Would you keep an expensive beautiful necklace from a guy..?

[Curi]

...that a few days later you told you never wanted to see again and not to contact you any more - although he'd never done anything to hurt you and had only been nice and gentle? Clearly it meant a lot to him and he wouldn't have given it to you in the first place if he wasn't crazy about you.

I'll repeat what @HadEnough798 said

did you ignore her words telling you she didn't want to be serious/ignore her signals, before she had to take the drastic step of saying not to contact her ever again?
And did you push an over-the-top unwanted gift on her which was inappropriate compared to the level of relationship you had?

I wouldn't give it back, because giving it back would mean having to see you again.

No certainly not. Every time I wear it, I would think of where it came from and that would make me feel bad.

There are plenty of people who just acquire things and don't care where they came from. I don't understand that.

A gift is a gift. It's yours.

😂

OP ain't coming back, too many women here with opinions!

However, I had a friend like this. He wanted to date me, I didn't want to be more than friends. One Christmas he bought me a £200 necklace. It was way too much. He wanted be to keep it. I did, but it was really uncomfortable and made things awkward. Interestingly, we did stay friends then when he met the woman who he later married, he completely ghosted me and never contacted me again.

Op, you are a stalky weirdo who needs to leave her alone.

Gift is a gift.

Accepting an expensive gift when you know you're about to ditch someone is not acceptable.

She didn't actually ditch him. From my understanding, OP is trying to buy his way into a relationship and sounds like he's going about it in a way that's ringing alarm bells for a few of us.

I guarantee she will not be wearing this necklace. If she had to go to the step of cutting off all contact, because you failed to respect her boundaries, she will have very negative associations with it.

I'm afraid you can't buy love, sweetie.

@Curi I most definitely wouldn't have accepted an expensive gift from someone I'd not known long.. and in my younger days I was offered expensive gifts on two occasions that I said ''Thanks, but I don't think it's right''

'No such thing as a free lunch' came to mind.

My ex husband bought me a necklace that cost about £75 in today's money, so not extravagant, but I do keep that and occasionally wear it as it had happy memories of when we were together, and things were good.

I'd seen it in a shop window, and said ''those are pretty''...and on the car on the way home, he said ''Would you like a sweet?'' and handed me a bag of what I thought were sweets and the necklace was loose in there.
I really was delighted..

But an ''Expensive'' as in truly expensive necklace...after a short term relationship/dating..I can't see that the woman would wear it again?.. she should give it back if hugely valuable.

But that's just me!

No she should give it back immediately. But some people are greedy and mercenary. Gift or not I would return it.

No, if I dumped him I certainly wouldn't keep it.

Ah you're the guy on the other thread, therefore not in any relationship with the woman. She owes you nothing.

You were trying to buy her love or attention. You may not think of it this way but you were. When she initially said 'no thanks/ it's too much' you should have accepted it back then.

the necklace means nothing to her sentimentally and she probably just doesn't want to cause a scene by giving it back now she's made herself clear.

Agree.. But some women don't care! They'll sell it afterwards.
It should be returned, or not accepted in the first place.

Ah...So if the woman DID actually say ''It's too much'', than that is a completely different story.

I have refused two ridiculously {in my estimation} gifts in the past from men I didn't know well.. so if this woman said ''It's too much'' that puts an entirely different spin on things.

No, I wouldn’t keep it if it had been a recent gift. However, if I felt that way about him I wouldn’t have accepted it in the first place.

OP has already said it was only a few days so unless she regards it as payment for the relationship then she should do the honourable thing and return it.

Yes. Why not?

You cant undo the relationship... its done. Money is spent. Time gone. It can't be rewound.

God forbid women should not only have opinions, but share them when asked. These bastard women eh? How dare they accept gifts which are pressed upon them and also not agree with a man!

Probably not. Or at least I would offer to give it back. I wouldn't feel comfortable keeping it or wearing it, as I have just rejected them.

There was no relationship. (OP posted this morning about her) Sounds like he was trying to buy one by giving her the necklace, and she'd already told him she wasn't interested

This. Family heirloom/family piece, it should be returned.

A gift otherwise, it's a gift.

Although a few days later? No chance I'd keep it.

Probably not. It used to be the case that all letters and presents were returned after relationship breakdown, but that sounds a bit Victorian. But I wouldn't wear it comfortably knowing I had given him the push. At least ask him.

Morally and ethically, I couldn't keep a gift like this, and I wouldn't want to wear it either. As for selling it - that's appalling.

I hope she's given it to a charity shop. You sound an absolute pest @Curi