Husband cheating with woman 37 years younger than me

[HeartBrokenWife]

I feel broken. I had no idea he’d fallen out of love with me. I’m 61 and he’s a little bit younger, but the woman he’s having an affair with is just so much younger than me that it has made me feel almost suicidal. I’m not going to do anything to myself, but I can’t eat or sleep and he’s just smirking at me. I feel utterly humiliated.

My daughter is taking me to a solicitor tomorrow and I’m going to start divorce proceedings, but I feel hollowed out inside and I’m asking myself over and over what I did wrong. I couldn’t help growing older. I’m so sad 😭

I'm so sorry he's done this to you
Please don't think of it as being because you've got older , we're all getting older , including him

Embrace your loved ones , get that legal advice and be kind to yourself 💐

I'm so sorry, the daft twat won't be able to keep up with her, very much doubt the longevity. Divorce the twat and know that it isn't going to end well for him.

I'm so sorry OP. He thinks he's a big-shot now that he has a girlfriend that's in her mid 20s, but everyone else will think he's a knobhead.

OP my heart breaks for you. Lean on your daughter if you can, seek legal advice and get the divorce underway.

It’s given me the ick tbh that she’s early 20s. It won’t end well for him just know that.

be kind to yourself And you haven’t done anything wrong here.. he’s the one who has cheated. xx

Urgh pervy old man dating a young 24 year old. I don’t think you’re the loser in this situation….

What a fool he is. I’m sorry that you are going through this op. It might not feel like it now but you will get through this.

You did nothing wrong. Divorce him. His relationship won’t last, he will grow into a lonely old regretful man

He’s ruined his marriage for a fling with a woman who is practically young enough to be his granddaughter.

He’s vile.

It won’t last, OP. But get out as soon as you can, use the support of your daughter, and STAY ANGRY.

I'm so sorry 🤍

Well he’s just proved himself to be an utter twat and will become a laughing stock
So shes in her 20’s does she have kids or will she want them?
Bide your time OP - put on your seat belt, stay classy, hold your head up high and never look back
You are worth so so much more and I’m glad that your daughter is by your side (speaks volumes that she’s not by dads side)

STAY CLASSY LADY! You got this!

💐

I’m so sorry OP, you don’t deserve this xx

What a vile and rancid old creep he is 🤢

Christ, I have no words.

I'm so sorry for you and your family.

It'll be a 5 minute wonder.
Get to a solicitor and divorced ASAP before he's even realises what he's lost.
I'm so very sorry you're hurt so deeply.
I've just sold the family home as DC's are grown up one moved out. At 61 I'm going on to start another chapter. It takes time. But don't do what I did which is wait for 25 years. Do it now.

There's no fool like an old fool.

Walk away with your head held high and live your best life.

It's not you at all, it's all him. You have done nothing wrong, he is the one that is delusional right now.

Go to that solicitor and start afresh.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you . It's all about him and his weak morals/ego/fear of getting older and unattractive - nothing to do with you . Selfish person who is c**t struck , as my granny used to say .

Do you know what the 24 year old thinks of his ridiculous , inappropriate behaviour ? Is she even aware of his feelings for her ? My ex's " victim ", wasn't , apparently .

And you and I are the same age and I feel a lot younger in soul since leaving mine due to similar behaviour during the pandemic lockdown period . So glad your lovely daughter is supporting you . Sending you all the best wishes in the world for the kind future you deserve .

I can only echo what everyone else has said. You've done absolutely nothing wrong here.

My ex husband had several affairs and I blamed myself for ages before I finally accepted that it was absolutely not my fault. I promise you, it does get easier. Stay strong, lean on your daughter and your friends. One day you'll wake up and realise you're so much better off without him. ❤️

All the best op

Thank you for all the lovely messages xxx I think she’s got a young son so he’ll have to start all over again with childcare etc and I can’t imagine that he’ll enjoy it, although maybe he will? I feel dizzy with it all and I’m alternating between utter despair and a feeling of pure rage that he’s humiliated me like this. I thought I loved him until I found out about his affair. I think I still do, but I need to stay angry as you say DownAtTheBodyShop. My daughter is being incredibly supportive and I love her so much, but hate having to lean on her like this.

He's smirking at you?! Does he think he's done something clever? My God OP, you are well rid of him if you could but see it. Please divorce him and don't ever be tempted to go back when he (inevitably) realises what a twat he has been. Your daughter must wonder what on earth's got into her father.

I really feel for you. Your husband is, of course, a deluded idiot. No wonder you feel wrung out, but you have done no wrong at all. Age happens to all of us and there is no holding it back, in reality.

let your daughter support you. I am sure she is just as shocked as you. Sending kind thoughts your way.

OP - he has humiliated nobody but himself.

Grim. What on earth does she see in him? You are worth ten of both of them. Sending strength to you x

Take each day by day, you'll get there one way or another.

understandable if you don't want to say,

How did their affair begin ?