I wasn’t sure whether to post in here or doghouse. It is a relationship issue aswell.
I have a 17 year old dog. She has arthritis and is on painkillers for this. Morphine and anti inflammatories. Can’t be walked far at all because of the pain. She goes to hydrotherapy and swims for 10 minutes and the vet says that she is uncomfortable but not in severe pain. The vet and hydro therapist says that it’s only a matter of time before she dies . She limps about indoors, enjoys her food and the rest of the time sleeps.
The issue is that she wees and poos indoors nearly all the time now. It’s been going on for nearly a year even if I have the back door open. She’s not incontinent as she’s goes in certain places. It’s getting us both down but my Dh mainly clears it up because he’s always up early. I’m disabled but can get down and clean it up and do my share although it’s a struggle.
He keeps wanting to get her put to sleep because of this and I don’t agree with it. He says it’s getting him down so much and gets really angry over it like he thinks she does it on purpose. Iv got to the point where Iv called his bluff and said okay book the appointment and you take her but he says that he couldn’t live with himself and that I would hate him. Which I would . We just keep having arguments over it as he keeps getting annoyed and because she’s my dog it’s making me feel like it’s my fault.
Im really disliking him over this. We have other issues anyway but am I over reacting? I just don’t know what I can do about this. I can see his point of view but apart from PTS what else can I do? It’s like he wants me to get angry too and agree with him but I don’t.
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mrsjackrussell · 11/12/2022 23:23
Zigazagah · 11/12/2022 23:25
Sounds very sad but like the kindest thing for dog is to be pts. A lot of pain for her
Heavyraindropsarefallingonmyhead · 11/12/2022 23:26
If she goes in specific places can you not put puppy pads down to make the clear up easier? (I realise that's not the point of the thread sorry!)
Dotcheck · 11/12/2022 23:28
You’re disliking HIM over this? My word. The dog is in constant pain. When my dog got like that, he was so distressed over having accidents inside. The kindest thing, by miles would be to give that poor dog a peaceful end.
YOU are being very cruel
PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 11/12/2022 23:28
It's hard to face but doesn't sound as though your dog's quality of life is very good any more. It isn't nice for a dog to be incontinent and unable to stop messing in 'their' territory; nor to be in pain/discomfort that they can't understand. I know exactly how you feel as I've been in that position twice before with elderly cats - it's really difficult but I think your DH might be right here and it's time to let her go while she is still getting a little enjoyment out of her life, rather than wait until all the light has gone for her.
NoSquirrels · 11/12/2022 23:28
At what point do you think you’ll feel ready to discuss PTS as an option?
I understand it is a huge, heart wrenching decision to make - I dread the time coming.
But if your 17 year old dog can’t walk far, is toileting inside (presumably because going outside is painful in some sense for her), is on heavy duty meds and the vet and hydrotherapist agree she will die soon, then I would argue it may well be time now.
Are you prolonging her life to be kind to her, or because you can’t bear to lose her?
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