Am I in the wrong for wanting him to stay at home

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I have either a stomach bug or food poisoning. I feel dreadful. I have been pretty much living on the toilet all last night and this morning. I have hardly slept for needing the toilet in the night. I am currently curled up in a ball with the most horrendous stomach cramps. I feel sick. I am knackered. He is going playing football today and will be out from 12-7. We have 2 dc and the thought of being in with them all day alone when I feel like this is making me want to cry. I asked him if he would miss it just this once but he kicked off saying no. The football isn’t compulsory, he won’t get a fine or get kicked out of the team or anything like that for not going. I am just so annoyed and fed up☹️

How old are your children?

@PrincessofWellies 5 and 21 months

5 and 21 months…he’s an utter wanker.

What is it with fucking football?
DH fucked off to football last Saturday while I was stuck at home with mastitis and a 5 week old. He wouldn't entertain missing it at all. I was livid.

If you weren't still suffering I'd perhaps be on the fence but the fact that you're still ill and given your DCs ages he should definitely stay. Or arrange childcare for them. Maybe say that to him. You're fine with him going but who is he planning to leave the DCs with?

Make sure the next time he’s properly ill, you go out for a jolly and leave him with the kids. Fucking bellend.

SEVEN hours of bloody football - WTF !!!!

21 months and 5? I’d change the locks while he’s gone 😮😮* What an utter SHIT of an excuse for a husband and dad. Message all your friends and his mum to say what he’s done and if anyone can help that would be amazing.
*just kidding I’d probably actually be nothing so dignified or calm. Molotov his car?

Wow your husband is unbelievably selfish!! If the children were older it wouldn't be so bad, but as they are still so young he's being an absolute twat and taking the piss.

He doesn't need 7 hours of football, especially when you're unwell and there's 2 young children.
Of course he should stay at home.

Thanks everyone. He’s made me feel like an idiot for wanting him not to go.
@FlowerArranger I know. He ‘has’ to leave 3 hours before, then there’s the actual game, then ‘has’ to have a drink after the match, then there’s the travelling home

No words, but I had one like this and thank god he is my ex now.

Hes an arsehole. Tell him its fine to go as long as he organises childcare while hes gone, as you arent up to it.

He's not just being crappy (see what I did there, trying to make you laugh) to you, but he doesnt' care about his kids either to leave them with an unwell parent who might not be able to offer safe levels of care. It's more than a bit selfish tbh.
(I know you will do your utmost but how do you rescue a 21m old up to no good if you are literally stuck on the loo?)

Wow. Just wow. Is he actually still going? That's awful.

Separate issue but do you get equal free time and budget for activities away from the family whilst he does 7 hours of childcare on a weekend?

Can you get a friend or family member to come and help?

I really think kicking him out for this isn't OTT

Your partner is a selfish piece of shit.

He should be looking after the children and if it’s a bug he should be minimising any exposure you have to any of them, he is a wanker, I’m sorry and you have my utmost sympathy.

What a selfish prick!!! He's not thinking of you or the children - just HIMSELF!

He 'kicked off'? What did he do, shout, have a go at you?

@54isanopendoor It did make me laugh, thanks😁 I asked him if he was concerned about the kids possibly not having my full attention today, but he clearly isn't! Selfish.

@ZenNudist Yep he’s still going! And no I don’t get equal free time but that’s a different story🙄 He sounds great doesn’t he. I don’t really have many friends, and the only family that would be prepared to help me is my mum and dad but they are away for the weekend

Sorry OP. That's shit and I'd be really annoyed if I was in your position.

Given the ages of your children, yes, he is a selfish dick and shows how little compassion and empathy he has towards you. Honestly, given how little he cares, if it was me, I would be questioning the relationship. I have been with someone like him. I would never be with someone like him again.

@pinkyredrose He raised his voice, told me that I shouldn’t expect him to stay at home, and said that when he is ill he has to get on with it and go to work, and is now sulking

Tell him you are not well enough to care for the children and HE must organise child care if he is determined to go out. Do not budge on this.

It is beyond belief that he is being so utterly stupid. I hope he catches it from you and feels like shit - then you can decide to go out and leave him to care for the children. See what he thinks is reasonable then.