Am I in the wrong for wanting him to stay at home

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I have either a stomach bug or food poisoning. I feel dreadful. I have been pretty much living on the toilet all last night and this morning. I have hardly slept for needing the toilet in the night. I am currently curled up in a ball with the most horrendous stomach cramps. I feel sick. I am knackered. He is going playing football today and will be out from 12-7. We have 2 dc and the thought of being in with them all day alone when I feel like this is making me want to cry. I asked him if he would miss it just this once but he kicked off saying no. The football isn’t compulsory, he won’t get a fine or get kicked out of the team or anything like that for not going. I am just so annoyed and fed up☹️

The only way with men like this is to embarrass them.
You need to make sure all the other footballers partners know.
Men like this bank on you putting up and shutting up.

The most serious aspect of this is that he's neglecting the safety and welfare of your very young children. if you are vomiting or having diarrhoea you can't possibly watch the children. He's going out knowing they will potentially be unsupervised. He is a c word.

. . and of course you need TLC lovely. He should be bringing you sweet tea and making sure youre comfortable and resting.

I would lick the inside of the lid of his water bottle . . .

I’ve just asked him if he would go to the shop for me before he leaves (the shop is a few minutes up the road) and his answer was “fucking hell” 🙃 Honestly I’m so angry, I can’t wait for him to need me for something

pour some cold water in his football boots

Massive sloppy kiss for him on the way out the door and, when he gets it, head for 7 hours vital Christmas shopping

If he was just going to play to not let the team down then straight back then ok maybe that would be acceptable but 7 hours- wow!

This

I hope you are not financially dependent on this prince among men.

Because I wouldn't bet much on this relationship going the distance.

His behaviour shows more than lack of kindness and consideration - it's actual contempt, and he just doesn't care.

He sounds like a knob
Why are you with him?

Sit on his lap just as he's going out and give him a big hug. And then shit on him.
Absolute disgrace.

I genuinely think I’d consider leaving over this. His free time and football is more important than his children and his ill wife. He’s disgustingly selfish.

This times a million.
So angry for you. And your kids.

I'd be tempted to lock him out at the end of the day but I know that's prob not helpful. Hope you're ok OP. Take it easy whatever you do. Park the kids in front of the TV and give them biscuits or whatever, it really doesn't hurt them once in a while.
hope you feel better ASAP.

He sounds awful and he clearly doesn't give a fuck about you does he.

Definitely. You have at least 16 more years of parenting together. If he leaves the family in this mess today then he has set the bar for all his future behaviour. This is what you have to look forward to.

He's a disgusting excuse for a father and partner and an entitled arsehole.

You’re not his partner, he doesn’t see raising the kids as his responsibility and he clearly doesn’t love you if he can leave you when you’re that sick.

Do you work? Do you have access to your own finances? Would you be happy coming second to him for the rest of your life?

Tell him if he genuinely thinks this is ok, when he gets to football he should tell the whole team that you have a gastro bug that has made you so ill that you have been up all night and were still locked in the loo when he left, leaving a 5 year old and 21 month old unsupervised, because he thought it was more important to play football than support his family. Assuming most of his team mates are normal decent men they'll tell him to turn round and go home again.

If he's too embarrassed to tell them, then that should tell him he knows he's doing the wrong thing.

(Also they won't want to play with someone potentially contagious with a gastro bug)

What an utter arse your DH is. I wouldn’t be getting over this anytime soon. I hope you feel better soon. Xx

Make sure you give him the bug. If you are on social media proclaim his cuntishness to everyone. Ring up his mum and tell her. Also LTB

You are not in the wrong, yes if it was just the 2 of you fair enough but to leave you with 2 such young children to care for. He doesn't care about you or the children, I would genuinely think about separation. I left my ex when I had v young children I honestly thought I needed the limited help he offered, turns out I didn't and life got easier, take care

Until you mentioned there were two little kids I'd have said let him go. I know when I'm I'll I just want to be left alone. But in this case I'd be saying he can go if he arranged childcare

He's being an utterly selfish twit!!
Put your foot down and tell man-child no.

No. No. No.

Whilst football isn't compulsory, I do get that the team may be relying on him (and everyone else) to turn up, both my exh and my dd have played on teams and there's a lot of pressure to play. However, he could skip the pub, and only turn up just before the game - a compromise, he doesn't let down his teammates and he pulls his weight more as a father.

This situation op I'm guessing is illustrative of a wider problem?

Thanks everyone. Loving the suggestions! He’s just left now