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An electrician has been doing jobs in my house and I felt there was some chemistry between us. Now wondering if I should contact him again or leave it

182 replies

Asparkwasfelt · 21/12/2022 22:43

Within the last month, an electrician has been over at my house to do a couple of jobs. His second visit was yesterday, and the work itself is now completely sorted and paid for. I'm happy on that front. As you can probably surmise from the fact I'm posting about him in relationships, I felt there was some connection between us and I'm wondering what I should do. After he finished the job, we were chatting for a good 20 minutes. While this was happening, I was smiling like a Cheshire cat and trying (and probably failing) not to give the impression of being an excited teenager with a crush. He was smiling a lot himself during the conversation. I asked him if he has a partner and he said he hasn't. Before he left, he said I should call or text him to let him know if I need anything else. I told him I would. I know tradesmen are supposed to be friendly and polite, but the way he said it seemed flirty. It seemed like he meant more than just to contact him if I need any more jobs done around the house.

I think he's very attractive. I fancied him a bit after the first visit, now I fancy him even more. I'm single with no DCs myself. If I had to guess I would say he is mid-30s. If I do text him, what should I say? Do you think it's too soon or should I wait a bit until after Christmas?

OP posts:
britsabroad · 25/12/2022 23:20

Lovely news OP! Wishing you all the best. I don't see the problem with inviting him back if it feels right. I had sex on a first date, we've been together for 12 years and married for 2 of them.

aquapp · 25/12/2022 23:28

Brilliant news!

NCNCNCYEP · 25/12/2022 23:34

EEEEE exciting!!! 😍 although, just keep some cards close to your chest maybe? I think it’s great if you want to shag on the first date - absolutely go get em tiger! Just beware that it could be all he wants, so keep some cards close. Make him want more 😉

Welshy26 · 26/12/2022 01:44

Willowswood · 25/12/2022 16:51

Omg I'm shocked you're already considering inviting him back to your place. Are you just looking for someone to sleep with and not have a long term relationship?

I would take things slow, get to know each other and don't come across as too 'easy', it's not attractive.

You can sleep with someone and have a long term relationship too you know. The two do go hand in hand. No need to be shocked.

Willowswood · 26/12/2022 11:18

@Welshy26

Yes, of course you can. But the speediness in which you hit the sack is what I was questioning in my reply.

HotChoxs · 26/12/2022 18:11

ScroogeMcDuckling · 24/12/2022 09:13

If u r looking for something long term definitely keep the knickers on for a while yet!

yeah that's right, use sex as a bargaining tool to keep a partner, instead of just doing it when you feel like it.

ScroogeMcDuckling · 26/12/2022 18:16

HotChoxs · 26/12/2022 18:11

yeah that's right, use sex as a bargaining tool to keep a partner, instead of just doing it when you feel like it.

I know of very few people in a long term relationship who dropped the knickers on their first few dates.

if it’s just sex you want, don’t even bother with lunch…

HotChoxs · 26/12/2022 18:19

ScroogeMcDuckling · 26/12/2022 18:16

I know of very few people in a long term relationship who dropped the knickers on their first few dates.

if it’s just sex you want, don’t even bother with lunch…

I'm sure you don't because you clearly come from an era where people used slut shaming terms like "dropping your knickers" and marriages involve a lot of cheating and sexual issues.

ScroogeMcDuckling · 26/12/2022 18:21

HotChoxs · 26/12/2022 18:19

I'm sure you don't because you clearly come from an era where people used slut shaming terms like "dropping your knickers" and marriages involve a lot of cheating and sexual issues.

Stop trying to deflect your issues onto others.

HotChoxs · 26/12/2022 18:28

ScroogeMcDuckling · 26/12/2022 18:21

Stop trying to deflect your issues onto others.

No issues. Stop giving people outdated advice.

ScroogeMcDuckling · 26/12/2022 18:33

The idea of an open forum is that everybody expresses their own opinion and for people to make up their own mind.

just because you don’t agree with me and probably others, maybe hecause you feel “slut shamed” / your wording not mine, you try and bully people into thinking your way is the only way.

ill send prayers for you xxxxx

Blip · 26/12/2022 18:34

I think this is covered in Motherland 😉

HotChoxs · 26/12/2022 18:35

Just expressing an opinion myself. No need to play the victim just because I consider your advice outdated nonsense.

pincushion5 · 26/12/2022 19:28

Update op??

dizzydizzydizzy · 26/12/2022 20:56

Looking forward to hearing how your date went oP!

Marmitepot · 27/12/2022 09:54

How did it go OP?

Asparkwasfelt · 27/12/2022 15:48

I have a really nice update. When I met him for the date, there was definitely a spark. The texts between us were getting very flirty indeed before we met. We were talking in the pub for ages. I got the sense he was up for coming back to mine for a personal visit. I wanted that as well. I was actually getting an aching feeling in my fanjo while I was with him. So I invited him back. I think it would be fair to say that neither of us needed a crystal ball to know that we were probably going to end up having sex. After we got back to my place, it didn't take very long for that to happen. He did not disappoint. 😊

I don't know if it's going to be an FWB situation or if he wants a relationship, but I really like him. We'll see what happens.

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Mydogisanaughtyboy · 27/12/2022 16:02

Good for you!! Love that feeling of anticipation when you know you're going to have a good night 😁 at least you know you are compatible and you can take it from there...

strawberriesplease · 27/12/2022 16:07

Oooh how fantastic. Have lots of fun!!!

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 27/12/2022 16:54

"a personal visit"....love it!

AccidentallyRunToWindsor · 27/12/2022 18:05

Fantastic update! There is nothing better than the feeling of meeting someone new, have fun OP!

Wfhandbored · 27/12/2022 21:11

Ahhh omg I've loved this thread!! Keep us updated OP! How was it left?

hesaidshesaidtheysaid · 27/12/2022 21:52

Yay!!!

WeAreBorg · 27/12/2022 22:15

Placemarking for further updates and wedding chat - how exciting!

Flamingowalker · 27/12/2022 22:22

I'm loving this journey ❤️

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