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Take away to someone else address?

208 replies

Flowerpot101 · 31/08/2022 21:32

The other day, myself and my other half decided to order a take out Chinese from a place local but that we had from before but not for a while. The website auto saves the address and credit card similar to how just eat would. He passed me his phone to input my order, so I did then continued to checkout to find another address already on there, it’s his account, his credit card, but some one else’s full address, door number, street, post code. This address was a few estates away from us so not exactly a auto input from location services as it’s too far away, - I’d understand if it put on automatically next doors address or something. He brushed it under the carpet immediately saying “oh dunno why that’s there”
I memories the postcode and door number and obviously google mapped it to ensure it was an address. I even drove past the house, a mini parked outside, flowers in the window, so it’s actually a place.
Has he previously ordered a take away there or is this a simple technical error? Should I be worried?

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vroom321 · 01/09/2022 10:56

EleanorShellstrop28 · 01/09/2022 09:54

My husband is a software engineer/massive nerd about technology and stuff and he said he's certain that it isn't a random mistake. An app wouldn't just randomly make up and save a random address that hadn't been inputted previously.

He also did this face: 😬 When I told him that you went back on the app and it was all deleted! It really doesn't look good, OP - the deleting has confirmed it's something suspicious that he doesn't want you to know about.

Definitely dig around for more info. Don't let him know you're onto him though or he will cover his tracks!

Can you have a friend snoop on this address one Tuesday night? Wait outside in a car reading a newspaper with eyeholes cut into the top like a cartoon detective?

I hate it when people offer their husbands point of view.

Oh he pulled a face. We must believe him because he's a man. Are we supposed to care more about what a man thinks?

girlmom21 · 01/09/2022 10:59

We must believe him because he's a man. Are we supposed to care more about what a man thinks?

He's not just a man. He's a software engineer who said the same thing as everyone else here Grin

HappyHamsters · 01/09/2022 11:02

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 10:54

I am seriously considering just saving up and going. Without even questioning what’s going on. How closed he is with things doesn’t scream ‘I want to be a couple forever’ does it.

No it doesnt really but what about what you want. Do you want to be with him forever, are you married or living together. Do you have your own income and financial security.

vroom321 · 01/09/2022 11:05

😂😂 I'm married. I'm not against men. I wouldn't give a shit what my husband thought. I definitely wouldn't be discussing things on here with him.

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 11:09

HappyHamsters · 01/09/2022 11:02

No it doesnt really but what about what you want. Do you want to be with him forever, are you married or living together. Do you have your own income and financial security.

We aren’t married no, but we have lived together for 12 years. I can be financially secure in few months or so but not right now. Ive just gone back to work having been a stay at home mum. We don’t do joint finances or anything so I’d have to save up and move out with the kids.

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tsttst · 01/09/2022 11:12

It would not be a technical error.

If it was a wrong address, his initial reaction would be alarm and to check why it has a different address.

IF it was innocently ordering from someone elses house with his mates, he wold say " let me have a look ? Oh that was when we were at so and so's house and we ordered out"

He is dismissing it as though it is no big deal, and I have never heard of anyone taking their mail to open at work !

sorry, but he has probably been at some woman's house and ordered take out.

Try to find a friend to go round and ask" Hi, I'm looking for John Smith. He had a takeway ordered from here recently. Did it arrive really late? I'm so sorry"

You should also try to order another takeaway and the account should show the last orders.

Hereforthedramaz · 01/09/2022 11:15

I have had my deliveroo account hacked.

I suddenly got an alert about an order being placed for an address in London.

Luckily they selected an older card so it declined and I could quickly change the password. But they had gone in and saved a new address and phone number etc.

It's possible it's that and the hacker deleted the previous orders.

Of course the likelihood is he would have noticed an order being charged to his card etc but it is possible.

HappyMackerel · 01/09/2022 11:20

Ask him calmly and with a bit of humour if possible. 'It's been playing on my mind, so just wanted to ask so I can draw a line under that train of thought.' Give him space to respond and don't ramble or apologise but be calm and open.

butterflied · 01/09/2022 11:26

He seems very sus deleting the app history as well as not even opening mail at the house.

