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An electrician has been doing jobs in my house and I felt there was some chemistry between us. Now wondering if I should contact him again or leave it

182 replies

Asparkwasfelt · 21/12/2022 22:43

Within the last month, an electrician has been over at my house to do a couple of jobs. His second visit was yesterday, and the work itself is now completely sorted and paid for. I'm happy on that front. As you can probably surmise from the fact I'm posting about him in relationships, I felt there was some connection between us and I'm wondering what I should do. After he finished the job, we were chatting for a good 20 minutes. While this was happening, I was smiling like a Cheshire cat and trying (and probably failing) not to give the impression of being an excited teenager with a crush. He was smiling a lot himself during the conversation. I asked him if he has a partner and he said he hasn't. Before he left, he said I should call or text him to let him know if I need anything else. I told him I would. I know tradesmen are supposed to be friendly and polite, but the way he said it seemed flirty. It seemed like he meant more than just to contact him if I need any more jobs done around the house.

I think he's very attractive. I fancied him a bit after the first visit, now I fancy him even more. I'm single with no DCs myself. If I had to guess I would say he is mid-30s. If I do text him, what should I say? Do you think it's too soon or should I wait a bit until after Christmas?

OP posts:
Welshy26 · 21/12/2022 22:50

Love this. Text him!

SomeChickensAreJustTooBig · 21/12/2022 22:52

FGS! Text him!

NewBootsAndRanty · 21/12/2022 22:53

If you think you feel a spark, get a different electrician in just to confirm everything's earthed properly.

Sorry.

Sure, text him - just ask if he fangies going for a drink or something.
what have you got to lose?

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/12/2022 22:54

"I hate to lose a good plumber but do you want to go out sometime" with a smiley face.

But I last dated 15 years ago so it's probably all dick pics and weirdness now.

MindPalace · 21/12/2022 22:55

Do it. There’s clearly electricity ⚡ between you two so go for it! Nothing to lose!

greenbirdsong · 21/12/2022 22:56

Life's too short. Go for it!
And make sure you come back to tell us the tale.

Happydayswillcomeagain · 21/12/2022 22:56

Message him!! You’ve nothing to lose.

I was in the exact same position approx 2 years and posted here for advice. I took the advice and I messaged him and we’ve been together ever since. I took a risk and met the most amazing guy - he’s snoring beside me just now 😃

Santancrap · 21/12/2022 22:57

yeah do it!
you’ll never know and always wonder if you don’t x

Xiaoxiong · 21/12/2022 22:57

There was a long running series of threads on here a few years ago where a MNer who (I think?) had been widowed a few years previously fancied her gardener and eventually asked him out, egged on by hundreds of cheerleading posters. And I think he accepted and they went on to have at least one shag, though I might be misremembering. I think she asked him if he was ever free for a drink when he was leaving one day, as simple as that.

So yes you have to ask your guy out! It's practically MN tradition.

Always28 · 21/12/2022 22:58

Definitely text him! You have nothing to lose. Keep us updated!

Louisa259 · 21/12/2022 22:58

Do it!

strawberriesplease · 21/12/2022 22:58

I'm too old to be helpful as I'd expect him to make the first move.

As I say, probably way out of touch.

If you feel comfortable doing so, text him.

I'd still be a coward and make up an excuse rather than be direct, like 'did you leave your scarf' to see if he then asked something

Xiaoxiong · 21/12/2022 22:58

@Happydayswillcomeagain was it you?? Are you the poster I'm remembering?

Xiaoxiong · 21/12/2022 22:59

If it was you, you've clearly had more than one shag Xmas Grin

LuluBlakey1 · 21/12/2022 22:59

Is this Motherland? Is he called Gary?

InFiveMins · 21/12/2022 23:00

Yep I'm another saying go for it. Life's too short. Good luck.

Lillygolightly · 21/12/2022 23:01

Did you feel a spark?? 😁

bellamountain · 21/12/2022 23:03

LuluBlakey1 · 21/12/2022 22:59

Is this Motherland? Is he called Gary?

Haha!

Text him OP, you have nothing to lose.

HaggisBurger · 21/12/2022 23:03

Defo go for it!

RaininSummer · 21/12/2022 23:04

Yep just send him a message saying you loved chatting and wondered if he fancied another chat over a drink or whatever.

colouringindoors · 21/12/2022 23:04

Do it! Chemistry is too important to ignore!

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 21/12/2022 23:04

Don't get your wires crossed.
Drop him a text.

underneaththeash · 21/12/2022 23:06

say that everything is perfect with the work, but he’s welcome to come for a Christmas drink!

IVFlife · 21/12/2022 23:08

What have you got to lose?

Theseboobsweremadeforwalking · 21/12/2022 23:10

Tell him you hope you didn't get con-fuse-ed by the spark but you've had a lightbulb moment and he turns you on.

Also you'd never have to find an electrician for your home and they're supposed to earn well. In this climate seems like a no brainer.