Husband is out with another woman

[southeastlady]

For a little over a week now my husband has moved himself into the spare room saying he’s not happy at the moment.

Tonight he’s out with a mystery person and I was asking him what time he’d be in just because I wanted to know about locking the front door and he text back

We’re on a break please leave me to my night!!

and then

We’re not together right now, please stop acting like we are

Sorry just devastated

Where's the other woman?

Sorry but lock the door and go to bed,

Tomorrow change the locks.
Monday get onto a divorce.

You are worth so much more op.

Is on a break code for 'just fucking around and keeping you as plan b'?

I'm so sorry. Lock the door. Get a divorce lawyer tomorrow.

You're worth more than this

Move him out permanently.

How awful for you. Have you got any support tonight? I would lock door too

Lock the door and change the locks tomorrow.

Were you aware you were 'on a break'. And does a break make it ok to see other people?

If no to either of those, you know what to do..

Oh, this sounds so tough. Sorry, OP. I don’t know how much chance the two of you have had to talk since he first told you he wasn’t happy, but it sounds as though this has all come as a bit of a bolt out of the blue for you. Please try to talk to someone — friends, family, a counsellor — and make sure you’re getting all the support you need.

If he's out on a date with another woman;then she was either already loitering in the background or he's literally joined OLD sites/site as soon as he's moved into the spare room.

Either way he's not moved into the spare and put your marriage on a break because he's "not happy" but because he wants to shag other women.

Get tough,find your anger and stand up for yourself;your not on a break so he fuck about;tell him it's over,you want a divorce and kick him out.

Make an appointment with a solicitor asap to find out legally where you stand.

Your husband is no longer your friend.Do not cook for him,do his laundry or clean after him.

No support just me and our son here. I’ve locked the door but he’s got his key on him.

Its a jointly owned house so I believe he has every right to be here.

Feel absolutely sick, on the scrap heap of life. Already wondering who she is and what’s better about her

@southeastlady

I know you must be feeling so awful at the moment.

But I would text him don't come home and you will have his clothes packed tommorow.

Then say as you want a break for me we are totally over then. Your not happy.
You want to see other women thinking you can come back of it fails no way you can go.

Is your lock the kind that won't open if a key is on the inside? If so I would certainly do that tonight. You deserve to have some actual space from him to think through what he is doing to you and your next steps.

Lock the door and go to bed, leaving bedding and a note for himto sleep on the sofa

take this opportunity to get your paperwork together, and somewhere safe then Monday see a solicitor to understand your options

personally I would be starting divorce procedures asap. He’s not interested in the marriage any more

You're not boyfriend and girlfriend. You are husband and wife. How do you be 'on a break' from being married? It's not a thing. Until you are divorced, he's just cheating.

That’s exactly what I thought

👆With Bells on

You don't get to be 'on a break' from your wife, live in the family home and be out with your side piece after a week.

Tell him you're locking the door to protect your children.

The fact you have a child together makes him a prize dickhead. He can't just checkout of the relationship (and his responsibilities) claiming to be on abreak.

Don't be sad, get mad! He is absolutely taking the piss. Tell him you don't want to be in limbo and for your child to be confused. Either end things or man up and talk about any issues pervceived in the relationship. Hiding in a spare room and going out on dates is beyond pathetic and cowardly.

I’m buggered without him not living here though, I work shifts some of them being at nights

I'm angry on your behalf OP.
@BippityBopper is right. Get angry.

How dare he.

He can find somewhere else to live and you can still co-parent

I'm so disgusted by his behaviour

OP sending good wishes your way

What
A
Fcking
TWAAAAAAAT

Thank you all need all the support I can get.

Just so upset. I’m 40 next year, I bet she’s younger of course (my husband is 33)

Definitely not together. Get the ball rolling for a divorce. Hopefully your anger will soon kick in

The man has no concern for you or his child, lock the door. Speak to your boss tomorrow ask to be put on days. Get copies of all the paperwork you need, take half the savings then start divorce proceedings on Monday. He is having an affair, so make him move out.