Well, here we are… another one

[Beachlives]

Sitting in my car trying to process that H has just told me he’s had an affair. Fucks sake.

I’m so sorry

Are you able to go back into the house or could you stay with anyone tonight? It’s very cold and wet out there 😪 do you have children?

i can go back as and when I’m ready to. 3 kids, all teenagers+
Just doesn’t feel real right now.

What an utter prick.

Are you ok? I'm worried it's so bloody cold out there. Is there anyone you can go to right now.

The weather matches how I’m feeling. I’m finding the wind and the noise of the sea quite therapeutic

Go back &kick his cheating ass out in the cold. How did you find out?

I’m not staying somewhere else. He can fuck right off. He’s Really sorry. Been an arsehole blah blah blah

I'm so sorry OP 😢

He told me. We’ve had some real relationship difficulties but I thought we were actually through it and out the other side. Stupid

I'm so sorry.

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Thanks, just writing it down is helping.

What an utter utter complete dickhead

I understand how upset you must be and being by the sea is very calming. Did your DC hear any of it and do they know that you are physically OK as you are not home x

I wonder what has made him decide to confess. Particularly a week before Christmas. Seems like he had to.

Don't make any decisions yet. Can you stay with family/friends for a few days to give you some space ? Time to process & think.

Sorry you are dealing with this OP. Solidarity 🌹

I don’t think they heard. They’re all in their rooms. I didn’t shout and I left the house quietly. They’ll ring if they do.
apparently she’s likely to email me at work and tell me. So that’s nice.

Take care of yourself. I remember that dreadful, raw hurt

I don’t feel any yet to be honest. I’m sure it’ll come.
I have friends I can talk to when I’m ready.
A whole fucking year.

Oh beach, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It's a pile of shit and he's a cowardly twat.
Don't rush anything, you are on no time line to do or feel anything.
Just focus on the very basics, rest, eat, hydrate.

fucking coward. And I’ve told him that.

Gosh, that is a long time. I'm assuming he has ditched her hence the threat of emailing you?

Fucking coward.
Telling you because she's threatened to do it for him.

Yeah he ended it a while ago apparently but she’s not happy about it and is now threatening to tell me.
Dont blame her, he’s pretty much admitted the whole ‘my wife doesn’t understand me’, ‘we’re on the verge of splitting up’ bullshit lines. I feel sorry for her to be honest.

Urgh. Did he tell you who she is so that's one less shit surprise in the inbox.

A fucking year, a really shit year where our relationship has been very close to the rocks and we’ve allegedly been working things through. Unbelievable