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Take away to someone else address?

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Flowerpot101 · 31/08/2022 21:32

The other day, myself and my other half decided to order a take out Chinese from a place local but that we had from before but not for a while. The website auto saves the address and credit card similar to how just eat would. He passed me his phone to input my order, so I did then continued to checkout to find another address already on there, it’s his account, his credit card, but some one else’s full address, door number, street, post code. This address was a few estates away from us so not exactly a auto input from location services as it’s too far away, - I’d understand if it put on automatically next doors address or something. He brushed it under the carpet immediately saying “oh dunno why that’s there”
I memories the postcode and door number and obviously google mapped it to ensure it was an address. I even drove past the house, a mini parked outside, flowers in the window, so it’s actually a place.
Has he previously ordered a take away there or is this a simple technical error? Should I be worried?

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TheGirlWhoLived · 01/09/2022 09:38

It could be a one off weird thing, I had this with a Chinese takeout and their system put a random address on our order from an estate about 15 mins drive away . I rang them and they said if sometimes happens if you phone through or place an order, the system sometimes updates the connected phone/email with the person that ordered previously/ next

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 09:38

If he was playing away surely more evidence would appear. Especially if i’m looking for it? I might just say nothing for now and see what else comes up

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BaconMassive · 01/09/2022 09:39

It's going to drive you mad so you are going to google the address and see what you can find about the occupants, if that fails you are probably down to staking out the house or knocking on the door.

GreyCarpet · 01/09/2022 09:40

My ex boyfriend's address comes up on mine because I ordered food at his house once.

I come up on my friends because she ordered me for once when I was having a crap day and hadn't eaten.

It's on there because, at some point, food has been ordered to that address from his phone. It doesn't populate it with addresses used for other websites etc. Only if that address has been used on that website. Its an auto fill option for addresses previously ordered to.

An unknown address he didn't automatically have an answer for. "I don't know..." is the easiest cop out.

Order history and address now deleted.

Both suspicious as fuck.

Tdcp · 01/09/2022 09:44

Can you remember the address and stick it in google / 192.com. I'd have to see who lives there. *apologies if you've answered this, I'm in the office 😅

EleanorShellstrop28 · 01/09/2022 09:54

My husband is a software engineer/massive nerd about technology and stuff and he said he's certain that it isn't a random mistake. An app wouldn't just randomly make up and save a random address that hadn't been inputted previously.

He also did this face: 😬 When I told him that you went back on the app and it was all deleted! It really doesn't look good, OP - the deleting has confirmed it's something suspicious that he doesn't want you to know about.

Definitely dig around for more info. Don't let him know you're onto him though or he will cover his tracks!

Can you have a friend snoop on this address one Tuesday night? Wait outside in a car reading a newspaper with eyeholes cut into the top like a cartoon detective?

category12 · 01/09/2022 10:00

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 09:38

If he was playing away surely more evidence would appear. Especially if i’m looking for it? I might just say nothing for now and see what else comes up

I guess so. Having a takeaway at someone's house to me implies more familiarity than a one-nighter, maybe.

Has his behaviour changed lately? I guess if you've had food from there before but not for a while, presumably this order was made in between.

IsJohnReadyToMakeAComeback · 01/09/2022 10:06

The fact he's now deleted it is all the proof you need!!

Cosycover · 01/09/2022 10:09

OK so he's cheating 100%.
What you need now is evidence.

Do you have access to anything? Do you know his email password?

Will be interesting to see if he goes out on Tuesday.

I would try and find out who lives in that house too.

Windmillwhirl · 01/09/2022 10:13

Put the address into the 192 electoral register thing online. That will show ofvits a married couple or someone living on their own.That's what I'd do at this point because deleting previous orders is just weird.

When did he last order from there to your address? It will give you get an idea of the timeframe he ordered to the other address.

I'd play it cool as a cucumber for now as he is going to be hyper vigilant if he thinks you are still suspecting him of something.

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 10:13

EleanorShellstrop28 · 01/09/2022 09:54

My husband is a software engineer/massive nerd about technology and stuff and he said he's certain that it isn't a random mistake. An app wouldn't just randomly make up and save a random address that hadn't been inputted previously.

He also did this face: 😬 When I told him that you went back on the app and it was all deleted! It really doesn't look good, OP - the deleting has confirmed it's something suspicious that he doesn't want you to know about.

Definitely dig around for more info. Don't let him know you're onto him though or he will cover his tracks!

Can you have a friend snoop on this address one Tuesday night? Wait outside in a car reading a newspaper with eyeholes cut into the top like a cartoon detective?

