so recently engaged.. well 2 months or so..i hate to admit but when i saw the ring my immediate feeling was disappointment, it looked cheap like costume jewelry and not what i expected. I'm not a jewelry wearer in general so my expectations about a ring were low. i tried the ring on and it was a bit big, he said he wud get it resized for me.. so 2 months has gone past and no mention of the ring or fixing it . out of curiosity today i researched the hallmark on the ring. It says sterling silver cubic zirconia. basically cheap..i know an engagement is not about money but i know he can afford so much more.. and is extravagant in his own spending on himself... am i entitled to feel disappointed or shud the ring price matter
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newbie224 · 01/01/2023 22:08
so recently engaged.. well 2 months or so..i hate to admit but when i saw the ring my immediate feeling was disappointment, it looked cheap like costume jewelry and not what i expected. I'm not a jewelry wearer in general so my expectations about a ring were low. i tried the ring on and it was a bit big, he said he wud get it resized for me.. so 2 months has gone past and no mention of the ring or fixing it . out of curiosity today i researched the hallmark on the ring. It says sterling silver cubic zirconia. basically cheap..i know an engagement is not about money but i know he can afford so much more.. and is extravagant in his own spending on himself... am i entitled to feel disappointed or shud the ring price matter
SheWoreYellow · 01/01/2023 22:26
Oh crikey OP, it’s likely to have cost £20-£30
eg www.argos.co.uk/product/7570605?clickSR=slp:term:cubic%20zirconia%20rings:26:301:1
I think natural diamonds can be ethically dubious and there are great alternatives out there, but that’s different to him not saying it’s not a valuable ring.
UsingChangeofName · 01/01/2023 22:30
I don't understand why you would be thinking about marrying someone that you can't have a conversation with.
I have mixed views on the cost of the ring - mine didn't cost that much. However we didn't have much money at the time and it was a joint decision about what we should spend and I got to choose a ring I would like (as, after all I am the one who has worn it for over 30 years).
But, you know, we TALKED.
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