Can't fucking believe this.

[CannotBelieveThisIsHappening]

My daughter is 16. She's a slim, curvy, pretty girl. Not that it matters.

She has started occasionally giving my partner a quick hug now and again. He has never initiated before but does reciprocate.

Today, she was wearing her usual baggy tracky bottoms (that are too big for her so sit on her hips rather than her waist 🙄), bra and a cropped vest top She had her brand new supersoft fleecy dressing gown on over the top.

My partner and I went out this afternoon for a bit and she came over to give us both a hug. I called her ted and gave her a big squeeze referencing the fact she's like a teddy bear in it.

She went to hug him and he said "Come on then. You look curvy... cuddly" he definitely said curvy which was clearly in error and corrected it immediately to cuddly.

She did look cuddly. Like a teddy bear.

Cuddly is fine. Curvy is not.

I can't fucking believe it.

Me neither

I was in shock at the time so we went put as planned to puck a few things up from the supermarket but I couldn't even look at him.

She didn't seem bothered.

I have to end it. But I can't believe this has happened. It shows what he was thinking when he went to hug her.

Same here.

Well the fact you think it's a troll post tells me everything I need to know 😞

Have to end what?

I suspect any further responses will be similar.

Who's said they think it's a troll post?

The relationship.

I haven't yet. Because I was just in shock but I asked him to go home.

So he doesn't live with you?

I assumed that's what the "Me neither" meant.

In response to me saying I can't believe it. Suggesting they don't believe it either.

No but we've been discussing it.

So I suppose he's not really a 'partner' in that sense.

Unless there are other things that are concerning you, this seems a bit over dramatic.

I called my boss Dad the other day. It was a slip of the tongue, I'm not about to invite him over for Christmas lunch.

I don't think you're overreacting. It's a strange thing for him to say but he shouldn't be commenting on her appearance at all.

This seems very OTT, it's a slip of the tongue, happens all the time.

I don’t really get your issue but you can end any relationship for any reason.

sound like you want to make this into something inappropriate versus what it actually was.

Although I do think him saying that she looked cuddly is a bit weird anyway

No. There is nothing else that concerns me but it felt very inappropriate.

If he'd called her by my name or his daughters name or anything like that, it would have been fine. But curvy is just so odd and specific. What was in his head to make that particular slip of the tongue?

@TheShellBeach the first poster was clearly calling troll and you then agreed with her... I mean, I have no idea whether it's true or not but I'm curious as to why you then came back and queried OP's response to the troll accusation.

She and I had just been joking about her being like a teddy bear in if. That's all. In context, cuddly was fine.

Ohboy.

He should definitely not have said that.

Nice socially. Also a mumsnetter!

But if this is true, yes, it does show that your partner has now started to notice your daughter's developing figure. I suppose in some ways you could argue that's to be expected. But coupled with the fact he's suddenly starting to hug back a little more enthusiastically than he used to, yeah, that would put me right off him.

Wrong thread.

So talk to him about it like an adult.

He immediately corrected his slip of the tongue and your daughter was unbothered.

No need to create a huge drama if you want out of the relationship, but maybe set some boundaries around your teenager daughter and hugging of your boyfriends in the future.