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An electrician has been doing jobs in my house and I felt there was some chemistry between us. Now wondering if I should contact him again or leave it

182 replies

Asparkwasfelt · 21/12/2022 22:43

Within the last month, an electrician has been over at my house to do a couple of jobs. His second visit was yesterday, and the work itself is now completely sorted and paid for. I'm happy on that front. As you can probably surmise from the fact I'm posting about him in relationships, I felt there was some connection between us and I'm wondering what I should do. After he finished the job, we were chatting for a good 20 minutes. While this was happening, I was smiling like a Cheshire cat and trying (and probably failing) not to give the impression of being an excited teenager with a crush. He was smiling a lot himself during the conversation. I asked him if he has a partner and he said he hasn't. Before he left, he said I should call or text him to let him know if I need anything else. I told him I would. I know tradesmen are supposed to be friendly and polite, but the way he said it seemed flirty. It seemed like he meant more than just to contact him if I need any more jobs done around the house.

I think he's very attractive. I fancied him a bit after the first visit, now I fancy him even more. I'm single with no DCs myself. If I had to guess I would say he is mid-30s. If I do text him, what should I say? Do you think it's too soon or should I wait a bit until after Christmas?

OP posts:
dizzydizzydizzy · 21/12/2022 23:10

RaininSummer · 21/12/2022 23:04

Yep just send him a message saying you loved chatting and wondered if he fancied another chat over a drink or whatever.

This

Happydayswillcomeagain · 21/12/2022 23:12

@Xiaoxiong that wasn’t me.
I got some good advice here though. There were some people saying “he’d make the first move if he was interested “ but I like to take control of my own life and just as well as I did- he was interested but didn’t want to ask in case I said no and he lost a good customer 😂

justasking111 · 21/12/2022 23:12

We have a plumber in the extended family who's had a lot of success with the ladies. He's a serial shagger. His partner who is family keeps taking him back. He has two mobile phones.

When we had a new bathroom put in I overheard the guy talking to a woman very furtively. I knew his wife from school. A few weeks later I was visiting a client down a quiet cul-de-sac there he was in his car playing tonsil tennis with another woman. He saw me get out of the car the look of horror on his face.

Just don't be that other woman, make sure he's not got a family at home

Smallonesaremorejuicy · 21/12/2022 23:16

Great time of year to say “ do you fancy going for a Christmas drink”
Good luck 🎄

Sparkletackle · 21/12/2022 23:16

It's Christmas you're both single. Message him. If your scared of being direct just send a friendly chatty message. See how he responds....that way you wont lose your electrician!

If he is interested he will chat back and you can start flirting from there.

Don't lose time. He should be off work over twixmax, you could be having lots of day dates. **

Folkishgal · 21/12/2022 23:16

Text him! I love stories like this, it's how my friend met her husband!

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 21/12/2022 23:16

Nothing ventured nothing gained!
text him

beatsin8s · 21/12/2022 23:17

Happydayswillcomeagain · 21/12/2022 22:56

Message him!! You’ve nothing to lose.

I was in the exact same position approx 2 years and posted here for advice. I took the advice and I messaged him and we’ve been together ever since. I took a risk and met the most amazing guy - he’s snoring beside me just now 😃

Aww this is lovely!

Go for it OP!

Tabitha888 · 21/12/2022 23:17

I need an update after the text

FinallyHere · 21/12/2022 23:19

he said I should call or text him to let him know if I need anything else

This could hardly be clearer.

Text him. Do it. Note.

I'd ask how he would feel about meeting up for a coffee or a drink at some point (he will be) and arrange something low key in the time between Christmas and new year.

Don't waste your life waiting for him to make the first move. I think he has gone as far as I would want a stranger to go as a trade visiting my house.

It's up to you now. What is the worst thing that could happen?

beatsin8s · 21/12/2022 23:21

Happydayswillcomeagain · 21/12/2022 23:12

@Xiaoxiong that wasn’t me.
I got some good advice here though. There were some people saying “he’d make the first move if he was interested “ but I like to take control of my own life and just as well as I did- he was interested but didn’t want to ask in case I said no and he lost a good customer 😂

Yes, you see posts about women saying it's creepy that men doing work for them (or delivering to them) use their number to ask them out so while I'd say normally if he was interested he'd make the first move, in this type of situation it can be very risky so definitely go for it!

Borris · 21/12/2022 23:22

Do it. Do it. Do it!

IcakethereforeIam · 21/12/2022 23:44

Watt are you waiting for? Xmas Smile

bubbleandsqueakk · 21/12/2022 23:54

Do itttt!!

NoNoKimono · 22/12/2022 00:21

I had something very similar recently. But during the visit he had said, "We live up that way". So I left it. Go for it, OP!

weirdstuffhappenig · 22/12/2022 00:24

IcakethereforeIam · 21/12/2022 23:44

Watt are you waiting for? Xmas Smile

That's the winner 🤣

ExtraJalapenos · 22/12/2022 00:27

Come on OP text him then share every single word for word detail of the convo because im too invested already 😂

RagzRebooted · 22/12/2022 00:36

Exciting! Definitely text him. He encouraged you to get in touch, while not being creepy or making you feel uncomfortable. He can't come on too strong in that situation and it would be unprofessional to use your number to contact you afterwards to ask you out.

Mushroomlady · 22/12/2022 00:44

Agree with the above. Ball is in your court.
I would ask him if he could come and look at some more wires. You are considering adding a new light switch, something like that. Don't just ask him out for a drink, that would be too boring. Keep the pretense going for longer!

JackandVera · 22/12/2022 00:45

You should have asked him if he had a wife. You can fall foul of the "do you have a partner" question.

Feltaspark · 22/12/2022 00:51

Thank you all for the encouragement. I have just texted him. I said "Hi [his name]. I wanted to tell you, I'm very happy with the work you did. I felt like there was a connection between us and I would like to see you when you aren't working. Would you be interested in going for a drink? xx"

I must sound daft but I already feel a bit giddy just from sending him the text. Trying not to get too excited in case he doesn't reply or he isn't interested. He was certainly giving me signals though. I'll update if or when he responds. Hopefully he does and it's positive.

Sparkletackle · 22/12/2022 06:02

Feltaspark · 22/12/2022 00:51

Thank you all for the encouragement. I have just texted him. I said "Hi [his name]. I wanted to tell you, I'm very happy with the work you did. I felt like there was a connection between us and I would like to see you when you aren't working. Would you be interested in going for a drink? xx"

I must sound daft but I already feel a bit giddy just from sending him the text. Trying not to get too excited in case he doesn't reply or he isn't interested. He was certainly giving me signals though. I'll update if or when he responds. Hopefully he does and it's positive.

Omg OP

I know there was alot of encouragement, but it's 00.51 in the morning!!

girlmom21 · 22/12/2022 06:21

Yeah you've just turned it in to a booty call texting so late Blush

Pineappleskies · 22/12/2022 06:27

Whilst there's no harm in asking I'd moderate both hope and enthusiasm.

Like barmaids serving middle aged men, trades professionals are polite, friendly and make the customer feel good as part of their role.

Pineappleskies · 22/12/2022 06:29

Christ I've just read the actual message.