Ladies, we all have the same story, dick head man, takes us for granted (insert self entitlement behaviour) decide there's a better life for them and off they f*ck into what they believe is the sunset. They do this, without looking back and without regret because they know we are decent women/mothers/daughters/humans and the trail of destruction they leave will be swept up by us, like every other pile of shit they have done over the years of our loyal partnerships.
What we don't notice at this point (I'm coming up to my year anniversary) and what we don't always see, is we're about to embark on a very hard journey of self discovery. It doesn't feel like it, it feels like you don't know your path, that your lost and wondering around in the wilderness. What you/we are actually doing, is finding your way. One tiny step at a time, sometimes no steps on a day, sometimes steps backwards, but you will not ever take that first step again.
You will learn how it feels to be free, what financial independence is, resilience, determination, your emotions will harden (only enough to towards them). New routines will emerge, new challenges and you will achieve them.
In years to come, you will look down on them.
I didn't do the pick me dance, I never asked for him back, not once.
I'm grateful he didn't choose me, because I look at who he did choose and the life he volunteered for, and now I realise, he was never enough for me, I'm glad I didn't reach his standard, he will never be high enough to reach mine. 