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Dating Thread 238 - Sex, Beer and Sausage Rolls (for the lucky ones!)

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OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 20/01/2023 09:57

Hi All welcome to a shiny new thread as we proceed into 2023 with support for those riding the rollercoasters of the world of dating.

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

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beepbeepme · 20/01/2023 10:39

Thanks @OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss for the new thread.

MrBike just messaged a couple of times, our morning greeting! 😂

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BluntEmily · 20/01/2023 10:52

Thank you for the new thread!

Re my query from the other thread, the restaurant is about a 40 min drive from me, but I live very rurally so public transport and taxis aren’t an option.

I’ve messaged to say thanks for the offer and let’s see how the evening goes. Which is probably a bit of a cop out but at the moment I genuinely don’t know what I want to do

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LuckyLinda3 · 20/01/2023 10:57

🖐 checking in!

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BluntEmily · 20/01/2023 10:57

Also @NoDatingForOldMen I think that unless someone still looks exactly like they did in their old photos (and if she does I’m very jealous) then why use them? It would be obvious when she meets someone that her photos are old.

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Thisisworsethananticpated · 20/01/2023 11:12

Thanks

forgot how good the thread rules are

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NellyTheCake · 20/01/2023 11:22

De-lurking to give a virtual hug to @NoDatingForOldMen. I don't think anyone can appreciate how difficult, stressful and time consuming it can be to deal with elderly parents, until you go through it yourself.
But a partner should be there for you during difficult times. It's not all about the fun dates.
Mr MindReader didn't get it. But I have date next week with someone who seems to understand 🙂

To answer the question about using old photos. Now I'm back on OLD I'm seeing lots of men using the same photos from 6+ years ago. It is off putting.

However, I had some professional photos done about 4yrs ago as a favour to a friend. I use one of them as I don't think I've changed that much. But my main profile pic is up to date. I have been told professional pics make you look like a scammer.
You don't want to turn up to a date and not be able to recognise the person you're meeting. It's happened to me a few times!

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Mila14 · 20/01/2023 12:20

Excellent. Be free to cop out

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Mila14 · 20/01/2023 12:21

Thanks for thread Oncey

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teesguy · 20/01/2023 16:51

This has got to be the best thread title yet!!

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beepbeepme · 20/01/2023 17:50

Love the thread title!

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5thWisdom · 20/01/2023 17:54

Marking my place peeps.

Happy weekend everyone x

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teesguy · 20/01/2023 19:01

Looking forward to a weekend away with MissG to the National Running show in Birmingham 😊

Hope everyone has a great weekend!

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Definitelycross · 20/01/2023 20:02

Hi

No my photos are from Christmas. Weird that they're that old.

I'm keeping schtum on my current state of affairs as I really, really don't want to jinx it but I've got everything crossed. 🤫

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Mila14 · 20/01/2023 20:49

Definitelycross · 20/01/2023 20:02

Hi

No my photos are from Christmas. Weird that they're that old.

I'm keeping schtum on my current state of affairs as I really, really don't want to jinx it but I've got everything crossed. 🤫

Deffy…sending good luck vibes…🍀🍀🍀🤞🤞🤞🤞😉😉😉

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BaddogGooddoggy · 20/01/2023 21:58

Checking in - lurking still, dreaming of sausage rolls

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beepbeepme · 20/01/2023 23:11

I wasn't expecting a call from MrBike tonight, but he called anyway 😊 He sounded a bit down and very tired, but I think I was able to cheer him up a bit. It definitely cheered me up hearing from him. I've a busy day with family tomorrow and then Sunday I'll see him! Can't wait! He told me he was missing me in a message this morning 😊 Sorry I know I'm insufferable 😂

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Slothmomma · 20/01/2023 23:26

Not long home from date with Mr Tradie. I liked him - good company, interesting and easy on eye. Cheeky car park kiss 😆 I'd see him again if he's up for it

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beepbeepme · 20/01/2023 23:54

Slothmomma · 20/01/2023 23:26

Not long home from date with Mr Tradie. I liked him - good company, interesting and easy on eye. Cheeky car park kiss 😆 I'd see him again if he's up for it

That's good, 🤞 he suggests another meet up.