Thanks for this info :)

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Cheminaufaules · 01/09/2022 10:14

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 09:38

If he was playing away surely more evidence would appear. Especially if i’m looking for it? I might just say nothing for now and see what else comes up

You might stumble across something if you're actively looking. But you will need nerves of steel to maintain this hypervigilance while at the same time acting 'normal'.
You don't have much to go on at the moment so probably best not to ask him anymore about this. Let him think that you think it was an anomaly within the app.
There's not much more you can do, short of ringing the doorbell and speaking to whoever lives there. Even that might not give you the truth anyway.
Working out when this order was placed is likely proving to be maddening for you, yes?

YoSofi · 01/09/2022 10:18

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 09:38

If he was playing away surely more evidence would appear. Especially if i’m looking for it? I might just say nothing for now and see what else comes up

How would you have more evidence if he’s so secretive with his phone and bank accounts?

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 10:18

Cheminaufaules · 01/09/2022 10:14

You might stumble across something if you're actively looking. But you will need nerves of steel to maintain this hypervigilance while at the same time acting 'normal'.
You don't have much to go on at the moment so probably best not to ask him anymore about this. Let him think that you think it was an anomaly within the app.
There's not much more you can do, short of ringing the doorbell and speaking to whoever lives there. Even that might not give you the truth anyway.
Working out when this order was placed is likely proving to be maddening for you, yes?

The order would have been placed this year definitely. We’ve had take out from there a few times throughout this year so it would certainly be within he last couple of months. I will just try to put it to the back of my mind for now I think and see if anything else pops up. I don’t have access to anything so it’s not as easy as just popping on his emails.

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CornishTiger · 01/09/2022 10:20

if you can get hold of a device with his Google account signed in try this.

Maps. Click on profile pic. Click timeline. Brings up timeline and searchable by date too.

Alternatively Search for the address. Scroll down to last visited. Brings up this.

Both can be edited /deleted but depends how good he is at covering tracks

Take away to someone else address?
girlmom21 · 01/09/2022 10:20

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 09:38

If he was playing away surely more evidence would appear. Especially if i’m looking for it? I might just say nothing for now and see what else comes up

You mean like being super secretive with all his accounts, post, phone etc like he always has been?

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 10:20

category12 · 01/09/2022 10:00

I guess so. Having a takeaway at someone's house to me implies more familiarity than a one-nighter, maybe.

Has his behaviour changed lately? I guess if you've had food from there before but not for a while, presumably this order was made in between.

Behaviour hasn’t changed no. But I have to admit, our relationship isn’t exactly great. Hence why I am suspicious.

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crowdedout · 01/09/2022 10:21

You say he gets a taxi home? Is it uber? Can you check his ride history?

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 10:23

CornishTiger · 01/09/2022 10:20

if you can get hold of a device with his Google account signed in try this.

Maps. Click on profile pic. Click timeline. Brings up timeline and searchable by date too.

Alternatively Search for the address. Scroll down to last visited. Brings up this.

Both can be edited /deleted but depends how good he is at covering tracks

Ill care this in mind! Thank you

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CornishTiger · 01/09/2022 10:24

Also you may never find the evidence you think it’ll take you make you end the relationship. Some people are highly skilled at covering tracks. Often secretive in their nature so suspicion isn’t sparked. .

Deleting Messages , photos and recycle bins.
Restricting accounts on social media so messages stay hidden til they actively look at them. ( messenger settings , privacy then restricted will show you who is restricted)

It will drive you insane. Is this good enough for you? Are you actually happy? Do you have financial independence? Work on yourself too. Don’t be his fool.

Perpop · 01/09/2022 10:26

In google maps if he has an account it tracks your travelling and you can look back on it (I use it for mileage), could you check it?

CornishTiger · 01/09/2022 10:28

If I was you one of my good friends would definitely be parking nearby to see if he arrived at that house ( in a different vehicle he didn’t know)

HappyHamsters · 01/09/2022 10:42

If your relationship isnt that great is he worth worrying about, he has deleted all that ordering history, is secretive about money , what would you do if you do dig around and find out he has been cheating.

MichaelAndEagle · 01/09/2022 10:52

If I was you I would start thinking about how/when you could leave if you have to. Do you have your own money for example?
I think its going to be hard to find more evidence. Have you a real life friend you could trust with this?

Flowerpot101 · 01/09/2022 10:54

MichaelAndEagle · 01/09/2022 10:52

If I was you I would start thinking about how/when you could leave if you have to. Do you have your own money for example?
I think its going to be hard to find more evidence. Have you a real life friend you could trust with this?

I am seriously considering just saving up and going. Without even questioning what’s going on. How closed he is with things doesn’t scream ‘I want to be a couple forever’ does it.

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