@Chickencuddle I remember your previous threads and often wonder how you are doing- and sadly that’s a marker of just how awful this situation is. I don’t know what else I could say that hasn’t already been said. I think it is worth noting that you’ve had so many replies (and likely to get loads more) and every single person is saying the same thing.
Like others, I worry about your children. It’s not good enough to say ‘he doesn’t do it in front of them’ or whatever, that’s just not good enough. I can promise you that if you continue to live like this they will be damaged, likelihood is they are already. They will grow up to have all manner of relationship issues, blurred boundaries and attachment difficulties.
You are a victim of this awful man, and that is in no way you’re fault. But there has to come a point where you make a decision to protect your children. They live in an abusive home and they need to get out. I don’t want to sound harsh and I know your choices are not easy, but this can’t continue for your children.
You’ve done it once, you need to find the strength to do it again. I think another poster made this point earlier, the last thing your children will do when they are older is thank you for staying. The thought that their mum continued to be sexually abused in their own home by their own father, in the name of keeping the family together is going to be a terribly heavy burden for them to bear.
I really wish you all the very best, you need to take action x