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Could he be having an affair???

972 replies

heartbroken26 · 04/02/2023 11:41

Name changed for this!! I don't even know why im posting!! I don't know anything yet?! Im hoping it's all innocent!!

Today my husband told me he was going off to golf! No problem, it's a hobby he's taken up in the last 6 months and goes off most weekends! He always said it's a good de stresser as we have 2 children under 5, one of which is an baby. So of course I've had no reason to suspect anything untoward!!

My friend text me saying she's seen him with a woman shopping in the next town over!!! She doesn't think he saw her.

I don't know what to do, say, do I ring him? Do I confront him when he's home? I'm hoping my friend is wrong 😩

OP posts:
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heartbroken26 · 04/02/2023 12:05

My friend is on her way over now as I'm a bit of a mess! She's gonna help me figure it out! But she's 100% sure it was him! I've just text him asking how golf is going! I'm yet to receive a reply

OP posts:
Yetanothernamechangeagain · 04/02/2023 12:06

I would wait until he gets home and then demand an explanation there and then. Don’t give him any time to come up with a story. If he says he was with a sister etc get him to phone them to confirm immediately so he doesn’t get any chance to prepare an alibi

Yetanothernamechangeagain · 04/02/2023 12:07

Sorry you are going through this 💐

Denise82 · 04/02/2023 12:08

I'd either send a picture of me and the kids playing with his golf clubs and see what he says.
Or I'd just call and ask him why are his golf clubs here and who is the woman my friend has seen him with.

JollyJolene · 04/02/2023 12:08

I’m pleased your friend is coming over. I hope you get it sorted 💐

Emmamoo89 · 04/02/2023 12:09

Glad your friend is coming over x

FrenchandSaunders · 04/02/2023 12:10

Christ he’s thick isn’t he, not even taking the golf clubs. Sorry OP.

Even without an affair he’s really taking the piss …. out every weekend playing golf and then out again for rugby/drinks when you have two under 5s 😳.

Dejavu23 · 04/02/2023 12:10

I would have to contact him now to say he forgot his golf clubs and he’d better come straight back for them. I wouldn’t let him enjoy his day out with his lady friend.

MayThe4th · 04/02/2023 12:11

You don’t need evidence at this point. You have evidence.

He didn’t take his golf clubs with him and he was seen with another woman.

I would just tell him you know he’s having an affair and then I would throw him out.

workiskillingme · 04/02/2023 12:12

Dejavu23 · 04/02/2023 12:10

I would have to contact him now to say he forgot his golf clubs and he’d better come straight back for them. I wouldn’t let him enjoy his day out with his lady friend.

Oh I would
The day out would turn into forever

SmartHome · 04/02/2023 12:13

Tell him to come home now there an emergency and leave his golf clubs on the drive.

Dejavu23 · 04/02/2023 12:14

I would definitely spoil his day. He will be crapping himself.

Denise82 · 04/02/2023 12:15

In fact don't call, have the clubs at the front door when he gets home so he see them, then ask him where he was and that your friend thought they saw him shopping in town, was it for valentines etc if he confirms he was in town, then ask who the woman was as you will know it was him.
You know your husband and you will know if he's lying to you. x

nc1013 · 04/02/2023 12:15

Even if he is having an affair surely he'd at least have the sense to stick his golf clubs in the car 🙄

lap90 · 04/02/2023 12:16

Is this for real?

MrsVeryIrritated · 04/02/2023 12:16

Easy peasy - call the Golf Club and ask what time his tee off was as you need to get in contact with him and he's not answering his phone.

rainbowstardrops · 04/02/2023 12:16

Fancy not even taking his clubs with him! What a dipshit!
Did the friend say he was wearing the clothes that you saw him go out in?
Sorry he's doing this to you Flowers

MrsVeryIrritated · 04/02/2023 12:16

lap90 · 04/02/2023 12:16

Is this for real?

I don't think a man would be as stupid to leave the clubs at home. Men having affairs are very sneaky.

Christmaspyjamas · 04/02/2023 12:17

nc1013 · 04/02/2023 12:15

Even if he is having an affair surely he'd at least have the sense to stick his golf clubs in the car 🙄

Likely since this has been going on for 6 months he's got lax and cocky or is possibly at the stage where he now wants to be caught out.

chronictonic · 04/02/2023 12:18

There is still a real possibility he is shopping for a surprise isn't there?

Dejavu23 · 04/02/2023 12:19

He wouldn’t think op would check he had taken the clubs.

Grincheynewyear · 04/02/2023 12:19

Do not tell him you know he hasn’t taken his clubs.

Get your friend to drive you to the club to confirm he is not there. Then go to town to see if you can see him.

Do not confront, do not ask any questions. Get your evidence and then talk to him about his day. Let him chat about golf etc. It will be fucking hard but he WILL gaslight you if you mention the clubs and the lack of golf.

GrasstrackGirl · 04/02/2023 12:19

Wow this is a fast moving thread, OP got their answer very quickly.

trieditbuyedit · 04/02/2023 12:20

Ah op Im so sorry.

Meem321 · 04/02/2023 12:20

Whether he's having an affair or not, he's a bit of a shit leaving you at home all day to play golf/ watch rugby. You have 2 young kids and he can't be arsed to spend time with them or give you a break. What a dick.