Could he be having an affair???

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Name changed for this!! I don't even know why im posting!! I don't know anything yet?! Im hoping it's all innocent!!

Today my husband told me he was going off to golf! No problem, it's a hobby he's taken up in the last 6 months and goes off most weekends! He always said it's a good de stresser as we have 2 children under 5, one of which is an baby. So of course I've had no reason to suspect anything untoward!!

My friend text me saying she's seen him with a woman shopping in the next town over!!! She doesn't think he saw her.

I don't know what to do, say, do I ring him? Do I confront him when he's home? I'm hoping my friend is wrong 😩

The 'vile' one is actually the husband.

I am so sorry that he has turned out to be a bastard of epic proportions. It is a huge shock and blow for you. Well done to your friend for choosing you over her sister. Please look after yourself as hard as that is going to be. Loads of tea and biscuits for a few days if that is all you can manage. I would suggest getting copies of any and all paperwork you can get your hands on and store it with your mum. Originals of birth/marriage certificates and passports plus copies of payslips, banking etc. Everything that you can lay your hands on.

There are also some truly vile people on MN, whose comments have thankfully been deleted, and they are what the pp was referring to.

I've just read through all this. How awful for you. I actually thought before I saw your update that your friend was having an affair with him but didn't know how to tell you.

If it were me I'd message her and tell her she's welcome to him and he said it was only for sex so good luck! Then block them both.

😘

I read your early posts and thought this was all a mistake but instead not only is he a cheat but he's a damn sneaky little git as well, he really thought he'd got the perfect alibi. Your friend is a damn good one, you need to hang on to her, him, not so much. He'll now be so sorry, it meant nothing, but it does, it really does, he knew why your sex life was flagging a bit but instead of being grateful for his baby and being patient he did the dirty on you.
If you feel you can forgive and go on with the marriage, then that's your choice and no one should tell you otherwise but I'd have lost all faith in him. It's so shallow and pathetic, creeping around for a shag and thinking you'll never know, it's not only adultery it's an insult to your marriage and your intelligence.

Seriously fuck off and start your own thread. What the hell is wrong with you.

Read the room ffs

Wow!

It’s just spam. Probably a bot and is probably on lots of threads…

I live near The FOD. You don't need a patio or even to dig a hole since the wild boar became resident. They eat everything including the golf clubs if need be.

Sorry you are going through this OP. Do not ever consider staying with him. He is a lying snake who is blaming you for his affair.

Well done for kicking him out OP!
I feel for you,I really do but you have done the right thing.xx.

@ButterBastardBeans 😂😂 "Wild boar eat anything including the golf clubs"

HB, my heart goes out to you. How rich that your H is now desperate for contact. He wasn’t thinking of you and the children at all when he was deviously lying, plotting, and living his double life (even in public) with your friend’s sister. This snake has made a mockery of all of you.

If he were truly remorseful after discovery, he would have taken full responsibility for his decision to cheat and not shifted the blame to you and his baby. He would’ve come clean about the full extent of his affair. Instead, you’ve had to hear more of the truth from your friend. He’s clearly been investing a good deal of his energy, time and attention in this OW. The shame is his, as he is the kind of person who feels entitled to trash his family to pursue illicit thrills and ego validation.

In my view, he is a very poor candidate for successful reconciliation.

HB, you are shattered and in shock, so try to absorb the healing comfort of your mother, children and friend. When you feel stronger, consider meeting with a solicitor to learn your options as you make your decisions.

Looks like she specifically targeted this thread.

Fucking twattish thing to do. I got all the details from her survey...

Op. Hope you're okay. Don't feel embarrassed. You've done nothing wrong. Glad you have people around you you can trust. Go easy on yourself. You'll likely be in shock for a while

So sneaky he even changed his clothes! All planned out!! You’re lucky to have a friend like that or this could have gone on for months.

m There will be a time when you consider taking him back “for the kids” do not do it! I repeat…DO NOT! It will just end badly for you.

Just read through most of the thread...how horrible for you, I'm so sorry OP.

Sorry OP. No need to make any big decisions yet, just a day at a time until you are ready -that's key. Ignore him for now if that suits you.
He does not have the right to know a time-frame of how you are going to react, or how long you need; all in your time.
He is an idiot.

I'm so sorry, op. This is just horrendous.

Oh OP I’m so sorry, I read this yesterday and hoped it was a misunderstanding.

but I just wanted to say that I can well believe that a golf buddy covered for him. Many years ago I had a BF who covered for a friend who was cheating on his wife by taking his mates squash kit away on weekend squash trips and using the towel to make it look like the husband had been where he said he was.

i was disgusted and ended the relationship after I found that out.

Sorry you're going though this, OP.

He's a poor excuse for a man and won't change. Being able to carry off an emotional and physical affair for 4 months with a wife and young children at home is a clear sign that he has no conscience, love, or respect for you.

Don't be tempted to reconcile. Set up child maintenance and don't look back.

It never looked good at the point that he switched his location off. You only do that if you’re trying to hide something.

What a shit bag he is.

I'm crying at all your lovely comments, honestly, it's like I have hundreds of friends helping and supporting me. Thankfully I haven't seen the horrible ones before they've been deleted as talk about kicking someone when there down

I'm so sorry OP. When I read your thread Saturday morning I think it was. I hoped it would turn out ok. Such awful news.
At least now he can't do this to you anymore. Welldone for chucking him out. I'm glad your mum is helping you. It must be so hard 💐

Tbh I initially thought your thread was BS. I’m very sorry to hear it’s not and what the dickhead has been up to. Well done on kicking him out. I hope you have some relief and rest soon