Am I in the wrong for wanting him to stay at home

[FoxyBloxy]

I have either a stomach bug or food poisoning. I feel dreadful. I have been pretty much living on the toilet all last night and this morning. I have hardly slept for needing the toilet in the night. I am currently curled up in a ball with the most horrendous stomach cramps. I feel sick. I am knackered. He is going playing football today and will be out from 12-7. We have 2 dc and the thought of being in with them all day alone when I feel like this is making me want to cry. I asked him if he would miss it just this once but he kicked off saying no. The football isn’t compulsory, he won’t get a fine or get kicked out of the team or anything like that for not going. I am just so annoyed and fed up☹️

And thanks again to you all for the support, advice and good ideas😏

He should be in the dog house for weeks you’ve been in agony on your own looking after you children with no support, selfish dick.

well done FoxyBloxy. Make sure he knows that you and his children matter more than anything else

My husband did this to me several times when my first son was little. We had words and luckily he realised he was being selfish. Hope yours does the same thing! Honestly football!!

Just to add to the chorus of what a total cunt your H has been to leave you with the children like that when your ill. Honestly outrageous

I can't imagine being with a man who treated me like this, OP this is so unacceptable. You cannot let him treat you this way.

@FoxyBloxy

It's good you got angry with him as long as next time you follow through with you be done next time. As they cycle will be on repeat.

I’m glad you told him op. These things end a marriage. I told my dh they would end mine, that there is no way I’d risk having to care for him when old if he walked off to look after himself when I’m ill with babies to look after. And if he couldn’t change I was far better off leaving now so I might be with someone who would care for me by the time I got old. He changed, I hope yours does, if he doesn’t this is not a relationship you want to be in. For now, remember to prioritise yourself. No one else in your marriage is and someone has to.

I hope a better future awaits you all Foxy😇

He's a lazy c word. X

If he was my husband I'd tell him while your at it, take your clothes with you and don't bother to come back. X

He came in and asked you what was up?!!! Incredible man!
It doesn't sound as if you've been angry enough with him and I certainly hope he automatically looks after the children today without being asked or told to. Selfish idiot.

I think today you need to literally hand over kids to him. I wish you were well enough to go out but passing them over will have to do.
I’m sorry your ill .but ill or not you needed him.for whatever reason that might have been for he should’ve have been there.end of.

So he is taking the DC out today. Not sure where, I just told him he needs to step up today. I am still not well unfortunately!

Glad you're getting some space today OP. Is he taking them willingly or grudgingly? Does he understand what an arse he was yesterday?
Hope you feel better soon.

Oh big whoop give that man a million pounds and a blow job. He should have done that yesterday too.

Sorry you still feel unwell and hope you feel better soon.

He's hardly dad of the year though is he- taking the kids out today when he should have been looking after them yesterday. I suspect there will come a time when you look back at this post and realise it was a huge red flag and that this was the point you should have said, no more. This kind of selfish behaviour is not about an isolated action, its about his core personality and how he views you and his own children as being less important than he is. Be very careful going forward OP.

Let's hope this is the start of a change in him but I'd be watching for a backlash when he feels resentful at the extra effort that he had to put in

I hope you meant it and he listens. Here’s hoping you feel better soon and your husband mans up generally.