Hello, just thought I’d see if anyone is still relatively new in finding their feet after their marriage ended?
The separation from him was fairly easy to deal with as it had got toxic but the breakdown of my family unit is something I’ve struggled with - although getting there - and looking forward to Christmas!
Any one care to join a thread about it? ☕
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Anyone finding their feet after marriage ended?
Chocolatepencil · 05/10/2022 10:41
butterflyandbees · 01/12/2022 13:43
My husband isn't out working in an office as we run our web business from home and share a car, we also live in a very rural area, think Welsh hillsides rural. HIs mortgage is apparently sorted, so he had been planning this because it takes longer than the 12 days since he broke the news to me, both to have a survey and get a mortgage. His behaviour is not "out" to other people as such because he is a loner with only one friend and he has hardly said a word to him. Neither of us has any family at all, we were a family until he decided that is no longer his agenda. Each day is getting harder and harder to deal with. 2 weeks ago I would have said we had a secure and happy marriage.
ThePredictableScript · 05/12/2022 22:55
I'm actually spiralling 😪 it really hit me that hes messaging another woman, shouldn't have but looked and saw that hes constantly on telegram so I deleted it. I also deleted instagram. I went on a hunt of her trying to find her husband to tell her (although I think shes just enjoying the attention off my hubby and won't leave hers as she didn't at the start of the year when he left). Anyway, I am mad spiralling considering messaging her and her children so the children tell the dad 🙈 or find her address and turn up and tell him (I messaged him years ago on fb over the same thing). Shall I message or be dignified?
butterflyandbees · 06/12/2022 10:23
I am struggling too, emotionally and very worried about finances. Found another cleaning job for Sunday's at a hotel, but minimum wage. I just don't know what to do, husband still here waiting for our mortgages on the houses to go through so he can move into his new house. I am a nervous wreck walking on eggshells, I can't get my head around the complete personality change and coldness. He wouldn't so much as let me lift a shopping bag, now he happily watches me struggle to carry loads firewood into the house. I am just so alone and scared, will it be worse when he has gone. I never thought at 59 I would be scratching around for minimum wage work when I have helped him run his business for 12 years.
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bethatgirl · 06/12/2022 12:23
I'm struggling today. I found out yesterday that exH arranged to go out for a drink with someone who actually tried splitting us up when we first got together 18yrs ago. I can't believe he has split our family up like this. Im two months in and was doing ok, but am feeling like crap today. It's gonna be a terrible Xmas but have to try and remain happy for the kids. It's so tough.
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