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Mila14 · 21/01/2023 09:03

beepbeepme · 20/01/2023 23:11

I wasn't expecting a call from MrBike tonight, but he called anyway 😊 He sounded a bit down and very tired, but I think I was able to cheer him up a bit. It definitely cheered me up hearing from him. I've a busy day with family tomorrow and then Sunday I'll see him! Can't wait! He told me he was missing me in a message this morning 😊 Sorry I know I'm insufferable 😂

You are NOT. And we love to hear how’s it going and it’s going 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰❤️♥️♥️. This clearly, two people falling in love madly and these things happen

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beepbeepme · 21/01/2023 09:07

@Mila14 😊 I think so. I checked last night and since first messaging on the app 3 weeks ago yesterday there's only been 4 days we haven't spoken on the phone or met up. I'm going to take that as confirmation that he feels the same way, as it's always him who calls me 😊

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Mila14 · 21/01/2023 10:05

beepbeepme · 21/01/2023 09:07

@Mila14 😊 I think so. I checked last night and since first messaging on the app 3 weeks ago yesterday there's only been 4 days we haven't spoken on the phone or met up. I'm going to take that as confirmation that he feels the same way, as it's always him who calls me 😊

Indeed!!,

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Mollymolloy · 21/01/2023 10:15

Morning all… had a 2nd date with MrP last night. Nerves and vino got the better of me and a knocked a glass of water into my lap whilst having dinner in a restaurant. Very embarrassing when I had to nip to the loo as I was soaked from the waist down!! I was mortified… MrP was good about it..

Things got very steamy last night… despite the spillage!! I really, really fancy MrP and got proper fanny gallops. I am trying to slow things down as I don’t want to mess things up by DTD too early… been there, bought a t shirt….

How long does everyone else wait?

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beepbeepme · 21/01/2023 12:06

Mollymolloy · 21/01/2023 10:15

Morning all… had a 2nd date with MrP last night. Nerves and vino got the better of me and a knocked a glass of water into my lap whilst having dinner in a restaurant. Very embarrassing when I had to nip to the loo as I was soaked from the waist down!! I was mortified… MrP was good about it..

Things got very steamy last night… despite the spillage!! I really, really fancy MrP and got proper fanny gallops. I am trying to slow things down as I don’t want to mess things up by DTD too early… been there, bought a t shirt….

How long does everyone else wait?

Bless you, I'd be embarrassed too, but sounds like he took it well.

I waited until the 4th date to DTD but things had got pretty steamy by then!

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Lovemusic33 · 21/01/2023 12:14

Oh new thread 😁

I am still dating Mr Cherry but it’s getting to the stage where his true self is emerging and I am starting to feel like his wife rather than his new partner. I strongly suspect he is on the spectrum which is fine but he has really strong opinions about certain things and it seems he falls out with people that don’t agree with his views. I would also like more affection from him and more bedroom fun. Things were always slow (took ages to get a kiss out of him) but I was hoping things would be much different by now. We are seeing each other at least twice a week which is plenty for me, he seems to want to see me more often but my life is pretty busy with DC’s and I like spending time on my own and with friends.

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Definitelycross · 21/01/2023 12:54

Keeping all crossed did nothing. I think I'm destined to attract freaks and twats.

Long story short, messaging loads, he asked me out for a proper date tonight. He was in the pub last night. Still messaging. I said - still on for tomorrow? - nothing at all. I'm so over it tbh.

I have a coffee date lined up this week with someone that looks wise isn't my usual type but I thought I'd give it a go. If this one doesn't work then I am taking an apps break.

I just don't understand what they get out of this???

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