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An electrician has been doing jobs in my house and I felt there was some chemistry between us. Now wondering if I should contact him again or leave it

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Asparkwasfelt · 21/12/2022 22:43

Within the last month, an electrician has been over at my house to do a couple of jobs. His second visit was yesterday, and the work itself is now completely sorted and paid for. I'm happy on that front. As you can probably surmise from the fact I'm posting about him in relationships, I felt there was some connection between us and I'm wondering what I should do. After he finished the job, we were chatting for a good 20 minutes. While this was happening, I was smiling like a Cheshire cat and trying (and probably failing) not to give the impression of being an excited teenager with a crush. He was smiling a lot himself during the conversation. I asked him if he has a partner and he said he hasn't. Before he left, he said I should call or text him to let him know if I need anything else. I told him I would. I know tradesmen are supposed to be friendly and polite, but the way he said it seemed flirty. It seemed like he meant more than just to contact him if I need any more jobs done around the house.

I think he's very attractive. I fancied him a bit after the first visit, now I fancy him even more. I'm single with no DCs myself. If I had to guess I would say he is mid-30s. If I do text him, what should I say? Do you think it's too soon or should I wait a bit until after Christmas?

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GrowingToads · 27/12/2022 23:20

I think I would have done a little more digging to see if he was attatched, quick scroll on social media for example.

Too late now.

Marmitepot · 28/12/2022 00:21

So exciting! Glad you had a great time OP!

BakersYeast · 28/12/2022 00:26

OMG @Asparkwasfelt where do you live? I know a tradie who does this all the time and he is married. What initial does his name being with?

EmilyGilmoresSass · 28/12/2022 09:08

Asparkwasfelt · 27/12/2022 15:48

I have a really nice update. When I met him for the date, there was definitely a spark. The texts between us were getting very flirty indeed before we met. We were talking in the pub for ages. I got the sense he was up for coming back to mine for a personal visit. I wanted that as well. I was actually getting an aching feeling in my fanjo while I was with him. So I invited him back. I think it would be fair to say that neither of us needed a crystal ball to know that we were probably going to end up having sex. After we got back to my place, it didn't take very long for that to happen. He did not disappoint. 😊

I don't know if it's going to be an FWB situation or if he wants a relationship, but I really like him. We'll see what happens.

You lost me at 'fanjo' if I'm being honest. You sound like a teenager.

amiold · 28/12/2022 09:21

Haha. Brill

RenoDakota · 28/12/2022 09:37

I have been following this thread since the start and absolutely love the progression of it.
Sad to see the judgy comments about sleeping with the guy 'too soon'. There is no such thing as too soon - we all make our decisions that are right for us.
I ended up married to a man I slept with 'too soon'.
Go, OP! Fabulous post and updates, however it turns out.
All the best to you Flowers

TastesLikeFlavourlessFizz · 28/12/2022 09:40

Excellent update! 💃🏼

strawberriesplease · 28/12/2022 09:41

BakersYeast · 28/12/2022 00:26

OMG @Asparkwasfelt where do you live? I know a tradie who does this all the time and he is married. What initial does his name being with?

It begins with ... ODFOD Smile

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 28/12/2022 09:43

You lost me at 'fanjo' if I'm being honest. You sound like a teenager.

How brilliant to feel like a teenager again !!!!!

parlourb · 28/12/2022 10:24

GrowingToads · 27/12/2022 23:20

I think I would have done a little more digging to see if he was attatched, quick scroll on social media for example.

Too late now.

Sounds made up to me

Yaslana · 28/12/2022 10:36

strawberriesplease · 28/12/2022 09:41

It begins with ... ODFOD Smile

Wow!

This may not be such a fairystory as you think... its hugely possible this guy is married

HideyHoe · 28/12/2022 11:20

@Blip which episode or season of Motherland has that plot? I've never seen the show but interested as love a bit of cheesy romance.

Iwanttoslowdown · 28/12/2022 12:55

Love this update OP. Not quite the Hallmark romance storyline but hey am pleased for a fanjo-tastic outcome 🤣

Willowswood · 28/12/2022 13:23

HideyHoe · 28/12/2022 11:20

@Blip which episode or season of Motherland has that plot? I've never seen the show but interested as love a bit of cheesy romance.

It's season 3.

It's not really romance. Julia idolises Garry her builder, he just gets on with his job, oblivious.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 28/12/2022 13:29
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Oopsiedaisyy · 28/12/2022 13:55

Ah brilliant, life is too short not to make the most of a good fanny flutter.

As for those who seem to think sex early on can't or won't lead to a long term relationship, is this your personal experience? If so, could it just be you're bad in bed?

Willowswood · 28/12/2022 14:12

Oopsiedaisyy · 28/12/2022 13:55

Ah brilliant, life is too short not to make the most of a good fanny flutter.

As for those who seem to think sex early on can't or won't lead to a long term relationship, is this your personal experience? If so, could it just be you're bad in bed?

I think it's just some people have maybe a little bit more respect for themselves.

HideyHoe · 28/12/2022 14:43

@Willowswood Oblivious...Ooooh no cringe I think I might find it painful to watch having had my share of awkward crushes before haha but now I'm curious so will try and find it. Thank you :)

HideyHoe · 28/12/2022 14:48

Yep hilariously painful found the scene here www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p09hlg0z

Mercifully, my shyness held me back from being this obvious 😂

TrishM80 · 28/12/2022 15:06

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Same thing happened to me. Wasn't made up 🤷🏻‍♀️

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 28/12/2022 18:01

Willowswood · 28/12/2022 13:23

It's season 3.

It's not really romance. Julia idolises Garry her builder, he just gets on with his job, oblivious.

I think Garry realises that Julia does actually fancy him (hence the huge bill when the job is finished!) but because he knows she’s married and also he probably doesn’t want a fling, he doesn’t take it any further and chooses to ignore it! You can’t fail to see Julia wafting about like a lovesick teenager!

Tibbb · 28/12/2022 20:42

Cool story.

Turkeytwizzlerz · 28/12/2022 23:13

Wahoooo! Glad you got a good seeing to #bigUpTheFanjo

RLScott · 28/12/2022 23:37

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Wha?

Woman fancies man who did some work at her house, and they get together. It’s hardly far fetched is it?

Good on you OP.

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