Husband cheating with woman 37 years younger than me

[HeartBrokenWife]

I feel broken. I had no idea he’d fallen out of love with me. I’m 61 and he’s a little bit younger, but the woman he’s having an affair with is just so much younger than me that it has made me feel almost suicidal. I’m not going to do anything to myself, but I can’t eat or sleep and he’s just smirking at me. I feel utterly humiliated.

My daughter is taking me to a solicitor tomorrow and I’m going to start divorce proceedings, but I feel hollowed out inside and I’m asking myself over and over what I did wrong. I couldn’t help growing older. I’m so sad 😭

You should just wait until the divorce is finalized and give him a gift-wrapped shovel with a note attached saying “To help you when digging your own grave. So long, Sucker! 🤣🤣🤣”

He's seeing a 24-year-old? Dirty old n0nce.

So sorry for my depressing "rant"! But it did feel very good to finally "tell".....

I did mean my story as a warning to OP to not put off getting out of a bad situation. (As you suggested, it is hard to describe how difficult it can be to even think of leaving the house I've lived in for almost 35 years)

My "fear" was partly because I don't have any support of family or friends (another story for another day). OP is very lucky to have her daughter and probably some very nice supportive friends.

Also, I had real fears of my husband's vindictive and explosive temper (he is half German/half Italian) I call it coldly hot tempered. Having been traumatized by my Narcissist father's physical and emotional abuse for 18 years (another story for another day) I did not have the strength to do what I should have done. (I never realized how damaged I was by my childhood and my husband picked up right where my father left off) I never stood a chance.....

Of course, 13 years ago I did not have Mumsnet! The moral support you give each other is very inspiring and heartwarming. I am sure OP appreciates all of your advice and support!

Not sure what will happen in the future....I keep thinking that TODAY I will do something. Then I don't.....

OP, please be smarter and stronger than I am!

Sorry, ViolinPin.....I just spent 2 hours answering your questions and the page expired and then it all disappeared. Now I am too tired to re-do it, but I will try again tomorrow.....I appreciated your kind comments and your interest.....

My husband of 14 years left me claiming he wanted to be on his own then less than two weeks later got with a girl 20 years younger who was like a daughter to us. I'm heartbroken and devastated and feel so betrayed. He has a child the same age.

He's an old fool who will doubtless find himself a lonely old fool when she comes to her senses and leaves him for a younger man.
Meanwhile, it's vanishingly rare that a young woman who is decent and has got herself together will take up with a married man 20 years older, so he may well find he's taken on a bunch of issues that he will live to regret.
You must be hurting horribly, but truly, a man who would do this is no loss. Mourn the man you thought you were married to, but be thankful to be rid of the one you were actually were.

Hahaha I'm laughing at him. What a silly silly man. Get any joint accounts closed, get the divorce proceedings under way. Do you work? Your daughter will want to support you, so let her

I have a DD 25. If she was dating man your husbands age I wouldn't be happy. All going to end in tears... His xx

I couldn't help growing older.

That line has broken my heart op.

What an utter bastard xx

This thread started last October.
I hope everything is much better for the OP now.