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Would you keep an expensive beautiful necklace from a guy..?

201 replies

Curi · 02/11/2022 11:00

...that a few days later you told you never wanted to see again and not to contact you any more - although he'd never done anything to hurt you and had only been nice and gentle? Clearly it meant a lot to him and he wouldn't have given it to you in the first place if he wasn't crazy about you.

OP posts:
TedMullins · 02/11/2022 11:02

There must’ve been a reason you said you never wanted to see him again? More context needed

Mandofan · 02/11/2022 11:03

Yup, it was a gift. I kept a diamond bracelet from an ex and have no regrets

BaronessBomburst · 02/11/2022 11:05

I wouldn't, no.

GreenManalishi · 02/11/2022 11:06

I would offer to return it, absolutely.

MMmomDD · 02/11/2022 11:08

He broke up with you?
If you like the necklace - keep it. Gift is a gift. Not sure there any particular reason to give it back. Unless it makes you feel bad to see it.

Beldam · 02/11/2022 11:08

Depends…family heirloom or ubiquitous Tiffany’s or similar.

ICanHideButICantRun · 02/11/2022 11:10

It sounds as though the gift shouldn't have been accepted in the first place, or given back when he was told to go.

What happened to make her tell him not to contact her again?

Guavafish1 · 02/11/2022 11:12

Keep it if a gift

ouch321 · 02/11/2022 11:15

No and if the person is you, you're a piece of work for accepting it knowing full well you were going to dump him a few days later.

MorrisZapp · 02/11/2022 11:16

A few days later? Of course you give it back.

BaronessBomburst · 02/11/2022 11:17

But she accepted an expensive gift and then broke up with him immediately afterwards. That's dreadful behaviour. He gave the gift believing there to be a relationship. She accepted it knowing that there wasn't.
If the OP offers the necklace back and he tells her to keep it, that's different.

ArcaneWireless · 02/11/2022 11:20

In these circumstances, I wouldn’t have accepted the gift if I knew I had no real inclination for things to go further.

However, if I had accepted it, I would now offer to return it.

VollywoodHampires · 02/11/2022 11:20

I think the OP is the chap. Ask for the necklace back.

CrunchyCarrot · 02/11/2022 11:20

Clearly it meant a lot to him and he wouldn't have given it to you in the first place if he wasn't crazy about you.

Please offer to give it back to him! It's the right thing to do.

MyRiverThee · 02/11/2022 11:22

If things were not right between you, you shouldn’t have accepted it in the first place. Give it back. You wouldn’t want to wear it anyway would you?

Dery · 02/11/2022 11:22

“In these circumstances, I wouldn’t have accepted the gift if I knew I had no real inclination for things to go further.

However, if I had accepted it, I would now offer to return it.”

This.

ArcaneWireless · 02/11/2022 11:24

Posted too early

clearly it meant a lot to him and wouldn't have given it to you in the first place if he wasn't crazy about you.

and you shouldn’t have accepted it if you clearly thought he wasn’t a keeper and you weren’t crazy about him.

CrampMcBastard · 02/11/2022 11:25

Gift is a gift.

or is that the wrong answer, OP?

Ekátn · 02/11/2022 11:26

Depends was the necklace bought and accepted even though the person accepting it, knew they were going to break it off.

Or was the necklace bought and then the buyer did something shitty that led to the breaking off.

Also depends if it was a long or short relationship. If it was long did gifts go both ways. Is the other one giving their gifts back etc.

TBF, if it was a short relationship I would return the necklace. But then all so I think buying big gesture gifts in a short relationship is a bit odd and makes me think someone is trying to buy someone’s interest.

There’s a lot of detail that might change my mind

maddy68 · 02/11/2022 11:26

No. That a twatty thing to do

InsertPunHere · 02/11/2022 11:30

You're the bloke, or the bloke is your mate/brother, right?

If it was a family heirloom, yes, the dumping person should return it. If it was jewellery he bought for her birthday etc? Sorry, mate, you've made a poor investment.

StopFeckingFaffing · 02/11/2022 11:30

No I absolutely would not keep it unless the guy had made it very clear he wanted me to have it regardless of whether the relationship continued or not

Susurrar · 02/11/2022 11:31

I agree with PP who says it depends on what kind of a necklace it is. A family heirloom - I wouldn’t even want to keep it, it carries a lot more value than just its monetary worth.
Any other necklace - I would most likely offer to give it back. Unless the (ex)BF has done something to hurt me, then I’d keep it out of spite 😁

ExHProblem · 02/11/2022 11:32

More info needed.
How long was the relationship?

Say for example partner 1 bought partner 2 an expensive gift in their January birthday, then partner 2 bought partner 1 the necklace for their October birthday, but then the relationship ended a few days later, should the necklace be returned? I don’t think so necessarily.

But if it was a relationship of a couple weeks/months, and the necklace was given and then relationship over a few days later, then it would feel right that the necklace be returned (or not given/accepted in the first place as so early on).

WhoWillSaveYourSouls · 02/11/2022 11:32

if You’d had it 6 months. No. It would be yours.

two days? I’d return it.

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