Thoughts on this guy giving me the ick

[apricotsandroses]

So a guy I've been dating is starting to give me the famous "ick" - some of these reasons are obviously ridiculous but some of them are red flags right? It's been about 2 months & we're both late twenties.

• keeps referencing that he's in love with me when I'm obviously uncomfortable (I said it back once about a month ago after too much to drink but I do not feel this way and have not said it since)
• when he says he loves me or misses me and I don't respond to that part of the message he replies with "harsh"
• when I say I have to go when we're on the phone he whines and says "5 more mins" which always turns into ages
• when out for a drink and I only want to stay for one he always pushes and pushes for me to stay out later with him
• he sends photos of his dinner every night and asks in detail what I'm having for dinner and what the recipe is
• always says "yummy"
• acts really mopey if we're out with a group of other people and I'm talking to other people and not him for a while
• is really over the top when I'm ill or walking home alone - "couldn't sleep until I know you're better/safe" "it's all I think about" "I just care about your well-being and safety so much"
• always boasted about being good at sport and when I watched him he was AWFUL
• always double texts if I don't text back within 30 mins
• sends super long goodnight texts every single night that are soooo soppy in reply to my "goodnight! Talk tomorrow" - I mean like paragraphs of "you're amazing and beautiful, I miss you and love you so much" and if I don't respond before sleep he texts "oi" until I do...
• wears a backpack that is sooo far down his back it looks ridiculous
• keeps talking about wanting to get me pregnant instantly (this is absolutely not of interest to me and I haven't slept with him)

Wow after typing all this out I'm even more convinced I need to end it this week!!

My fanny clamped shut after reading that and I don't even know the fella

I'd be off after 2 weeks let alone 2 months

Grim mate, grimk

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Run apricotsandroses, RUN!!

I mean I only read the first few and I can't believe you've continued seeing him. You're obviously uncomfortable, he's inappropriate, needy, controlling and sulky. Why on earth have you continued to entertain even the notion of this eejit?

keeps referencing that he's in love with me when I'm obviously uncomfortable (I said it back once about a month ago after too much to drink but I do not feel this way and have not said it since)

when he says he loves me or misses me and I don't respond to that part of the message he replies with "harsh"

when I say I have to go when we're on the phone he whines and says "5 more mins" which always turns into ages

when out for a drink and I only want to stay for one he always pushes and pushes for me to stay out later with him

And this last one is absolutely fucking mental. Also a bit frightening:

keeps talking about wanting to get me pregnant instantly (this is absolutely not of interest to me and I haven't slept with him)

Can you see how poor your boundaries are to be still seeing this bloke?

I don't think you should be dating anyone until your boundaries are more robust.

Get in the bin!! And seriously, block him on EVERYTHING after that because he sounds utterly unhinged.

Pass the bucket :-(

Very clearly not the one for you. Boy bye!

What the hell???
He wants to get you pregnant.
YUK.
It's all just a fricking nightmare.
Dump him instantly.

He’s clearly a serial killer 🪓
Something’s weighing that back pack down 🥴
Run, run for the hills 🏃🏼‍♀️💨

@apricotsandroses
your well bullet pointed list is very long, even half that size would be enough, c’mon you know what to do, he sounds awful, you deserve better

Dump. Block. Run.

Why do you need to ask?

AWFUL 😖

Euw. Very icky and the pregnancy thing is just weird.

I very briefly dated a guy who also got very intense very quick. Not quite as bad as your guy, but some of the other behaviours were very similar (we'd also not been intimate but he was strongly implying he had found 'the one' with me). I found out that he had been engaged a couple of times previously to women he had only been with for a short amount of time, and came to the conclusion that he probably would have been just as intense with any other woman he was dating. It's rare, but some guys are just like that.

These replies are brilliant!

Sorry op, I know this is your life but you need to run!

I started to read the post and was all ready to side with the BF, thinking you would be being a bit harsh to him. But OMG, no, run!!! Early on in the relationship putting pressure on to share more than you're comfortable, emotional blackmail, declaring love without it being obviously reciprocated. But the pregnancy statement - wow. Sooo creepy!!!!
Loads of red flags. Get away asap!

I don’t understand why you’re leaving it a week! Honestly he sounds like a complete weirdo! All comments were weird but the last one was the final straw for me, please do not sleep with him and end it ASAP. He wants to get you pregnant so he’s highly unlikely to want to use a rubber. Honestly men, what on earth is wrong with that gender

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Fuck. I’ve got the ick.

Ick-by-proxy?

Fuck proxy. I've just projective vomited from my living room sofa all the way to Tracey's up the road! 🤮🤮🤮

Red flags! 😂😂

*projectile

Duct tape and a tracker probably

And a ‘Sex for Dummies’ book and a pregnancy test. 🤢

keeps talking about wanting to get me pregnant instantly

Get yourself some counselling OP. Can't beleive that this is even a post. So many warning signs.

He's smothering you.