I'd be making plans to leave.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 01/09/2022 11:26

It happened to my son but only because he'd ordered food to that address one time before, no idea if it could be some sort of error but if he's account had been hacked surely they'd have tried to order food

Aikko · 01/09/2022 11:32

If his account had been hacked, I wouldn't expect him to brush it off and delete the history.
Seems extremely suspicious to me, particularly when he seems to be quite secretive with other aspects of his life with you (finances, mail etc..), even after 12 YEARS!

BloobryMuffin · 01/09/2022 11:45

We accidentally ordered to the wrong address in just eat as it orders to the last place you searched. We had been in the car looking for the closest take away and then our next delivery was made to the address where we had been driving for the search. Luckily the driver rang to confirm the address and brought it to us, but it was an address neither of us had actually been to.

EleanorShellstrop28 · 01/09/2022 11:45

vroom321 · 01/09/2022 10:56

I hate it when people offer their husbands point of view.

Oh he pulled a face. We must believe him because he's a man. Are we supposed to care more about what a man thinks?

What an idiotic comment! I clearly mentioned my husband because he's a Software Engineer who develops apps as his job 😂 Some people on MN are hilariously miserable and bitter! Thanks for the laugh!

Irridescantshimmmer · 01/09/2022 11:48

It is either an innocent mistake, or fraud.

EleanorShellstrop28 · 01/09/2022 11:49

vroom321 · 01/09/2022 11:05

😂😂 I'm married. I'm not against men. I wouldn't give a shit what my husband thought. I definitely wouldn't be discussing things on here with him.

Right, so if your husband literally developed apps as his job, and someone on MN asked a question about an app and how it works, you can't see how it might be a TEENY bit relevant to ask your husband this question about apps? He was literally sat next to me, it's not like I had to make an international phone call to get in touch or something. 😂😂Alright grumpy, calm down! Sorry for talking to my husband and acknowledging his existence sometimes 😂😂

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 11:51

The more I think about it, His account defo hasn’t been hacked, he’d of panicked, surely, as his card details are saved there. He didn’t even bother to check or seem suspicious that the address was there. Where as I’d be like, oh shoot, whose been on my account!

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ParrotsAteThemAll · 01/09/2022 11:57

Buy an Apple air tag and hide it in his car! He knows you’re on to him now so unlikely to go to that address so will be meeting this woman elsewhere (if that’s what he’s up to).

Exetereve · 01/09/2022 11:58

It's really telling his first words were I don't know why that's there.

He knows exactly what the address is. If he didn't his first qn would have been what is that?

He's definitely used the address to send something to, not necessarily takeaway but he's bought or sent something there

JauntyJinty · 01/09/2022 11:59

This is definitly straying into crazy teriorty but it's entered my head so I'm going to share it!

Could you get his phone away from him long enough to take it to the house and see if the WiFi connects?

YoSofi · 01/09/2022 12:01

JauntyJinty · 01/09/2022 11:59

This is definitly straying into crazy teriorty but it's entered my head so I'm going to share it!

Could you get his phone away from him long enough to take it to the house and see if the WiFi connects?

Ooooh clever!

DustinsHat · 01/09/2022 12:02

Don't say anything to him about it. Get into his phone. Get your ducks in a row. Ever watched Doctor Foster?

Leadingtostories · 01/09/2022 12:06

Thinking about it, I don't think I could resist knocking on the door.

iamjustwinginglife · 01/09/2022 12:06

JauntyJinty · 01/09/2022 11:59

This is definitly straying into crazy teriorty but it's entered my head so I'm going to share it!

Could you get his phone away from him long enough to take it to the house and see if the WiFi connects?

I'm going to remember this advice!!!

Nat6999 · 01/09/2022 12:07

Next time he "goes to his mates" ring his mate & ask to speak to him, just say his phone won't connect, see what reaction you get. Get your ducks in a row anyway as it doesn't hurt to have the security of knowing if the shit hits the fan you are financially secure. Better still tell him you want to get married & see how fast he wriggles out of it.

mumto2teenagers · 01/09/2022 12:11

There could be a number of reasons, although the app won't randomly add an address that has not been entered before, however his reaction would indicate that it was something he didn't want you knowing about and then the deleting would indicate to me cheating.

I have a number of addresses on my uber eats app, some of which DH wouldn't recognise. For example, one night when out with a friend, she wanted to order food for her daughter who was staying at her friends house, she didn't have the app so I used mine. But, if DH sees it and asks I would be able to explain.