Thoughts on this guy giving me the ick

[apricotsandroses]

So a guy I've been dating is starting to give me the famous "ick" - some of these reasons are obviously ridiculous but some of them are red flags right? It's been about 2 months & we're both late twenties.

• keeps referencing that he's in love with me when I'm obviously uncomfortable (I said it back once about a month ago after too much to drink but I do not feel this way and have not said it since)
• when he says he loves me or misses me and I don't respond to that part of the message he replies with "harsh"
• when I say I have to go when we're on the phone he whines and says "5 more mins" which always turns into ages
• when out for a drink and I only want to stay for one he always pushes and pushes for me to stay out later with him
• he sends photos of his dinner every night and asks in detail what I'm having for dinner and what the recipe is
• always says "yummy"
• acts really mopey if we're out with a group of other people and I'm talking to other people and not him for a while
• is really over the top when I'm ill or walking home alone - "couldn't sleep until I know you're better/safe" "it's all I think about" "I just care about your well-being and safety so much"
• always boasted about being good at sport and when I watched him he was AWFUL
• always double texts if I don't text back within 30 mins
• sends super long goodnight texts every single night that are soooo soppy in reply to my "goodnight! Talk tomorrow" - I mean like paragraphs of "you're amazing and beautiful, I miss you and love you so much" and if I don't respond before sleep he texts "oi" until I do...
• wears a backpack that is sooo far down his back it looks ridiculous
• keeps talking about wanting to get me pregnant instantly (this is absolutely not of interest to me and I haven't slept with him)

Wow after typing all this out I'm even more convinced I need to end it this week!!

I'm not surprised you have the ick!

Yep the majority of that would give me the ick and yummy said to anyone over 4 turns my stomach.

End it. End it now!
He sounds suffocating. You’ll feel relieved when it’s over.

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RUUUUUN!

Just end it. I don’t get what this list is for. If you don’t like someone, stop seeing them. It’s very straightforward.

Yow! Needy and clingy and wants to get you pregnant - run!!! I have the ick just reading this.

Bin, now.

Haha what’s in the backpack?

Why are you dating him?

Just far to clingy and needy.

So many red flags here. I could not be bothered with someone so needy.

Didn’t read the full OP before I posted first time, missed the pregnant bit.
That’s super creepy.. I would dump by phone/text if I were you, really wouldn’t want to see him again.

when I say I have to go when we're on the phone he whines and says "5 more mins" which always turns into ages

My face began to contort with visual ick at this point and by the end of your list I looked like a gargoyle.

Get rid!!!

I wouldn't even say this is the "ick" - I tend to think the ick is when it's something petty that personally makes you cringe and turned off but isn't actually that bad.

You need to run a mile: don't know how you've lasted 2 months tbh.

I've physically cringed reading this.

That would make my fanny close up completely op

He sounds like a needy man-child. Imagine if the two of you had a child? He’d be a rubbish parent.

What a creep!

Definitely get rid.

Oh god. The back pack was the final straw! Silly trousers (and a very long small-finger fingernail) did it for me. Let him down gently. Id probably blame work demands (actually I did, with trouser-fingernail boy).

There will be someone out there who will just love to hear about his daily dinner and the fact that he wants to “get them pregnant instantly” (bleurgh).

That’s definitely an ‘ick’ list.

In fairness, within that list you do say that when he told you he loved you, you said it back.

You don’t actually feel that way, and “not saying it since” is not a way to fix it. It would be best to end this quickly.

I hear you about the backpack.

The bit that made me laugh was the backpack far down his back 😂 yeah, he's not the one.

• always says "yummy"

LEAVE HIM

He's a heaping pile of ick. A pathetic whiny manchild. Throw him back into the ocean!

Yummy and the backpack would be enough for me!

Your thoughts are absolutely spot on-you’ll be well rid!