Husband wants me to not talk about our daughter

[Ilov]

Hi everyone. My husband has 6 ( 3 girls 3 boys) siblings, who have 18 kids. And they're all boys! My sister in law has 3 boys, and really wanted a girl.

When we found out our baby was a girl. His parents were very happy, so were his brothers and 2 sisters. But one if his sister, let's call Nancy. Was p*ssed off. She has 5 boys and told everyone it was hurting her that I had a girl. So, I stopped going to any of his family reunion, because she would be annoyed or cried. She has gender disappointment and I really feel for her, I understand it must be hard.

But now baby is there. So my husband decided we will not take her to his family because Nancy will be upset. I said OK. But his parents still came, and now my husband is angry at me because his sister wrote a rant on fb, about how I feel special I had the first girl.

So my husband's solution is to not talk about our daughter and pretend she is no there.

What should I do

Tell them all to fuck off. How ridiculous.

Weird.

Is this real?? These people sound unhinged

What a bunch of wetwipes!
Take your DD anywhere you like, but just be considerate of feelings (I’m sure you wouldn’t boast or make comment about having the first girl anyway).
They sound like Very.Hard.Work.

I feel sorry for her boys!

Its not like you did it deliberately. Not only is he being utterly ridiculous, but your daughter will miss out on family time by the sounds of it.

This!

Fuck off his side of the family and just see your own. The sister is being absolutely pathetic and should be grateful she has a healthy child no matter the sex. Its always the boys that has the sex disappointment ffs.

By the way she has 5 and not 3. I was confused up with the siblings number

the whole family should be celebrating not wanting you to hide your beautiful baby away from the world. Tell your DH that your daughter is not going anywhere and you won’t bring her up in some shameful weird way in case Nancy gets upset. Ridiculous he has not leaped to his daughters defence really.

I'd find it hard to look at him, never mind share a home with him. He's putting his twatty sister over his own daughter?!

How will that work in practice? If you ask me, it sounds majorly fucked up. Would he take his sons to family events ? Would any boy babies be expected to pretend that their sister doesn't exist?

She doesn't have 'gender disappointment'. She has being a massive twat syndrome. I wouldn't have anything to do with any of them. Your husband can go to see them and pretend you don't exist either.

Fuck her. How pathetic to find it upsetting that someone else has got something you haven't. Children shouldn't be appreciated according to gender.

You should get yourself and your child as far away from this unhinged gang of nutters as quickly as possible.

Sure... It's entirely reasonable to pretend that a child doesn't exist so fucking Nancy doesn't have a tantrum. JFC. The world has gone insane.

He needs to tell his sister to stop being a cunt and grow up. Not like you had any control over what sex your baby was, I'll never understand why grown adults have to act like children 🤦‍♀️

You were very inconsiderate to have a girl, given the circumstances. Lock her in a tower in a deep, dark wood, and next time you have sex without contraception be sure to think boyish thoughts. 😂

Your DH’s family is ridiculous. Don’t rub it in that your child is female, but for goodness sake please feel able to acknowledge this new human’s existence!!!

I would refuse to see any of them if they feel even slightly the same as Nancy!

I'd also tell your husband if he actively ignores the fact you have a daughter together,around his family and doesnt tell them all how pathetic Nancy is (& to her face) he can also have nothing to do with either of you.

His sister ranted on Facebook about you because grandparents came to visit a new baby? She's off her rocker.

And what insanity to begin with! Why would you agree to not take her around family? It's not like Nancy can't have kids (still unreasonable to pretend baby doesn't exist), she has five! FIVE! Who cares if they're all boys, who cares who has the 'first girl' a baby is an individual and a person in their own right not a commodity!

I'd be having very strong words with my husband why he thinks it's acceptable to treat your daughter like this. She deserves to be loved by her family.

Well, it's all massively your fault for making them all have boys, then having a girl yourself on purpose! They are all completely reasonable to blame you.

Meanwhile, back in the real world......

For fuck sake. Your DH needs to say this is bollox and your baby will be seeing the family, regardless of this idiot’s view.
Being me I’d say on her Facebook post, or maybe my own, that she thinks she’s special because she has five boys… but I’m a bit of a loose cannon

Her poor sons.

Your husband needs to tell his sister to either seek professional help or get over herself.

I need to show his whole family this thread. Him first. I understand it can upseting. If I listened to my husband, she would never see her paternal family, everytime Nancy visits I would hide any pink or girly thing there.

Yes. If it was up to her, her family would never ever see our baby girl. She blocked off any social media, left the family chat where pics of baby were sent.