 · 08/02/2023 18:41

Always amazes me what MNHQ deem unfit. There was a vile thread around the Prince Harry book and posters were saying awful things about him and his wife but MN were absolutely fine with it. Me saying that I had doubts about a poster has to be taken down from the site. Very odd.

user40643 · 08/02/2023 23:58

Benjispruce4 · 08/02/2023 18:41

Always amazes me what MNHQ deem unfit. There was a vile thread around the Prince Harry book and posters were saying awful things about him and his wife but MN were absolutely fine with it. Me saying that I had doubts about a poster has to be taken down from the site. Very odd.

Troll hunting is against the rules.
If you doubt a post/ poster is genuine then report it. Don't repeatedly comment saying OP isn't genuine.

I'm not going to derail the thread further.

user40643 · 08/02/2023 23:58

@heartbroken26 How are you OP?

user40643 · 12/02/2023 06:25

@heartbroken 26 Hope you're as okay as you can be. Thinking of you.

GhostsJulianforPrimeMinister · 12/02/2023 20:57

He is having an affair! Follow on thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4737236-he-is-having-an-affair-follow-on-thread

Noodlehen · 12/02/2023 22:42

user40643 · 12/02/2023 06:25

@heartbroken 26 Hope you're as okay as you can be. Thinking of you.

OP started a new thread

user40643 · 13/02/2023 00:03

Thank you pp

Almost5lady · 05/04/2023 22:41

I’ve just been reading the thread and I feel for you so much… I hope you are doing ok and having mum with you is an absolute godsend … you will get through this one way or another 💕

Mercyovermerit · 05/04/2023 22:50

I’m positive I’ve read this story , exact same plot somewhere. Can’t recall now if it was on here or from a book. But I’ve definitely read this somewhere. In fact , it in the end as I recall, turned out to be the friend’s sister he was having an affair with !

zooopta · 26/07/2023 21:56

KeziaOAP · 05/04/2023 23:08

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