Could he be having an affair???

[heartbroken26]

Name changed for this!! I don't even know why im posting!! I don't know anything yet?! Im hoping it's all innocent!!

Today my husband told me he was going off to golf! No problem, it's a hobby he's taken up in the last 6 months and goes off most weekends! He always said it's a good de stresser as we have 2 children under 5, one of which is an baby. So of course I've had no reason to suspect anything untoward!!

My friend text me saying she's seen him with a woman shopping in the next town over!!! She doesn't think he saw her.

I don't know what to do, say, do I ring him? Do I confront him when he's home? I'm hoping my friend is wrong 😩

She literally hasn't?

Your friend is a very true friend.

What do you mean? There's been numerous updates since

You've definitely got a good friend there. Utterly awful situation for you. Just remember your worth! He's a pig and you deserve better

@Mandyjack you need to filter the OPs posts!

So sorry for what has unravelled :( Stay strong and sounds like you have a good friend there.

As soon as the kids are in bed I'm off myself, I am absolutely shattered, physically and emotionally. My mum is staying with me luckily to help out with the boys. I'm still not taking his calls. I can't face him right now, I had a missed call from my mother in law too so I presume he's had to fess up! I've given this man 15 years of my life. Financially I'm screwed short term as I'm still on maternity leave. I don't even think I can cover the bills once back at work but thats problems to mull over another day. You are all so kind. I wish I could reply to each and everyone of you.

I am sorry to read your updates.

This was not a fling but a full blown affair!

And even when he was rumbled he has still minimised and blamed you.

Your friend was really put in a tough situation. I suppose she had hoped that by saying she saw him shopping, you’d be able to get into his phone and he’d be exposed. She didn’t know that the boys club were implicit in hiding what he was doing with the instagram posts.

This is very overwhelming for you and you shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed.

He took her to your local pub on a date! He’s lied, spent family money on wining and dining her. Is she married?

l would continue to ignore his calls (I would temporarily block his number) and try and have someone with you as I think he’ll try and turn up to ware you down.

I am sorry 💐

Don't even think about bills etc, put yourself first, get a good rest. Glad your mum's with you. He can go lie in a ditch the rat that he is. Easy to say don't overthink it. Please look after yourself. Your worth more. Big hug. X

so very sorry, OP. He is an ass and your friend is a keeper.

Oh OP I was reading this thread and just hoping in my heart the whole way that he was faithful. I am so sorry that this has happened and I really wish I could just fly over and give you a warm bear hug and take all your pain away. I can't imagine what you're going through and I will never understand the people who do this. Two young children as well. At the end of the day it's the children that suffer the most from broken families. My heart is hurting for you and I wish all this wasn't true. Right now it's too soon but i pray that may you find peace and may you heal from this. It's not fair. Sending love to you xx

I’m so sorry, we have all been following your story hoping your friend was wrong. Sadly the signs were there. Don’t answer his calls until you’re ready. That classic line that you weren’t giving him enough sex post baby. If he can’t sacrifice a bit of sex when you have a young baby then shame on him. You deserve better. Think long and hard what you want to do, we can all advise you, but at the end of the day you have to live with the decision now us. Good luck

Do you have any nytol in the house? Take one and get some sleep.

I have RTFT now.
I've been in you shoes before OP and I feel so sorry for you. We're always the last to know I'm afraid, but good luck with everything to come. 💐

So sorry this has happened to you. Sending love and healing hugs. Bless you.

So I was kind of right lol. Knew something up with your friend.

Get the lying bastard out of your house and bleed him dry in the divorce.

This thread has stayed with me all day so tough.
But look to Vanessa Feltz for inspiration, she’s so strong!
Cant believe what he’s thrown away. What a knobhead.

From earlier posts I really thought your friend was just trying to cause trouble but I totally take that back. She must have been going out of her mind as it was between her sister and you but she’s done the best thing by telling you. At least you know she’s on your side. Your husband is a complete shit. He’s treated you terribly and you’re doing the right thing by getting rid of him. I genuinely hope his cock drops off. Best wishes to you

I am so sorry, @heartbroken26 . I was with you all the way and hoping for the best, wondering why your friend was being such a shit stirrer.

Do look after yourself, you sound like a great character and I wish you the very best that can come out of this devastating discovery.

I’m so sorry 😘 sending lots of love.

Keep him blocked for now as he’s going to make your mental health worse. Take every day as it comes, try to eat even something small. Accept any help you can get.

Check entitled to as you may qualify for help. Honestly you will get there 😘 your children will keep you going and in a few years you will realise the cheating looser has done you a massive favour.

I’m so sorry OP it turned out to be true.

Just be aware that whatever he’s told his Mum probably isn’t the truth.

Sorry op hope you are okay.

Sorry to hear this. Google entiltedto.co.uk you may qualify for some help. This is no way your fault, you gave birth to and have been looking after his children. He could have used his hand! If she was his teenage fling I'd be sceptical about it only being 4months, what about when you had your first baby how did he manage then? Thinking of you, don't let him back.

So sorry lovely! Gaslighting idiot. You go show them what you are made of

I am so sorry it happens to you. You did the right thing by kicking him out, it is going to be hard but with the support of your family and friends you will get through it. You will have up and down but stay strong for your children and please take care of yourself.