Take away to someone else address?

[Flowerpot101]

The other day, myself and my other half decided to order a take out Chinese from a place local but that we had from before but not for a while. The website auto saves the address and credit card similar to how just eat would. He passed me his phone to input my order, so I did then continued to checkout to find another address already on there, it’s his account, his credit card, but some one else’s full address, door number, street, post code. This address was a few estates away from us so not exactly a auto input from location services as it’s too far away, - I’d understand if it put on automatically next doors address or something. He brushed it under the carpet immediately saying “oh dunno why that’s there”
I memories the postcode and door number and obviously google mapped it to ensure it was an address. I even drove past the house, a mini parked outside, flowers in the window, so it’s actually a place.
Has he previously ordered a take away there or is this a simple technical error? Should I be worried?

Can you check his order history on the account to see what was ordered and where?

Or check his credit card statement for the last few months (you said it was a recently new card he was using?) and check the order date and back track to see where you & he were that day?

I would definitely need to go and knock on the door, or even just sit outside for a while maybe at the weekend and see who lives there. Or get a friend to pop round and ask for your partner, as per a PP.

otherwise you’ll wonder forever, I would. I can’t imagine my husband brushing off an auto fill of a completely different address etc as it would clearly immediately look like someone had stolen his card details! He’d have been straight on the phone to the takeaway and/or the bank.

if the knocking on the door thing doesn’t work I’d mention it to your husband and suggest you go round together and see who lives there and why they’ve been using his card.

Two other things - depending on his business if he’s self employed and having an affair it’d be sooo much easier to take time out in the day than in the evening. Also, don’t assume men only have affairs with women.

He wouldn't have deleted all of the order history from the takeaway if it wasn't suspicious. He didn't order for a friend ffs. He's been cheating and why everyone is assuming it's a Tuesday night only thing I don't know.

Is he a tradesman? Working late some nights? Nipping off to price up a job etc?

He's been cheating with whoever lives at that address. It's hardly uncommon and his reaction says it all

order history has either been deleted or not saved on the first place. No access to statements. It was just by freak chance that I clicked checkout, and the address was already saved. He then “oh dunno what that’s sound there” then said “I need go check which card to use” (checking the stores cards against his physical card which was kept upstairs) he went upstairs for a min, , came down and said “ordered it, then kissed my cheek” the whole kissing me cheek randomly was an unusual act on its own 😂

"came down and said “ordered it, then kissed my cheek” the whole kissing me cheek randomly was an unusual act on its own"

Guilty conscience. 🙃

Instead of going all Miss Marple on him, just ask. That’s very rarely ever suggested as a solution on here probably for a number of reasons but still, just ask.

if he asks and still just says he doesn’t know then don’t accept that, ask again, explain how it doesn’t add up. Explain that other peoples addresses don’t accidentally get stored online and that you want to know truthfully if he knows who’s address that is and why it’s in his phone. Tell him the chances of a random address in his phone being a local one is very slim & you need an explanation.

if he still denies everything or can’t provide a decent explanation then I think that’s all the answer you need to make a decision anyway, no amount of snooping or stalking will make you feel any better and none of those things matter anyway if he isn’t honest or open with you.

I haven't RTFT, so don't know if it's been suggested or if it makes a difference... I ordered from the same Chinese takeaway a good 10 years apart, when they wanted to confirm the address on file it was my Ex's sister's house. They linked my phone number to the address, not my payment card. Could this explain anything?

Oh, it was done online? Ignore my last comment then!

Don't believe that for one second. I put a huge relience on my exh's friends and how his spending time with them was 'safe', they'd not let him cheat on his wife right?

Nope, he's now married to one of their friends.

I should add they actively encourage it, lied to my face in person to cover for him.

Don't put trust in HIS friends.

People generally don't suggest asking - because if he's cheating, he's gonna lie and obfuscate. You just end up more confused than ever, and often getting made to feel guilty (or scared) for asking a perfectly reasonable question.

If he was hacked, he'd have been worried.
If it was someone's house where he was there innocently, he'd have just said who it was.
If it was innocent, he wouldn't have deleted everything.

well when I logged into the take away account earlier; he must have been notified via email or sometime because the password has been changed 😭 can’t check again now lol

Even dodgier....why would he not want you to see if there's nothing to hide

He is guilty as fuck I’m afraid… his behaviour screams it

He's definitely up to something. Why delete the history and change the password if you're innocent.
Tell him you went to the house and spoke to her and he has 2 minutes to explain himself or you pack his shit and kick him out.

You need to ask him what he's got to hide. He's escalated really quickly for a man who doesn't know why it was there in the first place.

Weeu Weeu

You need answers, and fast.

He may of changed it thinking some one else is logged in, so done it for security reasons. Either way, I can’t get into it now lol

I had a very similar issue recently. only myself uses the takeaway app on my phone and I'd been looking at takeaways near my home, my partners and also my work place. I went on the other night and a new address was saved on there. Only myself uses it so I found it a bit weird so did a bit of research. Apparently the app I use looks for the pin drop closest to where I am at the time and the address showing was one close to me that I'd walked the dog past earlier in the day so it must have dropped there at that time. Nothing to worry about from my point of view.

Why are you making excuses for him? Security reasons? He wasn't bothered by a random local address on his account?

He won't have been notified that you've logged in he's just panicking and spending his time trying to remove all trace of the affair he's been having.

He may of changed it thinking some one else is logged in, so done it for security reasons. Either way, I can’t get into it now lol

He was worried about you looking which is why he's deleted the history - or do you think he may have done that on the anticipation he would be hacked and he was protecting his previous order history from hackers??

Even if he did get a notification that someone had logged in to his account he would 100% know it was you bad he's panicked

He knows you suspect him and will be covering all tracks he can. He's prob even warned OW

@summersolstice43 you the OPs DH? 🤣

Honestly OP does your DP talk like this because I'd be considering the fact that he might be snooping through your emails to see what you've found out about him...

Apologies @summersolstice43 just done a quick search and you're a long-standing member

@girlmom21 I was just expressing the issue I had with a certain delivery app that I knew no one else had used or even had access to which sounded similar to OP's issue. That was until I'd read the updates saying her DP had deleted the order history and changed password. That certainly does sound suspicious but I know from my experience it was innocent.