Husband wants me to not talk about our daughter

[Ilov]

Hi everyone. My husband has 6 ( 3 girls 3 boys) siblings, who have 18 kids. And they're all boys! My sister in law has 3 boys, and really wanted a girl.

When we found out our baby was a girl. His parents were very happy, so were his brothers and 2 sisters. But one if his sister, let's call Nancy. Was p*ssed off. She has 5 boys and told everyone it was hurting her that I had a girl. So, I stopped going to any of his family reunion, because she would be annoyed or cried. She has gender disappointment and I really feel for her, I understand it must be hard.

But now baby is there. So my husband decided we will not take her to his family because Nancy will be upset. I said OK. But his parents still came, and now my husband is angry at me because his sister wrote a rant on fb, about how I feel special I had the first girl.

So my husband's solution is to not talk about our daughter and pretend she is no there.

What should I do

I have just come back to read the updates. I cannot believe what I have just read.

They are both fucking unhinged batshit.

Well Done op for getting out. I hope you are ok and feeling positive as You really have done the right thing.

She has gone from Not wanting to see or hear about her niece to wanting to take her from you. She is one crazy bitch and he is no better. He is in fact worse. I wouldn't let her near either of them because I just wouldn't trust them to bring her home.

Please keep every text and let him take you to court for access and I'd be asking for everything to be put in place of he does see her. Prohibited steps order, full residency with you, supervised access in a contact centre etc etc.

Op I would contact a lawyer asap

When you have a baby you get what you are given! Babies are babies!

If she is jealous that's her problem. No way on earth would I hide my child or visits. It is ridiculous.

Now, Nancy is sending me texts. How she is sorry and her brother is devastated. I even thought of going back, but I think my mum and everyone here is right. If he is capable of telling me that him and Nancy will raise my daughter. I cannot go back.

My husband keeps harassing me with love texts but he never ever ask about our child, unless it is to say 'She is also my child'

Nancy's husband is an asshole. He, too, thinks that "You showing off your girl when you know we always wanted one is cruel".

When it comes to her son, I don't know. The oldest, is a nice lad. I have never seen anything bad in their household.

Don’t be lured back. They will take ownership of your daughter and strip her of her identity.

I agree.

Don’t take him back. Protect that little girl.