Am I in the wrong for wanting him to stay at home

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I have either a stomach bug or food poisoning. I feel dreadful. I have been pretty much living on the toilet all last night and this morning. I have hardly slept for needing the toilet in the night. I am currently curled up in a ball with the most horrendous stomach cramps. I feel sick. I am knackered. He is going playing football today and will be out from 12-7. We have 2 dc and the thought of being in with them all day alone when I feel like this is making me want to cry. I asked him if he would miss it just this once but he kicked off saying no. The football isn’t compulsory, he won’t get a fine or get kicked out of the team or anything like that for not going. I am just so annoyed and fed up☹️

You poor thing, hope it eases up soon.

Your husband is a selfish git.

You’re all so kind🥺 5 year old has just told me he will take care of me bless him❤️ I feel so guilty

Ah bless him. Maybe see if he can play with the 21 month old and pop something on the TV. Leave you to plot out the patio.

He's a selfish twat

I would find this v hard to get over..
I hope you get well soon. Children’s TV and iPads are your friends today.

Sending you my thoughts OP. Hope you feel better very soon. How he feels ok to this is beyond any normal human understanding.

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I had one like this and thank god he is my ex now.

people wonder why they put up with being treated like utter shit don't they

i thought it was one offs, rare, examples

then i joined mumsnet and went on the relationship board

by god, we need to teach our children that they are worth more than the useless partners they end up wtih

My ExH would pull stunts like this. Along with waking the babies at 2am drunk, then falling asleep and leaving me with the fall out. Never getting up in the night with them ever. Calling me for a lift home from the pub, and then leaving me sat in the ca park for half an hour (with little toddlers), whilst he finished his drinks. Then he started cheating on me, and a while after that I left him. When I look back now, I can't believe what I put up with. And although we've been split for 14 years, I HATE him.

My now DH would drop everything if I was poorly.

What your DH has done is unforgivable and so uncaring. It doesn't matter what you say to him, he is never ever going to "get it". You can't reason with someone who at their core is so utterly selfish.

I know it sounds flippant to say LTB, but I'd be having some thoughts about whether this is the person you want to grow old with.

The only person who should be feeling guilty is your lazy useless selfish shit of a husband

Sorry you’re sick. That would permanently damage my opinion of my partner if he behaved like that.

Don’t you dare feel guilty. It’s your selfish cunt of a husband who should feel guilty for putting you all in this predicament. What an absolute waste of skin.
I hope you feel better soon Op. And fuck him off. He’s made it clear what his priorities are, and it isn’t you and your children.

If he has the ability to prioritise his wants, ahead of the welfare and needs of his wife and children, you can safely assume he really doesn’t give a shit about any of you. If he wants to live the life of a single man, let him. You deserve better. Once a selfish wanker, always a selfish wanker.

I hope you have married this piece of shit so you can get everything in the divorce. Fuck him off op he's useless.

Selfish fucker. Would honestly consider my options. He doesn't care about you or his children based on his actions.

Why on Earth are you with him?

I hope your 5yo maintains his lovely little heart as it is and doesn't turn into his dad. He sounds so adorable 😍

Absolute tosser. Does he serve any useful purpose?

Omg OP I have had a stomach bug this week it has been horrendous. I have a 10 month old & 3 year old… I would have so struggled on my own if my DP left me to sort the kids. My DP made sure between me being stuck on the loo I could rest it off in bed away from the kids!

Your ‘D’H needs a good kick up the arse. I would be disgusted in him. Personally I wouldn’t be able to move past this & would be strongly considering separating.

Get the telly on & let them have as much screen time as they want. Snacks galore 😁 You shouldn’t feel guilty at all. It is your husband who should be feeling guilty!!!! … I Feel for you and hope you start to feel better soon ❤️

I know you ill with stomach bug or food poisoning. Imagine it was something worse and you'd collapsed.

It's really bad hope you 5 yr old says how poorly you was and he feels guilty.

My heart breaks for you, OP.

My ex buggered off on holiday while my baby and I were sick. It is the only time in my life I have ever wished for someone to die in a car accident.

Does he really just have to get on with it & go to work when he's ill?

So if he had the shits he's go to work??!!

It's the piss taking either side of the football playing that would really get to me.

Well that & the shouting & the obvious not caring at all.

I honestly think this is marriage-ending stuff.

Because it isn't 'just' being left to look after 2 small children while you're ill. It is your husband not caring that you are ill, not wanting to look after you and make your life a bit easier, not caring that your children won't be properly supervised for 7 hours, showing you utter contempt - football and his teammates and his drinking are more important to him than you and the chidren.

Utterly selfish, shockingly uncaring, contemptful stuff.

You deserve a better husband and your children deserve a much better father.

How has this happened? Is this new behaviour? It’s utterly vile. I absolutely detest men - and it’s almost ALWAYS men - who behave like this.

I wouldn’t even have to ask mine to stay home.

Well I hope tomorrow he lets you have a rest. What a poor excuse for a husband. I bet you wouldn’t do the same to him.

I’d have told him not to bother coming back.

How sad for your children to be growing up seeing how little Mammy and they mean to their father.