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An electrician has been doing jobs in my house and I felt there was some chemistry between us. Now wondering if I should contact him again or leave it

182 replies

Asparkwasfelt · 21/12/2022 22:43

Within the last month, an electrician has been over at my house to do a couple of jobs. His second visit was yesterday, and the work itself is now completely sorted and paid for. I'm happy on that front. As you can probably surmise from the fact I'm posting about him in relationships, I felt there was some connection between us and I'm wondering what I should do. After he finished the job, we were chatting for a good 20 minutes. While this was happening, I was smiling like a Cheshire cat and trying (and probably failing) not to give the impression of being an excited teenager with a crush. He was smiling a lot himself during the conversation. I asked him if he has a partner and he said he hasn't. Before he left, he said I should call or text him to let him know if I need anything else. I told him I would. I know tradesmen are supposed to be friendly and polite, but the way he said it seemed flirty. It seemed like he meant more than just to contact him if I need any more jobs done around the house.

I think he's very attractive. I fancied him a bit after the first visit, now I fancy him even more. I'm single with no DCs myself. If I had to guess I would say he is mid-30s. If I do text him, what should I say? Do you think it's too soon or should I wait a bit until after Christmas?

OP posts:
summerlovingvibes · 23/12/2022 15:45

@Asparkwasfelt @Feltaspark which ever name you're using - any updates?

Anotherday1234 · 23/12/2022 15:58

OP

You either wallowing in rejection

Or busy with Christmas

Or busy with the electrician

Some of us don't have a life you know and we really want to live vicariously through your dating adventures.

What happened?

Foreverhope1 · 23/12/2022 16:51

Anotherday1234 · 23/12/2022 15:58

OP

You either wallowing in rejection

Or busy with Christmas

Or busy with the electrician

Some of us don't have a life you know and we really want to live vicariously through your dating adventures.

What happened?

Ditto... shamefully placeholding.... what else to do as I recover from the flu. Need some excitement ♥️

beatsin8s · 23/12/2022 22:29

Lemonlady22 · 23/12/2022 14:23

He’s not the electrician from a previous thread who had his own blanket is it?

Think he'll have learned his lesson after the camera clock😂

Asparkwasfelt · 24/12/2022 06:38

I have an update. He responded in the morning after the text. I was worried at first as I thought I may have came on a bit too strong with him and put him off. He said he is flattered and he felt there was chemistry between us too. He said he would like us to meet when he isn't working. I have since arranged to see him in a local pub on the 26th (boxing day). There have since been a few quite flirty texts exchanged over the last couple of days too. I'm looking forward to seeing him again. If it goes well do you think it would be too soon to invite him back to mine? Unlike his previous visits, he would be coming over for pleasure rather than business, if you see what I mean.

Also I've NCd back to Asparkwasfelt. Hopefully this will show under posts by OP now.

OP posts:
Lottapianos · 24/12/2022 07:19

Ooh well done OP! Nice result ☺️ as for inviting him back, entirely up to you

Oblomov22 · 24/12/2022 07:31

Congratulations. Hope you have a fab time.

Nikki305 · 24/12/2022 07:33

Brilliant! Thanks for the update!

Billslills · 24/12/2022 08:22

Sorry to be a little negative, but he probably does this with a lot of his clients (which is pretty gross, to be honest) and you're eating right into it - you are already considering inviting him back for 'pleasure'. In saying that, if that is all you are looking for with him then go for it (and keep us updated!).

FinallyHere · 24/12/2022 08:33

So glad to hear it's going well, OP

I'd suggest treating him as if the pub meeting is your first meeting.

Decide when you feel comfortable moving from public into private space at whatever speed feels right to you. I would be meeting in public a good few times before moving on to anything more intimate but everyone is different. I'd just want to know a lot more about him, what sort of person he is, how he reacts when things go wrong and all that background information

Each to his own.

Anotherday1234 · 24/12/2022 08:39

Thanks for the update that is lovely

As for inviting him back to yours. That depends on if you are looking for a long term relationship. From personal experience if you want a long term relationship take your time before jumping in the sack. Get to know each other and check you are on the same page.

As for doing it with all his clients that's a judgement I can't make. The electricians I know are very loyal, committed guys in healthy relationships who don't crack onto their clients. In fact they are times when they have run scared when a client gets flirty.

Enjoy your Christmas break 😊

cloudsandream · 24/12/2022 08:48

Billslills · 24/12/2022 08:22

Sorry to be a little negative, but he probably does this with a lot of his clients (which is pretty gross, to be honest) and you're eating right into it - you are already considering inviting him back for 'pleasure'. In saying that, if that is all you are looking for with him then go for it (and keep us updated!).

What a nasty assumption Hmm

ScroogeMcDuckling · 24/12/2022 09:13

If u r looking for something long term definitely keep the knickers on for a while yet!

Billslills · 24/12/2022 09:24

cloudsandream · 24/12/2022 08:48

What a nasty assumption Hmm

What is nasty about that? Perhaps I have worded things wrong, but in my opinion, if she is potentially looking for something more than a bit of fun with this guy, I think she should be wary of him and inviting him back to her house straight away. He may well do the 'message me if you ever need anything else' to clients on a regular basis.

PeachyMama · 24/12/2022 09:39

Go for it!! Worst case he won't reply and you'll just have to use a different electrician in future. I have a good feeling about this though so I think he will! Romance is in the air!

IcakethereforeIam · 24/12/2022 10:36

I hope everything goes well. Merry Christmas and all the best for the New Year.

HaggisBurger · 24/12/2022 11:33

Aww lovely.

as others have said - if you’re looking for a potentially serious relationship then no - I’d not invite him back. But some light hearted fun and (hopefully good) sex - then yes. See if he’s up for that.

JoyBeorge · 24/12/2022 15:44

Billslills · 24/12/2022 08:22

Sorry to be a little negative, but he probably does this with a lot of his clients (which is pretty gross, to be honest) and you're eating right into it - you are already considering inviting him back for 'pleasure'. In saying that, if that is all you are looking for with him then go for it (and keep us updated!).

Bitter? Much?

welshpolarbear · 24/12/2022 16:52

Well done op! I met my DH on Boxing Day 17 years ago, we stayed together that night (with friends, my friend was in school with him) and we were living together 3 months later!

Wishing you the Boxing Day happiness too Flowers

Welshy26 · 25/12/2022 14:37

Love this update.

Willowswood · 25/12/2022 16:51

Omg I'm shocked you're already considering inviting him back to your place. Are you just looking for someone to sleep with and not have a long term relationship?

I would take things slow, get to know each other and don't come across as too 'easy', it's not attractive.

Happydayswillcomeagain · 25/12/2022 22:50

Great update OP. Up to you about inviting him back.
When I asked my (now) DP out, pubs / restaurants were closed due to covid so I suggested we meet at mine. He respected my boundaries and that was a good sign he was a keeper.

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 25/12/2022 22:52

I would take it more slowly.

HangingOver · 25/12/2022 23:03

Woohoooooo! Do what feels righ for you.

SpinningFloppa · 25/12/2022 23:04

Up to you if you just want a fling which seems to be the case

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